Hindu Cremation Angers US Muslims

realsomeone
By realsomeone

A decision by a US family of Bangladeshi origin to cremate their Muslim son in the Hindu tradition, not according to Islamic teachings, has angered American Muslims, reported The New York Times on Saturday, October 4.

"It is our job to bury him in the Muslim way," said Junnun Choudhury, secretary of the Jamaica Muslim Center at the New York city.

Shafayet Reja, a 22-year-old Muslim, died in a car accident last month while returning from a Ramadan iftar at Stony Brook’s Muslim Students Association.

Immediately, his Hindu mother and Muslim father decided to cremate his body in Hindu tradition.

Reja, who graduated from the State University of New York at Stony Brook in 2007, was studying to be a licensed insurance broker.

Some of Reja's close friends said that he told them about his wish to have a Muslim burial.

"It was the community’s business because the community knew he (Reja) was a Muslim," said Choudhury.

In Islam, cremation is prohibited as it is disrespectful to the dead body and Islam calls for respecting human beings whether alive or dead.

It is an obligation on Muslims as a community to ensure that every Muslim who dies is properly washed, shrouded, and buried according to the teachings of Islam.

The Muslim minority in the US is estimated between six to seven million.

Family Choice

Reja's parents insist that the burial of their son was a private issue.

"This is a family decision," Farhad, the mother, said.

"This is America."

The family says that the Muslim protest against their son's cremation was a violation of their civil rights.

"We have freedom of religion, and we have the Constitution," said the Rejas’ son Mishal, 19, who studies at Washington University in St. Louis.

"Why would they bother us? It's none of their business. Even if he was the most hard-core Muslim."

The family had turned down pleas by several American Muslims to reverse their decision to cremate the Muslim son.

Furthermore, the family filed a complaint with the Police Department's hate crimes unit alleging that some Muslims accosted them at their son's funeral and threatened to boycott and bomb their shopping center in Jackson Heights, Queens.

But Muslims, who protested against the family decision, refuted the claims.

"(We did not call for boycott, but protesting the cremation was) a social obligation and a religious obligation," said Zakaria Masud, Secretary of the Jackson Heights Bangladeshi Business Association.

Source: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?c=Article_C&cid=12217205098...

By mksingh• 12 Nov 2008 09:24
mksingh

The last rites depend on your surrounding & have evolved due to prevailing conditions. If you bury some-one in some places in India, you will find water after a little digging. They also found that sometimes buried bodies are eaten away by wild animals and insects.

You won't find wood in desert so they prefer to bury without coffin also.

By narainbabu• 12 Nov 2008 08:57
narainbabu

i will donate my body to the medical students and whatever useful organs like eyes, kidneys etc.i will donate to the needy person. i have already made the paper saying my will. and i told my parents too after my death no need of any religious prayers or anything like prayer or poojs or cremation etc. i will ask my relative to do according to the will i made

By Platao36• 11 Nov 2008 18:09
Platao36

Brit: exactly my thoughts ;)

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By britexpat• 11 Nov 2008 17:59
britexpat

Well done Nairanbabu.. A very good choice and will hopefuly help give life to many..

By Platao36• 11 Nov 2008 17:03
Platao36

good choice narain :)

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By britexpat• 27 Oct 2008 22:47
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britexpat

You are all missing one key element .. The story says ..

"Shafayet Reja, a 22-year-old Muslim, died in a car accident last month while returning from a Ramadan iftar at Stony Brook’s Muslim Students Association."

He was a practising muslim, so should be buried as a muslim..

By Platao36• 27 Oct 2008 17:57
Platao36

hahahahaahahaha! Who cares what happens to our body when you are dead? Aren't you being too materialistic?

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By Xena• 27 Oct 2008 17:54
Xena

what kind of debate is this? live and let live.... its each persons right to live and die how they choose -

Narainbabu, please don't open a whole new can of worms with your statement of "over and above no one is born in any religion." - Muslims believe we are all born into Islam and its our parents that change our religion....

"if you don't like the heat... get out of the kitchen... but stop trying to fan the flames before you leave... it will burn you on the a** as you go through the doorway...." ME

 

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By nice too nice• 27 Oct 2008 17:26
nice too nice

Narainbabu, Let me ask one thing. What do you like to do with your body after your death?

By Platao36• 27 Oct 2008 17:09
Platao36

Narainbabu: I agree, "Live and let die"

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By narainbabu• 27 Oct 2008 11:35
narainbabu

after a person died any one can tell anything he told me like this that etc. the parents will decide how to cremate their son's dead body. it is not friends. over and above no one is born in any religion. it is the society and parents give them everything. whether you create of bury or dump it is will melt with the sand. then why the hell you are raising religious arguments. whether you die muslim or hindu or christian do you know where he goes or what he do? this is only belief. you know parsi's are giving the deadbody for eagel to eat. this is their tradition. who are you to ask others right? are you next to god?

By Arien• 27 Oct 2008 11:35
Arien

I am a latecomer.. ;(

I would like to respond on the original post - - Its the parents choice, no one else has any say.

By narainbabu• 27 Oct 2008 11:29
narainbabu

who gave you passport?

By narainbabu• 27 Oct 2008 11:25
narainbabu

hey why do not going pakistan then? hindustan got its own culture?

By britexpat• 7 Oct 2008 08:15
britexpat

"Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust".. Yes, that is true for Christianity. However, it does not apply to Islam.

By taliesin• 7 Oct 2008 05:22
taliesin

No-body up for medical science then?

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By Platao36• 7 Oct 2008 00:25
Platao36

Foolish me: Bingo ;)

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By Foolish_me• 6 Oct 2008 23:22
Foolish_me

lol did you really get what platao means..... you said "A true believer is someone who does what God's exactly wants you to do" and if you follow that, isnt it the same way as what did platao said, to love one another as God love us?...

By adey• 6 Oct 2008 22:53
adey

GARRISON KEILLOR reviews 'Dying of the Light' by Julian Barnes in The New York Times.

Excepts from http://www.nytimes.com/2008/10/05/books/review/Keillor-t.html?_r=1&oref=slogin

'So Barnes turns toward the strict regime of science and here is little comfort indeed. We are all dying. Even the sun is dying. Homo sapiens is evolving toward some species that won't care about us whatsoever and our art and literature and scholarship will fall into utter oblivion. Every author will eventually become an unread author. And then humanity will die out and beetles will rule the world. A man can fear his own death but what is he anyway? Simply a mass of neurons. The brain is a lump of meat and the soul is merely "a story the brain tells itself." Individuality is an illusion. Scientists find no physical evidence of "self" — it is something we've talked ourselves into. We do not produce thoughts, thoughts produce us. "The 'I' of which we are so fond properly exists only in grammar." Stripped of the Christian narrative, we gaze out on a landscape that, while fascinating, offers nothing that one could call Hope. (Barnes refers to "American hopefulness" with particular disdain.)'

'"There is no separation between 'us' and the universe." We are simply matter, stuff. "Individualism — the triumph of free-thinking artists and scientists — has led to a state of self-awareness in which we can now view ourselves as units of genetic obedience."'

'All true so far as it goes, perhaps, but so what? Barnes is a novelist and what gives this book life and keeps the reader happily churning forward is his affection for the people who wander in and out, Grandma Scoltock in her hand-knitted cardigan reading The Daily Worker and cheering on Mao Zedong,while Grandpa watched "Songs of Praise" on television, did woodwork and raised dahlias, and killed chickens with a green metal machine screwed to the doorjam that wrung their necks. The older brother who teaches philosophy, keeps llamas and likes to wear knee breeches, buckle shoes, a brocade waistcoat. We may only be units of genetic obedience, but we do love to look at each ­other. Barnes tells us he keeps in a drawer his parents' stuff, all of it, their scrapbooks, ration cards, cricket score cards, Christmas card lists, certificates of Perfect Attendance, a photo album of 1913 entitled "Scenes From Highways & Byways," old postcards ("We arrived here safely, and, except for the ham sandwiches, we were satisfied with the journey"). The simple-minded reader savors this sweet lozenge of a detail. We don't deny the inevitability of extinction, but we can't help being fond of that postcard.'

'"Wisdom consists partly in not pretending anymore, in discarding artifice. . . . And there is something infinitely touching when an artist, in old age, takes on simplicity. . . . Showing off is part of ambition; but now that we are old, let us have the confidence to speak simply." And so he does. In this meditation on death, he brings to life, in short sure strokes, his parents, Albert and Kathleen.'

'"She lay in a small, clean room with a cross on the wall; she was indeed on a trolley, with the back of her head towards me. . . . She seemed, well, very dead: eyes closed, mouth slightly open, and more so on the left side than the right, which was just like her — she used to hang a cigarette from the right corner of her mouth and talk out of the opposite side. . . . I touched her cheek several times, then kissed her at the hairline. Was she that cold because she'd been in the freezer, or because the dead are naturally so cold? . . . 'Well done, Ma,' I told her quietly. She had, indeed, done the dying 'better' than my father. He had endured a series of strokes, his decline stretching over years; she had gone from first attack to death altogether more efficiently and speedily." In her effects he finds a full bottle of cream sherry and a birthday cake, untouched.'

"Deaths in the Bible. God - 2,270,365

not including the victims of Noah's flood, Sodom and Gomorrah, or the

many plagues, famines, fiery serpents, etc because no specific numbers

were given. Satan - 10."

By edifis• 6 Oct 2008 22:24
edifis

I prefer cremation. Why? Coz, I am not exactly a saint. So I will have to spend my time in "Johannum". And Johannum you know "Hell fire" where people are Roasted in a slow fire for ages. So if I am cremated I turn to ash and thus fire proof.

By mjamille28• 6 Oct 2008 20:11
mjamille28

lol marhabtain, keep it up... ;) did u mean my avatar, or the devilish one?

By nice too nice• 6 Oct 2008 20:08
nice too nice

Yes Plato. You need the guidance of Creator how to live. If you are a true believer then only you understand it. I don't have to do something to others to get well treatment for them. I live according to my Creator's instruction and I am happy to follow that. I dont want any 'creations' instructions.....

By marhabtain• 6 Oct 2008 20:07
marhabtain

Just trying to change what is after all a rather morbid subject! Gosh, I love your picture! Yumeeeeee! But Yippee, Yippeee, its Bombay gin for me!

By mjamille28• 6 Oct 2008 20:04
mjamille28

lol marhabtain, still on the gin i see...

By Platao36• 6 Oct 2008 20:03
Platao36

Nice to Nice: You need God's guidance to know how to live in Earth? Do Upon others what you would like them to do to you, it's as easy as this.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By marhabtain• 6 Oct 2008 20:02
marhabtain

I have one for u too, instead of an expensive marinade use Cocal Cola! Its super for tendersising meats of any kind! Yummeeeeeeeeeeeee of and Yippee, Yippeee, its Bombay gin for me!

By mjamille28• 6 Oct 2008 20:00
mjamille28

im still "for" the cremation....when my time comes, that is...

By nice too nice• 6 Oct 2008 19:59
nice too nice

If you aware about life after death....then only you will understand the requirement, else.......

By anonymous• 6 Oct 2008 19:45
anonymous

What for, nice to nice?

By nice too nice• 6 Oct 2008 19:38
nice too nice

Yes MD,He will put you back together in the end. But the religion which you practice teaches you something like how to live on earth and how to be treated when dead.

By anonymous• 6 Oct 2008 19:26
anonymous

As a physicist would say: matter cannot be created nor destroyed, only converted. So it really doesn't matter if you appear as a bunch of ashes or as a rotten body before God. He will put you back together in the end.

By Platao36• 6 Oct 2008 19:22
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Platao36

Brit: Priests usually say: From dust you came, to dust you'll return, if it's too expensive to be burried, than i prefer cremation.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By britexpat• 6 Oct 2008 18:53
britexpat

It comes down to faith and belief..If he practiced his religion, then he obviously believed in the hereafter. Thus cremation was wrong

By Foolish_me• 6 Oct 2008 18:51
Foolish_me

you are most welcome platao36 :)

it doesnt matter to me though when im dead if im being cremated or not, burn my body or let me be eaten by worm it doesnt make a difference or just let it be thrown to the sea, afterall im dead anyway!

By britexpat• 6 Oct 2008 18:40
britexpat

A valid point. Having thought about it, the key issue here seems to be that the mother was not Muslim, however, the son, since he was returning from Iftar, must have been a practicing Muslim. Therefore, he should have been buried , rather than cremated..

By Platao36• 6 Oct 2008 18:40
Platao36

Foolish: Thks 4 the reference, :)

Some folks just think they are the most beloved if they do everything exactly as it was told, i do hope i'll be cremated when the time comes.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By Foolish_me• 6 Oct 2008 18:34
Foolish_me

cremation or not its the dead's parents choice, it doesnt matter anyway if your buried or cremated what is important is the soul, where does it goes after? only God/Allah knows best like what Platao said, it is not the way we were buried that matters but its the way we have lived our life when we are still alive,I understand that we are bound by our faith and faith dictates our norms, but we should understand that ultimately when we die we are being judge the way we live our life, muslims or non muslims alike....you may have been accorded a very respectful burial but have you been very respectfull also when you are alive? does God/Allah based his judgement the way you are cremated or buried?....lol it reminds me of the well off citizens and politicians in our country...when one of their family member is dead, boy! believe me it will be the one of the most respectful, most decent burial you will ever see, as if the dead was a good citizen.

By nice too nice• 6 Oct 2008 15:45
nice too nice

Brit Expat : the marriage is not legal by islam, but the kid reverted to islam later and he was a practicisn muslim.

By Echo• 6 Oct 2008 11:30
Echo

It's up to the parents, the boy is dead he doesn't care anymore.

By heero_yuy2• 5 Oct 2008 23:24
heero_yuy2

Coz it doesn't need the law or tradition or something to make us think how to bury the dead.

Just bury the dead or cremate it.

Poor dead guy. He must be pleading on the other side to stop wasting time on my dead body...

"Everything in this book may be wrong." Illusions: The Adventures of The Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach

By britexpat• 5 Oct 2008 23:15
britexpat

is not legal. So what does that make their offspring ?

By baldrick2dogs• 5 Oct 2008 23:01
baldrick2dogs

1. Queens is not what you would call a "well off" district of NY

2. Burials cost a lot of money, Cremations do not

2.1 Land prices are high in NY ...

However (reading between the lines) the lad had conveyed his wishes to his buddies and NOT his family, and it is they who would have to pay - would his buddies stump up for the cost of the plot?

Never mind the cost of living, consider the cost of dying.

When I go, bury me at sea - I'll pay for the concrete wellies!

Did you Google it first?

By nadt• 5 Oct 2008 22:34
nadt

I agree with PM, it sad the boy didnt get his wish, but in a non islamic country, the responsibility is on the person to clarify waht he wants after his death whether its burial or inheritance. I dont think the american muslims have a right to contest the parents desciscion.

By shreeya• 5 Oct 2008 17:40
shreeya

ROFL......!!!

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By Platao36• 5 Oct 2008 17:28
Platao36

Winn: You are right, in Portugal, christians can cremate the body.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By chocolate• 5 Oct 2008 17:04
chocolate

Realsomeone- 'Fry the dead people'. Gods sake they're dead. So it doesnt matter if they fried,baked,stewed whatever.

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 16:55
Winn

Hold on guys, the title (to me)reeks of 'sensationalism'. Just because he was cremated and not buried does not mean it was done in Hindu tradition...I mean there is more than 'burning' to a Hindu cremation. There are quite a lot of places in the world where cremation is followed for various reasons...

so the question is this being called a 'Hindu Cremation' coz they followed the rituals that are associated with a Hindu funeral or is it being branded 'Hindu' jus because he was not buried but cremated?? ( If its the latter then, I would say, this title was purely intended as a sensationalist attempt by the journalist).The fact that the deceased's mom was a Hindu doesnt change anything either. Btw, 'Farhad' doesnt sound like a Hindu name...

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Lead me not into temptation....I can find it myself!!

By Platao36• 5 Oct 2008 16:49
Platao36

i understand how you fealt, RS.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 16:42
realsomeone

that is good but still i feel sad for the poor guy they exposed him to the horror i saw in India. i lived 100 meters from the place they fry the dead people.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 16:32
realsomeone

I meant the Islamic laws not US laws and of course you understand that law better then me.

and i was speaking in general a Muslim should die and be buried in Islamic way. you are right it was better if he wrote a legal wish.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By Platao36• 5 Oct 2008 15:40
Platao36

Logicsays: lol, like i say in my signature, only God/Allah can judge, who are we mere mortals to questioning God/Allah wishes? He sees all, so he'll decide if punishes or not but don't think that's important for God, the soul is what matters to God.

Only God Can Judge Me

الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي

I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer

أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ

By logicsays• 5 Oct 2008 15:26
logicsays

Hindu Cremation angers US christians or US Jews? I do wonder....!

"The best way to predict the future is to create it".

By logicsays• 5 Oct 2008 15:25
logicsays

if that was his wish before he died, why didn't he write a will to indicate this ...

"The best way to predict the future is to create it".

By Mandilulur• 5 Oct 2008 15:17
Mandilulur

I believe that the parents made a wrong decision; a decision that did not respect and acknowlege their son's faith. HOWEVER, I will defend their legal and moral right to make such a decision even if it were misguided. None of us make perfect decisions in the face of overwhelming tragedy.

Mandi

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 15:15
Winn

LOL, chocolate...I was wondering the same...!!

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Lead me not into temptation....I can find it myself!!

By hitendrab• 5 Oct 2008 15:13
hitendrab

well said...... I guess they (Reja's close friends) must have heard his wish in their dreams...

LIARS.

By corleone• 5 Oct 2008 15:10
corleone

Some of Reja's close friends said that he told them about his wish to have a Muslim burial.

what a bunch of liars. the guy was 22 years old. He didnt die of cancer. He died in a car crash. I DO NOT for one moment believe that he had discussed the manner in which he wished to be buried with his friends.

By chocolate• 5 Oct 2008 15:01
chocolate

Ahammed - " I hate them.. If it is my parent.. i dont wish to see them again"- your'e saying that after youre dead u wouldnt want to see uur parents if they did smthin like this?????????

By hitendrab• 5 Oct 2008 14:25
hitendrab

Who knows there family equation???

By smartbuddy• 5 Oct 2008 14:18
smartbuddy

What kind of father he would be a so called muslim who allowed his son to be burnt in fire against his own wish?????

By hitendrab• 5 Oct 2008 14:00
hitendrab

They have lost their son, that 2 so young,

PLEASE SPARE THEM FROM ANOTHER PAINS & let them do crimination the way, they want to do.

By smartbuddy• 5 Oct 2008 13:58
smartbuddy

Bad parents.........poor muslim fellow, May Allah rest his soul in peace.

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 13:47
anonymous

I disagree with the parents...

If it is his son or not he lived with the shade of Qur-an. He loved Qur-an and He prayed to Allah...

His wishes was to be die as a muslim...

These parent are not good with their son now..

They use his deadbody for an argumental thing.

I hate them.. If it is my parent.. i dont wish to see them again....

They are plying with their son..

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 13:46
realsomeone

chocolate if you read the article here is quote from

"Some of Reja's close friends said that he told them about his wish to have a Muslim burial."

you are right. we should help the living instead of arguing the dead. well said.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By chocolate• 5 Oct 2008 13:41
chocolate

So now we stop trying to help the living people. Instead we fight for the rights of the dead.

By chocolate• 5 Oct 2008 13:39
chocolate

May his soul rest in peace.

Realsomeone, u cannot be sure that the person wished to be buried, he didnt make any will or anything. I guess in life we can can choose our religion and maybe wish to be buried or cremated. but once we die it's just the body remaining. I dont know what happens to the soul or whatever. this body eventually becomes dust , whether buried of burnt.

Dust thou art and to dust though shall return.

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 13:21
realsomeone

PM i think its you who do not understand the laws. the parents do not choose the person;s faith. as Muslim the guy wished to live in a Muslim way and die at the same.

there is no respect for the parents in this matter since they do not respect the son's wish which is righteous and therefore you do not blindly obey your parents when they are commanding you to do evil.

i understand this is legal in the states but in Islam it isnt and the Muslim person should be washed and buried respectfully.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 12:59
anonymous

Either way it turns into dust...

and eaten by the grass...

which will be eaten by the Goat/Sheep/Buffalo....

which in turn will be eaten by us....

....Circle of Life!!!

By marhabtain• 5 Oct 2008 12:51
marhabtain

Please drop it ok!

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 12:49
anonymous

PM...you are correct....

By sajjadsa• 5 Oct 2008 12:48
sajjadsa

The faith is of the individual and not the family's.

By chocolate• 5 Oct 2008 12:20
chocolate

Maybe we should enbalm the bodies like egyptian mummies. That way no fire, no worms.

By nice too nice• 5 Oct 2008 12:15
nice too nice

So it means the soul will be on the dead body until it reaches to the fire????? And fire is used to release the sould from the body????

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 11:51
anonymous

Prior to cremation, the body is washed and anointed, the hair (and beard) is trimmed, and the corpse is given new or clean clothes. During the procession, relatives and mourners, who carry the body to the cremation ground, chant verses that invoke Yama's help. The body is then placed on a funeral pyre. The eldest son finally walks around the pyre three times, each time pouring sacred water on the deceased. He then sets fire to the wood with a torch that has been blessed. Throughout the sacred ritual, relatives and mourners chant Vedic mantras to quicken the soul's release.

Ban Spoon Feeding not Me

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:46
Winn

Loulsy: Miss you too...!! :(

Lead me not into temptation....I can find it myself!!

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:45
Winn

Ahhh...u mean the fire cackling!! Hmmm...i guess that happens when the body is not covered on top by enough fuel load...The airspaces within the body start letting out gases or something like that!! No chance of such a thing happening in a modern crematorium!!

i guess it would be too much to expect the planet to carry the load of all the coffins for years on end!!

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Lead me not into temptation....I can find it myself!!

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:40
Winn

Realsome: Based on a widely accepted belief that dead bodies are unable to do anything on the lines of screaming, i am inclined to surmise that what you witnessed was a murder, not a cremation!!(aside) Where are you, Watson, you old fool??

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By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 11:40
realsomeone

lol Winn no it wasnt a murder and yes it wasnt screaming as widely accepted scream from the mouth but the scream was coming from the other body parts.

remember when you put something on fire it makes some noise that is what i call screaming when a human body is put on fire.

I was in PUNE.

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By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 11:35
anonymous

and start delivering sermans in a strange voice :)

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By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 11:34
anonymous

Winn - Not to Forget the Body Rise to sitting position half way through Burning process. quite scarry :)

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By Loulsy• 5 Oct 2008 11:31
Loulsy

its just that I miss you so much *wink wink*

WYSIWYG

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 11:30
realsomeone

i know nothing more then the process of burying and that feels respectful the other things i saw in India was a horror movie for me.

i could hear the scream of the dead body. ja'a ja'a ja'a something something like that.

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- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:29
Winn

Charan: I am quite sure you can do that!! The question is " can the poor ghosts take it??"

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By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:27
Winn

Loulsy: *sniff* O dear!....How can you say this!! I have never felt you were far from me!! Never!!

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By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 11:21
anonymous

Especially your DRUNKEN presence ;)

I am sober enough to dig the Grave and Talked to the Ghosts at that time :)

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By janeyjaney• 5 Oct 2008 11:21
janeyjaney

haha realsomeone, do you know the process of cremation by any chance?

By Loulsy• 5 Oct 2008 11:19
Loulsy

all it takes is for a few days to pass without seeing u for me to begin thinking of dying!!! its easier to bear than being far away from You!!!! :'-(

WYSIWYG

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:16
Winn

Awww..Loulsy...dont talk about dyin n all gal...

*sniff *

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By mjamille28• 5 Oct 2008 11:14
mjamille28

agree with Loulsy,...some places, there's only like contracts on how long a burial ground can be used.. after it expires, they dig it up to make way for new "occupants"... i prefer cremation too...

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 11:13
Winn

Charan: DOnt you dare torture the poor ghosts with your presence!! Especially your DRUNKEN presence ;)

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By Loulsy• 5 Oct 2008 11:12
Loulsy

You do know dont you that in small countries where there isnt much space for burial grounds.. u pay for a lot of land to bury ur dead in and then a few months later the ppl in charge of the cemetary remove the bodies and cremate them?! just to tell you... so whether Islamic/christian/ or any other religion.. in these small countries this is gonna happen sooner or later..

At the end they are dead, ur soul is gone on its way.. whats left behind is just the "vessel" that was being used.. so what difference does it make?!

I'm a christian.. and I would like to be cremated when i die..

WYSIWYG

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 11:09
anonymous

Winn - digging n filling, no?

The process starts at around 10.00pm after couple of drinks and will be completed by around 10.00 an by manually.

Stay the whole night at the Cemetery with the companionship of all the Gousts while digging the Grave:)

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By someonenew• 5 Oct 2008 10:53
someonenew

I dont understand what the big deal is. Let the parents do as they please. As it is they lost thier son, imagine having to deal with nutcases like these.

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By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 10:49
Winn

I guess thats 'setup' and 'cooldown' time of the machine that you are talking about. I was talking about the actual burning time with high voltage. Anywys, I guess it takes still lesser time than digging n filling, no?

About throwing the ashes in river/sea, well it depends on ur belief...the crematorium can also dispose of it!

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By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 10:41
anonymous

"I might prefer those high voltage electric things, gone in a second...LOL!!"

45 minutes for burning processs and another 45 to collect the ashes. Then journey to the river or sea to throw the ashes.

Done that before :)

Ban Spoon Feeding not Me

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 10:36
realsomeone

Allah knows best.

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By Pradeepnair• 5 Oct 2008 10:32
Pradeepnair

WOW America is booming and now they have found out through MR. REALSOMEONE(PHD.ON DEADONES FEELINGS) that its painful for a dead one if he is put in fire..!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yaar it seems Mr, Realsomeone has tried it out quite a few times and at last come to an conclusion.

Its soo funny, This "Realsomeone" has got no work has time to think abt wht is wrong for the Deadones....!!!!

Its the Decision of the FAMILY and nothing is more Important than the family.

By coelacanth• 5 Oct 2008 10:27
coelacanth

If they are in a country run by Islamic law, then they have to abide by it. If they are in a country where religion is not used but instead the constitution, they have no right to imply what their religion calls for it. If their time comes, then do it in themselves. Let the family decide what they want to do with their son. They will forget the lad in a month time, so there's no difference. only the family will mourn for the dead.

It's not because things are difficult that we don't dare, it's because we don't dare that makes things difficult!

By Winn• 5 Oct 2008 10:15
Winn

I guess the modern crematorium(electric ones) are much better...flick of a switch n poof!! all that remains is a small pile of ashes!! Saves space!!

Btw, realsome they dont 'throw' the body on the fire. They place it on the funeral pyre and then light it!

I understand your anguish in this case, it must be really hard to accept a fellow believer being cremated in a way opposed by your relegion.

But just to tell you another viewpoint, some people feel that burning the body to ashes is better than leaving it for worms to eat through...ever seen a half decomposed body??

As for me, burying burning...whts the differance...I'd be dead anyway and wudnt be in a position to use the body!! On second thoughts I might prefer those high voltage electric things, gone in a second...LOL!!

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By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 10:09
realsomeone

Allah knows best. here is more information how islam views cremation http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503545494

Poverty is not for the sake of hardship. No, it is there because nothing exists but God. Poverty unlocks the door -- what a blessed key!

- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By realtorqatar• 5 Oct 2008 10:07
realtorqatar

The US Muslims are against it because, In Islam The Dead Body is supposed to be given a respectful burial in accordance with Islamic Law. If the guy is a true Muslim, He need a Respectful burial. I even think that the Christian Brothers do think the same if he was a Christian.

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By VANMOST• 5 Oct 2008 10:05
VANMOST

Well it depends on this whether he is muslim or not. If he is, he should be buried otherwise all depends upon his parents. If they did wrong, they will see the result after their death. Why are we creating issues?

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 10:03
anonymous

realsomeone, how do you know they feel the fire, have you been told by them? I wouldn't worry too much about hell cos I'm off to heaven!Wahey!

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 09:56
anonymous

It came as a shock to me too! and, if they were dead and felt the fire, who did they tell and how? mmmmm

By mjamille28• 5 Oct 2008 09:56
mjamille28

anyway, i think i would prefer cremation (when my time comes) rather than having all these yucky worms eating my dead body....

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 09:54
anonymous

Its surprise that dead people have the feeling of fire!!!!

By mjamille28• 5 Oct 2008 09:51
mjamille28

like he would even feel how painful it is,.. as nurse put it, "he's dead"... it's been done already anyway, no use being angry about it...

By Pieman• 5 Oct 2008 09:50
Pieman

Its no one's buisness except the families.

Can these people ever but out and just let others just get on with their lives

just eat another pie

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 09:50
anonymous

Technically these people are dead so they would never know!

By realsomeone• 5 Oct 2008 09:49
realsomeone

what about his wish? what if you wished to be buried in respectful way and your parents throw you into burning fire. imagine how painful is this. is this mean you dont have respect when you are dead?

in India i lived near hindu cremation center where they burned the dead. MAN! you cant imagine the horror in that place.

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- Jalaluddin al-Rumi

By anonymous• 5 Oct 2008 09:43
anonymous

Let the parents do it their way, its not as if the lad would know...he's dead!

By Snowstorm• 5 Oct 2008 09:41
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