what should i do?
By Seema Gurung •
I was living with my boss and his family. I am a divorcee. My boss has his own family and and now i am pregnent. My boss is responsible for it. I want to keep the baby and he wants to abort. I am in delimma . Please help. What should i do??/
Best way to get rid of this, to leave the country as soon as possible, no one can’t help you! So no excuse in this case.. try to convince with your BOSS in good terms and try to grab a ticket, some compensation if you are lucky.. Pray to God
sounds lik its just another crap story.........
i feel sorry for you. just follow wut these guys are saying and leave the country....even if u'r thinking of aborting the child u need to go coz here it cant be done...think twice coz its not the child's fault...coz of your frustration it has to suffer...
Madam!!
These things & difficulties u has too think 1000 times before you got pregnant illegal here in Qatar.
Because you are mature woman not a 18 years old girl or Baby girl have commit this kind of sin here,
May be u have done these because your are agree with your boss to keep this kind of secret relation.
Why you did not think first day, that you are doing wrong in an Islamic country.?
Its beyond the female limitation ,keep illegal relation with a married man like that..
Feel So sorry for your own crime….Better to leave Qatar
And contact with your relevant Embassy authority for this matter.
Thanks
Hassan
Madam!!
These things & difficulties u has too think 1000 times before you got pregnant illegal here in Qatar.
Because you are mature woman not a 18 years old girl or Baby girl have commit this kind of sin here,
May be u have done these because your are agree with your boss to keep this kind of secret relation.
Why you did not think fist day, that you are doing wrong in an Islamic country.?
Its beyond the female limitation ,keep illegal relation with a married man like that..
Feel So sorry for your own crime….Better to leave Qatar
And contact with your relevant Embassy authority for this matter.
Thanks
Hassan
Its going to be a big mess once it is visible. How long you are pregnant. If you keep staying with the family; eventually they will come to know. If its not long you need to consider abortion but if want to keep it you need to get out of here. Its not only the father how is at fault; you also share the same responsibility. Think what is important for you.
You remind me of case in Dubai, where a maid was impregnanted by her boss. The authority let her the baby but she was deported afterwards..I think you have to ask your self what you want. If you can face the music then go the authorities and tell them about your boss.
my dear friend, better go home as soon as possible before some people would notice that you are pregnant.. its a big problem here. they are right, if u want the baby u must go home. ur boss is an a--hole. call his wife. screw his life.
Yes, Hanifz, I agree that her boss owes her financial and logistical support but I am afraid that if confronted in a threatening manner he will deny the whole thing and leave her holding the bag. He could denounce her, fire her and even have her taken to jail if he feels she is a danger to him in terms of his legal or marital status.
Mandi
Yes, Mandi, I totally agree with you but that is only an option if she really wants to create problems for her Boss. Anyhow, both the Boss and pregnant women are in violation of law. She can try her best to get the considerable financial help from here boss and I believe he would be bound to consider this as this may cause him a family problem if boss's wife comes to know about this. What do you think????
Hanfiz, I don't want to be contradictory but I believe she should NOT report this to any authorities. She is pregnant and thereby has broken Qatari law, all he has to do is deny it. If she reports this, she might be the only one in legal trouble. I am hoping this can be resolved quietly and discreetly.
Mandi
I presume that you have access to internet from your place. I advise try to talk to your Boss and ask for some financial help and try to convince him that you will abort the baby and come back. If you really want to create some troubles to him, just inform the CID through your contacts.
Mandi is right. It's not just illegal to be pregnant and unmarried, it is illegal to have sex with someone who is not your spouse--pregnancy would be proof that you did just that.
In the case of any dispute the man's testimony is given twice the weight of a woman's and as we discovered recently, a woman was convicted of illicit relations with a man while that same man was acquitted of illicit relations with that same woman. However, if you are pregnant, you will probably get a suspended sentence followed by deportation. Take Mandi's advice to be careful and you should probably call your embassy.
Honey, are you OK? Are you in any physical or legal danger because of your situation? You need to make sure that you are safe and healthy before making any big decisions. That said, I don't believe that you will be able to stay in Qatar as a woman who is pregnant and unmarried. If you want to keep the baby you will need to go home in all likelihood. I'm not too sure about getting any financial help from the father either. In other countries you can ask for money from the legal system but here I don't think it's possible. Will your boss/the father send you home quietly? If you want to have the baby that would probably be the best option. But please be careful and be discreet. My understanding is that it is against the law in Qatar to be pregnant and unmarried.
Mandi