controlling anger

thnx everybody for your support..............

is the cuban shotputter still there Brit?

Remember - the way you react is what the kid is gonna be.

lol brit, trying to help the husband brigade as usual.

Everytime you feel anger coming on , look at your sweet husband, who is working hard to earn an honest crust and instead of shouting, make love to him to get rid of the tension.

I found out recently that a relation of mine's wife just gave birth to a terribly deformed child..you know the kind who can't do anything..paralyzed.. its their first child. When my daughter acts all naughty or blabbers non stop I pause to remember the blessing I have of a fit and able child, Alhamdullilah. I must admit I definitely have anger management issues at times, but again, Alhamdullilah, with time its gotten easier. and her starting school has too made things better. Perhaps you'll find it easier too once he starts schooling. By the time he gets home the kiddo will be too tired to do much mischief, Inshallah =D

Cherish these moments.. The frustration you will now is nothing compared to what you will feel once they grow up a bit more ;)

Each time my kids do sumthin that makes me angry, I tell myself that this is just a phase. They will grow up eventually , then i will miss all this kiddie mischief. Also ur kid does these things, becoz he can and is intelligent and physically fit to do it.Learn to enjoy these things and smile at his mischief.

We all get angry and frustrated, but that doesn't mean that we should take it out on our loved ones..

Your son, may be hyper active like many others. Try and get someone to help you address this issue..

spen more time with him. dont run around trying to feed him which is a bad habit that you are teaching the kid.

With my small 3 years old daughter.Did u ever thought if you kid is having same mind like u?start empathy not sympathy.Just behave with him like a friend not a rude mother...Have a nice day...

Everytime your son is asleep, take a moment to relax your mind and think about the good things and all the blessings that you have in your life. Having an energetic, healthy & bubbly kid, having a comfortable life, having a responsible husband. And think about those who have a sickly child, those who are poor and barely have anything to eat, those whose husbands are jobless. Sometimes it just takes a few seconds to appreciate what we have and enjoy it.

good u realize, and also shows that u love them soo much...this pain that u fell, itself is the beginning which will help you control your anger towards them...

Whenever u get angry at them next, remember " u love them " and they r yours...

Well if your kid is naughty thats ur biggest fault, kids' manners come out of their moms :) try to change him. p.s beating him up will increase his naughty-level :D

Just breathe...

If things get tough, just close your eyes and imagine yourself inhaling positive energies and exhale slowly releasing negative thoughts...

there are lots of books and videos on how to discipline and manage your patience.

Hope this helps...

you are welcome to pm me

Anger is awful it takes all your energy and self-esteem and its a vicious circle. I admire you for recognising it and wanting to change the situation. Its the first step and with determination and intelligence you will resolve this.

WK

apparently she's experiencing first time motherhood.

thnx oryx....i'll keep ur advice..........

Well there is an excellent book about Anger by Thich Nhat Hanh. Basically you have to keep asking yourself why are you angry. Until you really no why and drill down to the root problem then you can't fix it.

Maybe you are low in iron in your blood?

Maybe you would really like to go to work?

I don't know. You are angry because you are not happy...but why?

Have you thought of putting your child in a kindergarden a few mornings a week to give yourself a break?

anyway you can google the above author.

first evn i liked naughty kidss.....but after all those tiring work at home(cooking,cleaning,bathing kid, running behind him to gv fud, nd my lil part time job at home whn he sleeps)...n the evening i feel soo tired whn again the house goes upside-down....

A naughty kid is good.. Kids should be naughty, why does that anger you