i badly need you advise
Hello Everyone.. i badly need your advise.. am so depressed and dont know what else to do..i just got married..with the person i love..the probelm was i have a job and he dont.. we tried applying for him but unfortunately until now no one hire him if there is very low salary..before we got married i already know this situation that he dont have a job, he did not finish his college but still we got married since i love him so much...what depressing me is he is now giving up because it seems no one is hiring him and wants to go back in our home country..What should i do? should i stop him, should i let him go... i dont want to loose him i so love him adn i know he also love and he just want to go home because he knows am having hard time...Please give me advise
Thank you everyone
By the way, dont take me wrong, if you have loved him so much then why you are dicussing his fate with others? You should have ask your heart for only once and it should have replied to you right away.
Hi no one...let him work for any salary for now, i have a phillipina friend who married to a guy was having not good job but bcz of love the girl had job and they married now after two yrs they have cute baby and in his job now he is supervisor has good salary and my friend at work she got promoted. so far life is good for them but they strugle last year a log. so just be strong and let him catch any job.
I dont live with example..Reather I prefer to be an example!
"The best way to predict the future is to create it".
when both of u love each other then it makes no sense to be away from each other and when he loves u better to stay and support u when u have a hard time than to leave u alone here.
and here i guess he has better chances than home country and low salary better than nothing, and being together makes it less hard to get over this hard situation and make the best u can from it.
stay together cause ur love to each other is the only solution that can make u able to handle it and get over it.
dont give up on each other and stay together face it together.
now that he is married he should think not only himself but your future as a married couple. he should be thankful both of you are here abroad where there are a lot job opportunities and I mean a lot if you just have the balls and perservance to look for one. if he goes back to your home country then what? marriage is two-way street as i read your post it seems that all considerations are for your husband not for you both. he should be patient enough to look fo a job here.
If you don't mind, what is his age group? Do you think by going back to his country will definitely secure him an employment? Be realistic, the world is facing recession now, it only means that possibility of engaging himself into employment will be very slim. Rather than you move aboout, why not stay-put and as per the earlier advises above, "swallow the biller pill" lead a moderate life and enjoy every second of it. Since you're married out of genuine love (something that everyone admires) stick by him 'thick & thin' and Insya Allah in no time he'll be able to accept the fact.
dont give up on him.... he needs your support.... finding job here in doha is not so easy at all.... try to make ads on the gulf times... its only QR50 by the way.... i tell you only few survive in a long distance love affair....
is better than not having any salary. Everybody starts from bottom and then climb the ladder of success. If you will let him go back to ur home country nothing will happen to him also. He might end up having another relationship because he will miss you!
Doha is not easy place....
there are lots of factors which has made Doha a hard place for foreigners... here is list for few of them...
1. government hard one way slavery law
2. misuse of people-specially foreigners
3. no respect for skills and qualification
4. high use of influence and lobbying from big to small companies, government... almost everywhere
5. respect & disgrace based on you passport
6. competition on illution
7. Hard and difficult rule of exit... to promote slavery and to keep hold people (foreign workers) from leaving back
8. exploitation of people.. such as overworking, no payment of salaries... physical, sexual abuse,
9. no social life... so social justice...
10. no education, people (Arabs + rest) are ignorant....
list goes on....
So what you expect..... out of such situation....
May ALLAH help Muslim to realize TRUTH before it become late...
i think i will talk to him..thank you so much,, also i will talk to him take first the low salary than nothing....thank you so much for all the help guys...you dont have any idea how much you help me...
baldrick2dog he work before as store keeper and he has qatari license..
Thank you so much for the enlightenment
dont give up.he need your support and i dont think it is agod idea to go home because his chances to find work here is more than home so try to talk with him in a nice way to stay with you here,and telhimin to give up he will find something but everything need time .
What does he do?
Did you Google it first?
swallow your pride a little bit and accept the low salary offer for awhile...have patience and dont give up...
for the meantime while he is looking for a better job.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
only 1 month....am not sure if he could get a job bak home since work on our country right now is vry hard even for people with degrees... i dont want to give on him because i still believe on him..but he is asking me since maybe he notice taht am having hard time
How long (or short have you been married?)
You could be in the adjustment period and this could be included in that. Think positive and don't show him you're also losing hope. He needs you now than ever before.
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Everything happens for a
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if he goes back to his country, he should try his best and secure a job there,...
will he find a job if he goes home?... did you two have a heart to heart talk? don't make him feel that you are giving up on him.. the key is communication and supporting him more..
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That's tragic. Since you two made the decision to get married out of love, not realizing the fact that he's jobless and he doesn't have a degree maybe it's high time you two leave the country out of love.
Seems like you can't be away from him, better to just follow him where he goes and hopefully he'll find a suitable job.