Wedding in Qatar

Dear tinkerbell10, thank you for your answer. I do not want to let down wife & kids because I am a responsible guy...I know that financially it will be something big...On the other hand, I can't imagine not to go with my chinese girlfriend...she said that maybe we should stay bestfriends because she does not want to hurt my family...My feeling now is that I want more than just bestfriend with her and I dont want to see the dream fades away...This is very tough times for me...

It is true I need luck and courage to face the situation...

No, I did not tell my family because I need more time to sort everything out...I am going to Canada for 2 weeks soon; so I will see how I feel and maybe I will get answers there...

Xena, thank God you voice out the virus that's been surrounding QL nowadays. (hijack, fooling around, making all jokes w the post and TS)

Well, watcher, i agree with Brit.

You should be able to sort out the issue first with your family before thinking of marriage.

You have a complicated situation.

My friend had a Canadian bf who, same w u, have common law wife and 2 children. But this guy, told my friend, he will never get married because of Canadian laws. Dont know exactly what was that. So my friend left him coz she felt the relationship is useless.

Xena said it right, to check w your embassy. As there might be a law that prohibits you due to your common law wife and children, or it may be very difficult for you in terms of financial support.

Well goodluck.

Have you already told your family in Canada about this ? If not, then perhaps, firstly you should sort that issue out..

Looks strange to you but I fell in love very strongly with her...Very strong feeling and I can't help it...I do admit I'm in deep trouble now...God help me !

not yet Whyteknight...

I understand your point...believe me this is not easy for me...I really fell in love..very strong feeling so I am not decided yet...I was just looking for answers just in case...

No, I am sane...Many people in Canada are in this situation...very normal.

No

Thank you Xena, you are right: after 99 replys yours is the most useful...I will check with Canadian embassy. I know well all the consequences if I choose to go with my chinese girlfriend...I can assure you I never thought to fall in love at 45...I can't help it, the feeling is really strong...I have to think very seriously about it.

sure there is some legitimacy to your claim... as far as I am aware, if there is no marriage certificate, there is no claim....

In South Africa, a common law wife of more than 5years is rightfully entitled to a "divorce" estate, but thats it... no marriage certificate, no court divorce since there was no legal paper stating marriage. Complicated I know.. but this guy has stated he wasn't married to the lady... and its unfair that everyone just jumps on the bandwagon and starts to criticise without knowing the facts...

He and his partner could have been apart many years... she might even be contemplating marriage to someone else... I just wonder when QL became a site for the righteous and judgemental and ceased to be the helpful site it once was...

Not one person gave him any kind of decent answer except for me... now out of 99 posts, thats really bad odds!

Actually, Xena, in some places "common-law" marriage means just that - a legal marriage. It depends on the jurisdiction. He may need to check and see if he is really married according to the laws of Canada befoe diving into another one!

Mandi

in Western countries, and UKEng.. I am surprised you don't know this terminology, a Common Law wife means he lived with someone (for years) without marrying her and as he stated he has kids with her...

For goodness sake, all he asked was if he could marry someone he has met...

WK where are you? This is a love forum thing... don't you know that there are many issues like this... someone doesnt marry someone they are with for years, break up and then they meet the person they do want to marry soon after... where have you all been?

Watcher.... the best thing is to go to you embassies and see if they will marry you... some will, but some won't unless you are both the same nationality, example, the South African embassy will only perform a marriage if you are both South African....

Otherwise, go and get married somewhere else and return to where you want to be... here or in Dubai...

Heaven help any of you guys who discover your marriage or common law marriage is no longer what you want it to be, decide to leave your "spouse" and then meet someone else... these things happen!

Love is a Word that any one can say I love you this,

some folks use this word for many reasons .

But do we know what love is .

You can only LOVE when you Put the Word to action .

hope he knows what he is doing cause remember the children

they need their father.

I was talking about ARMPITS! LOL!

Lol!

Colt..the question posed by OP is how to get married.. and not whether to get married...and then where to get married...Dubai or Qatar...you didnt answer any...so your comments didn't help OP...:)

Lol!

Ice that hurt... :(

If anybody else had said that then no problem ...but you :-(

Looks like I have to buy myself a big bucket of Icecream :(

Lol happygolucky.... good point...

I am in same situation every night!

Then I wake up..:(

go on and marry her. Just don't return if you find some hidden damages?

advice..if you are marrying chinese...make a pre-nuptial agreement!

I have been thru the same situation :-( now don't ask me what I chose? :-P

Chinese were never really my type until my recent visit to Beijing ;-)

so how did you manage the situation Happy..Must have been really difficult for you?..lol

Uk, you'd know my answer to that :)

Anyways, I am out.

Did any of the ones who posted so far on this thread have gone through the same situation...if I read correctly and completely OP asked for help from persons who went through the same situation...:)

Tinker/Ice/Jacko..can you go and discuss your personal issues on PM..lol

My man Watcher has real life changing decision to make. So you want him to marry his new love chinese friend or want him to go back to his Kids and the mother of his kids!

Please comment.

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Yes..I was referring to your kind of personal problems....This is a public forum so maintain some decorum. :)

Ok to the poster.

Go for it man.. But do test drive it properly even get it fully checked out before you commit..

Good luck! and dont forget to invite us to the wedding.:0)

Ice Ice babe... its Watcher's personal issues... lol

Personal issues can be discussed in PM's , Jack.

Ice we are discussing personal issues here... if you can read between the lines...lol

Busy Ha WK..Now what has kept you Busy young Boy.. Work or working out on a few things or two..grrrr

ok Ice you are excused..next please!

Busy with work tinker..

Love isn't about sex just fyi

Excuse me guys...please dont turn this post also into one of your "disgusting" hijacks.

Pussycat, pussycat, where have you been?

I've been to London to visit the Queen

you're hurting a lot here in QL! Lol!

where has the poster gone?

Oryx.. the middleast with all its middle age (young) men must be in paradise with all these asian beauties falling for them left right and centre.

So I blame the middleast culture for allowing middle age men and young girls to their country for this to happen.

If there is no spark there shall be no fire..:)

Tinker you are what? The Police of QL?...lol

Ice...its difficult thinking with two heads...lol

There were a few Chinese girls who loved me in Dubai :(

Oh I miss them :(

tinkerbell ...behind a oldie man's pockets are ...Moobs

Yes, REAL love does exoist and young girls can really love older men.

But some men are loooooooved for their bank balance, or the little coloured booklet. Hope this guys thinks with his head and not with his......

I guess the guy's blood circulation only flows south leaving his brain starved of oxygen.

So do you think the chick wants to take him home to China? or would she suffer for her man and get a Canadian passport?

naughty jack..naughty boy

UK... behind the girl's top pocket? ...are boobs...lol

Shame on your Jack..Real love does exist. It hides in a place just behind the pocket..

Pocket of your shirt not your trousers..:)

Tinker I got it from a blog... lol

don't look the Ramada parking way, their make-up is two-inches thick already! Lol!

For Guys love=sex...

Ice Maiden I bet she is half his age. No wonder young gilrs like older man and vice versa..:)

Love or lust??? Btw how old is this Chinese girl?

Oryx accidents do happen!. there are many young filipinas here in Qatar who are single and have children back home!

I guess in Canada (and west in general) one has to stay with someone for many years and have kids only to realise that he did not love her and yet one can meet a young asian girl in the middleast and fall for her. Love changes with life?

Lol Oryx... you got a point there...

meant a live-in partner (not married).

but u r an ass...The marriage was by law...but the Kids were the outcome of u r pleasure...

I agree to oryx. Why you want to marry your friend. That's unfair.

Am I stupid? Am i missing something here..... because I dont understand.

I thought you married the person who is the mother of your children.

Does the mother know?

Do the children?

the guts to shout it here on-board! I don't wanna pass judgment to this guy!

oryx its love?..lol

You want to marry your 'friend'? but not your common in law wife - the mother of your children?

Lol Tinker...

Where did you meet here in Al Ain Palace Hotel Abu Dhabi?

common-law-wife!

he has a common law wife and kids in Canada

he's NOT MARRIED so he can't be liable for bigamy charge. But let his conscience dictates his actions. I just hope that he do intends to marry this Chinese because of love and not because he is afraid to be caught living-in together which is haram here in ME!

hi colty morning :)

What is he's Muslim? Then he's allowed to have a second wife!

FS... no license has been issued to marry in Ramada Parking... only to celebrate Honeymoon :(

is she good in Kung Fu ? :(

How are we this morning? ;-)

Will you open a DECENT Chinese restaurant if she comes here to live with you? :-P

@ FS ...he'll won't have to look around for bridemaids for his wife.

colty don't give him ideas lol

It should be done in Ramada Parking!!

A stringent requirement under Canada's bigamy law in which the Crown has to prove the man had left the country with "the intent" to take a second wife.

If your 1st wife can't prove that, then you're a free man :-)

watcher, ask wayne rooney

Colt45 it's bigamy only if the other wife knows. One here , one in Canada. He'll just shunt between the two.

As for the Chinese girl, once he finishes his use-by date, or she gets her precious Canadian passport, she'll kick him out the door.

The question is redundant now, the Chinese girl in Dubai has moved on ;o)

he has never been married but has a common law wife, are you nuts watcher? :O

What about your common law wife and kids? Will you show them the door now?

I'm sure you heard of Bigamy... I don't think Canada allows that!

Colt u fool, he is Serious !

if he is not why do u think he has posted this ? :(

Now answer him SERIOUSLY ? :)

tell me you're kidding right?

Is it legal in your country to have a second wife?