How to handle your teenage boy?

zhamad
By zhamad

Anyone can help me to suggest how to control my teenage boy who is not taking interest in his studies and hanging around with the friends and wasting a lot time? He is my eldest son and I dont know how to handle the kids in this age.

By soniya• 7 Mar 2010 16:44
soniya

Its his age thats making him to do all unwanted things..Never ever beat ur kids..It will turn them more hostile..Be calm and handle the situation carefully...take a look at the below mentioned links..I really wish that it may help u out..

http://www.mamashealth.com/relationships/undersatandingyourteenageson.asp

http://www.ehow.com/how_2066249_understand-teenage-son.html

http://www.womenrepublic.co.uk/family_pregnancy/rebellion/

http://askville.amazon.com/handle-angry-unwilling-teenage-son-17-failing-school-smartest-kids/AnswerViewer.do?requestId=8633405

By shreeya• 7 Mar 2010 15:04
Rating: 3/5
shreeya

Trust is the key. Be a silent observer and advice only of it is asked for. Don't interfere much in his life and simply never use "in our times..." expressions.

Kids this generation are quite self sufficient. They certainly know where are they heading for and what they want in their life.

Their friends can turn into their strongest support. Just give him/her space and remember again 'trust is the key'

By anonymous• 7 Mar 2010 14:58
anonymous

Sandman69, seems he does't have childrens and never mingle with them, yes, what is the mening of beat like a servent? so you are beating your servents??!!! and remember they are also humans, can you beat a servent in your country??? if someone follow this advise that child will hate their parents for ever and you will loose him. Take him for a counsilling and explain the consequences. The age of a teenger is very dangerious if no proper guidence, moral they will take all the advantages of freedom, give your chilrens freedom with control in your home more control and dicipline will have a tentency to break it.

By fanonite• 7 Mar 2010 14:32
Rating: 3/5
fanonite

Sandman69!!why on earth would someone beat their servants??? and beating one's children is the most savage thing a parent would do...

the best way to raise a responsible kid is teach them responsiblity when they are young, always draw boundaries and not let them cross the boundaries, and teach thme respect by setting an example of respecting other humans irrespective of their social status, ethnicity and relegion.

Trust me these simple rules really effective..i speak as a mother and an educator.

By fanonite• 7 Mar 2010 14:21
fanonite

the following tips that i have learnt from parenting books.

1. be firm without loosing your temper.

2. never do shaming or name calling.

3. set the boundaries and be persistant about consequences.

here is a wonderful link for more info

http://parentingteens.about.com/od/disciplin1/Discipline_and_Parenting.htm

By fanonite• 7 Mar 2010 14:20
fanonite

the following tips that i have learnt from parenting books.

1. be firm without loosing your temper.

2. never do shaming or name calling.

3. set the boundaries and be persistant about consequences.

here is a wonderful link for more info

http://parentingteens.about.com/od/disciplin1/Discipline_and_Parenting.htm

By HABIBMDH• 7 Mar 2010 14:16
HABIBMDH

THE ADVICE FROM PAUGOSH WAS EXCELLENT , ALSO GET CLOSER AND BE MORE LIKE A FRIEND TO HIM WILL HELP A LOT?

By Sandman69• 7 Mar 2010 13:27
Rating: 5/5
Sandman69

Beat him like a servant. Take away all his privildges. Give him extra household taskings. Don't allow any free personal time...... The younger siblings will be like saints to avoid this treatment when they are his age....Or you can let him be, set a precedent, and deal with it when the other childern are his age............ SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD!!!

By drmana• 7 Mar 2010 13:17
Rating: 3/5
drmana

phew.....I am having my hands full with my toddler, so I can very much understand your dilemma. Just be firm in whatever you tell him is all I can say. Remember, its not him but his hormones making him to these things :-)All the best.

By paujosh• 7 Mar 2010 13:06
Rating: 5/5
paujosh

Mr. Zhamad,

Just relax but dont ever yell your kids especially at their teenage generation the moment you get scold them the more revenge wil they act, A good example always start from our home and we as a parents is always a perfect teacher, I guess your teenage boys needs your attention try to talk with them in a nice way and explain properly the effect if they dont finish their study give them few examples from your past bad experiences, You might also need your full bonding with them and always give your time with your family, try to manage your time.

I have my the same situation as yours, me and my wife are both working but it's not an excuse we always talk and discuss for the good future of our kids,they are 2 boys my eldest is 17 and my youngest is 14 years old they also hangout with their friends but what we did instead of get scold them we joined the group but with proper limitations, remember we've been a teenager before try to look at your generation with your parents and from there you'll get an idea on how to handle your kids.

By anonymous• 7 Mar 2010 12:28
anonymous

advise him. Give him strict instruction to return back to home on time otherwise tell him will not accept you here.or punish him by arrange his marriage then he will always be at home?!!

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