Help me to choose my life partner......
Hi Friends.
I'm in great confusion regarding choosing my life partner. I was in love with Mr P from my first year of college.He was very good, We loved and cared each other so sincerely. After eight years of our divine relationship we become apart. After studies he was so concerned about getting a job and concentrated fully on building up his career. He was from a different religion. Even then I convinced my parents so that we could marry with their blessings. But at that time he shown little interest in our marriage and was worried only about his career. I remember his financial position was not good at that time. During that period my dad left us for another lady after 25 years of peaceful and happy relationship with my mom. After that invident my mom seemed very much concerned about my marriage and she never wanted me to marry a guy from a different religion. She was so adamant and stubborn in that regard that I could not convince her in any manner. After that Mr S from my religion proposed me for marriage. I informed my mom. She was also interested. That guy was 2 years younger to me but I respected him in all manner.Soon I realised that he was behind me just for my money and body. He took all those valuable in me and avoided me. Now he has come back again telling that he cant find a better girl than me, he love me and want me back in his life again. I'm not at all interested to have relationship with him again. This year January(jan3rd) one of my senior(Mr J) in higher secondary, called me after 8 years. We talked for hours.We have never met each other after leaving school. He was the most disciplined and respected guy of my school and very studious. I always admired him. Financially he was very bad at that time so I helped him in all possible ways. When we were in school once he proposed me for my kind heartedness. But I didnt accept his proposal because I was too young to take a decision about life partner. Now he has got a wonderful job and is working abroad. He was in love with another girl during his college days and it continued for eight long years. He narrated the whole story of how he loved her and each incident that happened in their life as if telling to a best friend. Now they are apart because that girl ditched him for another guy and went to UK for higher studies. Now he proposed me again to have a life with him. I told him everything that happened in my life also. To be frank, I love him alot and wish to have a life with him.But the problem is that he is from a different religion. My mom is not going to accept our relationship due to the religion issues. Now my mom has started for looking marriage proposal for me. Please advice me what should I do? Whom Should I accept as my life partner because I cant accept any other guy in my life.
Hope you will understand my situation and help me with a best solution....
before marriage life love is sweets............ but after marriage life become MAD............
hi,
first and foremost you stand-by by your decision and preference in life afer all its YOU who will be with your lifetime partner and not your mother...although your mother will take a role but not as adecision maker but to guide you because mother only wants best for her child.
i will give few hints/guide how to chose your partner although this is not 100% success formula but reather just a guide;
- he should be GOD Fearing man.
- seeing from outside manisfestation is not enough because a good man, virtues and good deeds comes from an inner self.
- religion is not an ISSUE there are many successful marriages with an interfaith background , but i would highly suggest if you prefer of the same religion.
-a guy who konws how to say sorry in t he event he makes mistakes.
-shows utmost respect , never boastful ,and never proud.
god bless u
After Reading your story ....it say that you dont love any of them nor ur Mr. p, j, s, etc etc loved you ...love happens only once and rest is just life ....
Do what ever your Mom say accept the decission of your Mom then you see you will be happy in ur life.....and the next Importent thing never ever revel about your past to ur partner, by not reveling it does'nt mean that u are cheating to ur partner....it only mean that u are not hearting him by telling ur past,,,if u revel then ur relationship will be like Britania 50%50 Ting ting Tding........ Wether its Men or Women he or she dosnt like the second person in relationship.......if i say more then u will forget what Love means.......
please dont make girls hurt and dont use her for ur external satisfication.
please love and care truly
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PLease never hurt parents
u cant replace mother love and care with anything ..
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@if her proposed boys seeng this one
please ntoe that never make girls hurt....... be in respect and be good to women
In my opinion, you should tell ur mother frankly what is going on and take her advice coz 100% she knows u better than us and if u realy love (Mr J) then u can try to convince your mother about the religion issue.
1. if ur muslim stay in same.
2. you r saying all guys are good that showing u seeking for a love and to be loved
3. Dont marry again whose know about ur financial and u r family status. may be they need only money and u r body.
4. if you need details about what us love and how wil get true love u may mail me.
5. dont beleive 100% everything, look and think +ve and -ve about him. u wil get answer
You should marry a filthy rich guy from your religion. Problem solved. Nothing else matters. Love will come later, or not. You can always divorce again.
I think as a daughter, u should make ur parents happy..:-), in case if u can't forget the guy whom you love...Try to convert him to ur religion (Hope you are Muslim).
Furthermore, think twice before you decide...which should be good for u, ur parents and ur kids too in future...:-)
Advance Wishes...