Visual versus emotional
One of the most pronounced differences between genders when it comes to issues of intimacy is arousal. Each gender has been keyed to respond to different senses. If a couple wishes to maximize feelings of closeness and intimacy, it is essential that each party understands the other’s arousal mechanism.
For men, the primary sense of arousal is physical. Seeing the figure, smelling the aroma, and touching the body of a woman is what arouses a man. When a man’s physical needs are satisfied, he is most likely to reciprocate with emotional responses.
For a woman, on the other hand, the primary sense of arousal is emotional. Feeling loved, appreciated and cared for are the underlying emotional factors that will mostly make the woman love back in return. When a woman’s emotional needs are satisfied, she is more likely to reciprocate with physical responses.
One of the biggest sources of conflict in a marriage is this simple lack of understanding. Women feel used when their husbands take advantage of them physically but ignore their emotional needs. On the other hand, men feel frustrated that their wives are so withdrawn and cold during acts of intimacy, complaining both at the quantity and quality of these acts. Both parties need to give more of what the other party wants, in order to receive back what they themselves desire.
A marriage is a give-and-take relationship. It is a two way street. You must give the best of what your partner wants in order to obtain the best of what you wish to receive. Men need to learn to be more sensitive and understanding, and women need to learn to be more physical.
Source:Yasir Qadhi (discoverulife.com)
In our lives, in any relationship and we are not even talking about here of husband and wife,even friends, or in a girl-boy relationship to understand each feelings is indeed a long time to happened...
For a husband & a wife, it is an everyday learning of each true self and finally when you find out his/her true colors, that's the first of the meaning problems will start and this is because of EXPECTATIONS...
But,whatever...as COLT put it in a few words...he likes her woman on top! :)
I think what gudone is trying to point out here is the fact that a married couple should try to understand each other's feelings ad obviously it cannot happen overnight,it takes a long time
Yes,gudone those issues of conflict between a man and his wife that you mentioned might seem simple,but they are things that can cause serious consequences and shortfalls in their married life.
And btw Yasir Qadhi is a very well-known Islamic Scholar.
I do know my dear that it is not yours, that is why I am requesting for a very short explanation :)
i want u 2 read all as its not my words... u can chek the source.....
could you pleaseeeeeeeee explain in one sentence only????
I say woman on top!!! :-P