True Story

Afrin,

In my perspective, God has realized that ur friend's love is true, but the guy is not worth for it.

So, she has been provided with an opportunity to correct her mistake.

Her decisions should be wiser from now onwards.

She should spend more time with family and friends. She should not be alone which will put her into more depression.

She should not accept the guy, if he comes back for any reason.

This is not the time to fall in another relationship. some people fall in another relationship because they feel that would help.

Is your friend is sure that her BF has left her for the reason that u mentioned in ur post?

sometimes, there might be untold reasons for the welfare of ur friend. (poor guys thinks like that too)

of course, failing in love is a biggest tragedy in life. only the victim could feel the real pain. so advising cannot help unless she wants to overcome from that.

being left by someone u love is really a terrible event that could happen to anyone especially if u feel that he's the one thingy..and i just experienced that recently (no crying now!)..what i did is help myself..pray and go out a lot with supportive friends..i got a book the secret by rhonda byrnes and i read it again and just be positive in every aspect ..there came a time when i hate to see couples, i hated music and hated men..but hey its not the end of the world..tell ur friend that he is not the last man standing on earth..its really easy to say but let her understand that she must know when the story is over, she must accept that people really change (and cheat for that matter) and most of all, just be thankful that he has been a part of her life and start picking up the pieces..learn, live and laugh..time heals all wounds and yes it will..

sounds like so many here, only using her for sex, has real girlfriend back home. leason learnt it wil make her a stronger person for her next relationship. moral to the story, dont trust men working here, they all have family back home.. sorry she got burnt, learn, move one

Spend time with her and emotionally support her by listening to her. Don't give her false hopes just let her deal with her pain. The old cliche of "time heals all" still applies.

Your friend is very lucky to know the real colour of her friend thank god for not getting in to a big trap.

I read almost coments every one feeling sad and encouraging your friend to forget but only one Phillipino member asking is your friend Pregnent,probably it is very simple matter for them and to get aborted if at all pregnent,it is like changing their dress every day to change boy friends for them.

is your friend in question from india.then she would not have a difficult time to get it out.

best is to be with her do not discuss any issue show her that you are not interested in her past.and you do not feel pity for her.

saying all that is an easy factor through words the actual use is a difficult portion would you have time to spend with her?there could be some point in time she would like to confide in someone but would that someone be around.

all this play an important fact.

always be there for her even if she is not talking to any of you guys do not bother.

please also make sure than the rest of the people around does not make gestures which she could feel that you guys are putting on a act to help her that will have a negative effect.

people at this stage are very watchful....

first you will have to get it over your head about her relation then things will move normally.

Dear Friends..

I am very thankful tat u all understood my friends problem and gave me valuable sugesstions..The main problem is that she is not getting around with us its aound two weeks she is not contacting us or she is not answering her...if i personally move on to her house also she is not speaking with us...she is very quite but normally she is a girl whom never stops speaking i am very much worried to she her numb...she always use to say staying silent is like killing herself i could better understand tat she is killing herself now...the probs is tat anyone around her knows about the realtion,so she is making herself move away from us all...

She was lucky that she got to know the cheat before she got married. Sometimes not getting what we want is a stroke of luck.

TELL your friend that man is not only one,even she love the man so much,after 2 to 3 mos.she will recover,if she's pregrant that is hard but if not it is very easy to forget.

Have your friend contact me and I will make her forget all about that scandalous scoundrel.

The best way to get over someone.. is to get under someone!!!

Im sure everyone's giving the 'Oh, im so sorry about your situation' to her.

Call me a metal music induced human being, but the last thing in my view a person in pain needs is too much pity. A informal " Dude, that really sucks" Vs. "OMG! im so SORRY!" ....you pick if you were in that situation.

You need to sympathize; not have pity on her. VERY huge difference between them. By treating the situation as normally as possible and not creating too much hype, you not only make her realize that she is probably a better person deserving much better and not the only one in that situation. Additionally, it would give her a boost that everyone around her only wants her to be strong and go ahead and try to fall in love again.....and not sit n weep.

A person in emotional pain needs nothing but company and good company. No sad as* emo personalities. Try and spend enough time with her by taking her out to the malls or whatever. Obviously, you'll get a lot of "No, I dont want to" ...but force the life outta the beast! Also, if she is an ultra sensitive person, do something as a group of friends like.... a surprise party in your house or something, a gift as a group to help her deviate the time and attention? (a cute cat or puppy usually wins the gold card for this)

Best of luck,

And rest assured, this is the nature of the beast in the middle east. Im sure anyone on QL living who has lived long enough in the middle east has lost someone they loved against their will.

Thats sad. she has reached in situvation that no1 could help her as there is nothing done officially ..

these things are very very common in qatar . you will find many same stories in Qatar Living itself if you search ..

so just tell your friend to forget about this and move on ..and be careful and choosy when she select the partner ..

The only thing she needs is to forget him and pray.. that helps to heal her wounds over that guy. It could take months or two or depend on your friend, if her holding him too long the more months will take to let him go.

Just talk to her everyday in some funny conversation,tell a funny story you know, make her laugh more often on some silly jokes. Enggaged her in keeping busy not staying in her room, join something like a aerobics on a gym , buy some good novel pocketbooks or just ask her to stroll along with you in a mall or some intersting places here.

Sometimes love can be deceiving it just happen that cheater knows how to end his ways or exit in undetect manner.

There are so many cases like this.There are also many other cases in which they are gettig married and being separated or got divorced after few weeks or months. She was only in love with that guy and she should be happy that she did not get married to the man who was not really in love with her. I am sure if they got married she would have been in deep trouble living with her boy friend and sometimes he might have even divorced her after few months or so. Now it is only a matter of being in love so let her forget what happened in the past and try to get a happy married life with someone who really love her.

It may sound difficult initially but your friend must be relieved that this cheater has shown his true colors so early. She is saved for any eventual shock in future.

Time is the best healer!!

Bytheway, Life shouldn't be dependent on only one person, one issue.

If somebody loved your friend and left the country and going to marry someone legally no one can help. It will not be good to stay for ever with this man as he is a cheater, if some one compell him and marry the family life will not be beautiful. Try to adjust with fact and forget the past and go for a new life and love your husband with utmost sincerity. Then you will feel what had happend to you was good. Anyway feel pity about your friend.