Unfaithful husband
By rajah_park •
if u found out that ur husband is having an affair, will u still consider him as a faithful husband?
if u found out that ur husband is having an affair, will u still consider him as a faithful husband?
so what's the prob?
Respect each opinions... whether it's good or not... as members, we are entitled to it unless I'm throwing nasty words... am i right? if not....it's up to u or
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"BRING IT ON DUDE!!!"
Why is it being generalised for Philipino hubbys? Are there lot of distress calls by Phili wives???
The other question is : has the initiator of the post clarified why she thinks her hubby to be unfaithful? She just throws a casual query & people jump in to clarify, respond, suggest, argue & what not?
Infidelity is an interesting subject no doubt, but marriage is a personal affair, isn't it?
lmao!!
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so that no one will answer... nyahahahahaha
Well.... nyahahahahahha again!
"BRING IT ON DUDE!!!"
then don`t answer my question!!!!
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no, don't consider him as a faithfull husband anymore, just think of him as a good husband who wants to share his love to few other in need of attention married women.
nice 1st comment qatarsun, bullseye
TREAT EVERYONE WITH POLITENESS ( Husband too)
EVEN THOSE WHO ARE RUDE TO YOU, NOT BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT NICE
BUT BECAUSE YOU ARE NICE........ ......... .......
Just move on !!!! I am amazed at how people give that advise to women with problems as if it is just an easy obvious solution which dumb women are not able to take. Do you think she might not have considered taking the decision herself? Duh huh !!!! Why don't you just move on --- this statement puts all the onus on the woman and take away the focus and blame from the man. It takes a lot of strength for a woman to break away from an abusive situation like this. Someone should be there by her side to help her come out of it. I have helped women in abusive situation and I know 'moving on' this advice is just not the solution.
Barq : I am not sure what you are talking about. I am talking about a female colleague not a male colleague.
hahaha.. Rajah... u know the answer urself. I think u r not that stupid to realize by now if he is faithful or not. My next question is.. if u still trust him? If not, then its time for you to move on. Otherwise, ur a masochist.
I think you are just looking for excuses to 'stay' with him. ou know the answer perfectly well yourself.
There are NO excuses for cheating... if you want to stay married.
I hope it was't me
A House Divided Against Itself Cannot Stand:
Not a positve solution>>>>>>>>
The question is that why he is diverted to hang around with other women, and why the other women like to have an affiar with him, your qustion did not justify for one Gender, what about wife is not faithful....:-) :-)
A House Divided Against Itself Cannot Stand:
I like your thinking .....:o)
its better to stay with a dog than an unfaithful husband,atleast they are more faithful.
rajah park just consider yourself geographically divorced.
There is a difference.. she is a faithful lady wanting to save her marriage.. he's a low life..
Monkey sees monkey does
So just do as he is doing
and see the response I am sure there are some responses.
If he's cheating on you then show him the door... simple... he would never accept you cheating so why should you... and for all those "idiots" who are telling you its a normal thing as a guy, I think they are talking a lot of BS...when you marry you marry with the aim of staying together... if you cannot keep it in your pants (Guys)or gals then separate and go your own ways... Being unfaithful is something that no matter how many times you say you will forgive never happens... its there in your mind forever and eats away at you.....
my answer in NO, you hug him and give lot of love so he never do/think that mistake.only way is that think....
"Helping HANDS r better than praying LIPS"
thats ur opinion..for me its never silly to ask such question like this when u know that sometimes we need some advise..ur culture our culture is different when its comes to marriage we don`t give up that easily.. as long as we could keep the marriage.. this things happen to me its not a joke or what.. i just need some advise and m taking my time to think rather than decide and regret later..
I think Harry was being flippant..
If Rajah Park is silly enough to ask such a question then He/ She deserves a flippant answer..
I prsonally think that this is a troll having fun at our expense.. There have been too many similar threads from so called Filipinas lately..
harry, if you wouldn't consider that as unfaithfulness, then does that mean rajah should just put a poker face, and wait until he stops philandering or hop from one woman to another? stand up for yourself and your kids. you might lose respect for yourself. don't ever let that happen to you.
harry, are you the husband?
Life's a bitch and then you DIE! ;)
Please don't consider him unfaithful..
just allow him to continue screwing around and be a good wife.
still alot of husband out there not yet caught by there housewife, maybe we can get some tips from them, hahaha...
hahahaha ...
I was kidding ... lol ... ppl r taking stuff really seriously ..
and my wife is so precious to me .. weather she will take 70% or not .. i wouldn't do that .. cuz I LOVE HER ..
it just remind me with a joke of 2 couples were living happily and calmy for more over than 30 yrs ..
ppl wanted to know the reason of their happiness ..
the guy said in our honey moon we went for horse riding .. her horse was little bit naughty and it let her fall ... she looked at the horse and she said "This is ur 1st"
another time the horse fell her gain .. she said "and that would be the 2nd"
In the 3rd time she pop up her gun and hit the horse in the head saying "that was ur 3rd"
so I shouted at her "What the F*** u did, u just killed the horse"
she replied "This is ur 1st"
after that they lived so happy for how many years ..
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Slow moving is one of the best
Don't try don't know.
Ues too many try and error
70 % of all
OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Do I have to stop at 70 %?
Rajah, u may cry a river over the situation, but my dear, u've gotta be strong. This thing (sadly) happens whether he's assigned to work there or in ME.
U said u've talked 2 the girl and could'nt do anything... well u better do sumthing while u cry girl! crying isn't always a sign of defeat... Once he comes back home, show him how faithfull you've been opposed to what he has done, if this wont make him realize his mistake and rectified his misdoings, then by all means -dejar que se vaya, termine!
-easier said than done eh? yes it is but if worst comes to worst - why settle to an UNFAITHFULL husband when you deserve much better, i dont mean u get even with him by doing *** let him realize what a LOSER he is for messing up ur family...!!
"...Remember, the shadows are just as important as the light..."
It's true.. Apparently, If we keep it in too long , our ear drums burst..
Liliachalmers: IMHO There is no reason for such infidelity. If he really really needs to "unburden" himself, then he should go to the |Ramada like the rest of us..
SF25( hai how are you?)
If he have an offer then he is a unfaithful huband only.
But what is your innermost feeling would like to leave him? And plan yourself to meet out your day to day life economically.If you are self employed take decision boldely.
rajah it depends on HOW you found out!, is it thru your own knowledge, or just a message from your friend, or your relatives gave you that information.
sometimes it is very deceiving when things came up into our minds. Here is a classic sample..
The Boss and the Secretary..
One day the two of them drove to the Hotel, someone saw them while entering into the hotel, after an hour, the two left the Hotel. This witness spread the news that the two have an affair, they went to the hotel to release their desire. (Take note the witness wasn't sure what really happen inside the hotel)
The truth is, The Boss and the Secretary went to the Hotel to talk to the Manager of how they can promote their company with the help of the Hotel.
for the meantime just trust your husband.. he maybe unfaithful as what they say but still he is your husband and the father to your kids.
RACHE ist Bergwerk saith der Lord
Men don't HAVE to ejaculate each month!! Who in the world fed you that line of BS???!!! There is no health reason for this "need".
Men and women's sex drives are basically the same..its how its dealt with that's different. You are giving the male the excuse to go find someone to have sex with because he "needs" to??? Get real!!
There is no biological requirement for that. And even if there was, they can always give THEMSELVES a helping hand..they don't have to go looking for a woman to have an affair with. Geez...get real..
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the main difference between a dog and man.
-Mark Twain-
just because he is here and you are there, is no reason to accept his unfaithfulness. Just like him, you are alone...have you cheated on him? My guess is no. You have to make the decision as to what you can live with and what you can't. Don't just take it because he's a man...be a woman and have respect enough for yourself and do what is right for you and children. When he returns, have him get tested for any and all sexually transmitted diseases before you let him back in the house because if he has them, so will you if you let him back in your bed.
If you pick up a starving dog and make him prosperous, he will not bite you; that is the main difference between a dog and man.
-Mark Twain-
as part of conjugal rights. But don't mess with your (Filipina) wife as you might wake up aping "MR. BOBBIT" the morning he woke out missing his twinkie....lol
well! as for me...
my husband is so faithfull
GANDA KO KAYA!!!
He is absolutely UNFAITHFUL. I wouldn't blame him alone, I believe that it takes two to tango. If there are no women/men who go for married man/woman, then there will be no unfaithful husbands and wives. Let him realize that he made a mistake and how hurt u are for that. Be outspoken. Express what u feel but be ready for any decisions that both of u will take.
yes we did.. and he just said that i`ll wait `til he be back here and talk everything.. so i guess thats the only thing i do for now, just wait... and we never talk that much for now... m still crying `til now,sad but i have to face the truth...
Reason ?
The guy is here.. she's there ..
he's thinking with his penis... having a good time
It's a sad pactice to cheat on a loving partner.Rajah,.. did u spk wit ur husband on the matter?decide to stay or leave after hearing his reason[pathetic, though]for the affair
FranElizabeth, just for curiosity sake, did you let her husband know ? I ask because I was in a similar situation. Only it was my friend/colleague. She used to have fun while her family/husabnd thought she was with me / busy in a business meeting. Whenever her husband called to inquire I had to lie (as she asked me to before leaving with her BF). I thought it was'nt my business to interfere in her private affair - but once her husband asked me directly if there is another man in her life and I had to lie. She is no more a friend but I carry a guilt because I know her husband really cared for her and looked after the kids in her absence.
it doesn't matter if your wife tell you such. If you don't wanna have an affair, you just don't. Respect your wife as you respect yourself. Treathening is not the cure for cheating or lying or whatever!
"so wag kang nega! BIXOXA!!"
If you are like my wife your husband wouldn't think about another affair ...
My wife is telling me that i'm free to have another wife or an affair BUT she will get 70% from everything i have .. Including my ....... Oucchhhhhhh .. it hurts.. lol ..
How the Heck u gonna consider him faithful ????????
Get ur 70% of ALL
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faithful - truthful, loyal, or true (to you).
As for relationships broken caused by being away w/ each other, only your guilt of conscience can help you realized that. It's a matter of choosing your own destiny.
its very sad reading about the number of such cases in the Filipino community..Poor wife in home country whilst the guy has a mistress here. The embassy should help in these matters..
so no comment for this topic...
cheating is betrayal
betrayal is murder..
dont have a forgiving heart for that kind!
"so wag kang nega! BIXOXA!!"
The fire of love during courting time have burn out. Thats the problem. If yesterday was all the curves, today its bend out of shapes. Now who is to be blame. Can both parties say, ok you have an affair, I will have mine in return. A win-Win situation. The bottom line is we are back home each night in one bed, as husband & wife.
WHAT???
If you don't call him UNFAITHFUL after finding out he's having an affair, what is he then???
A generous and loving husband?
Life's a bitch and then you DIE! ;)
was having an affair when she was here, probably lots of them.. and her hubby was at home looking after the kids. She met him in church as she was so devoted to her religion and ethics.
My point is that cheating is cheating, whatever the circumstance.. you've either got a marriage, or you shut up about it and have a business contract.
Lol, QS. I tend to believe you.
it's even not about MYSELF, MD!
I am just typing whatever crosses my not too clear tonight mind... nothing personal, no worries....
since it's blah-blah-blah thread (what else?), I am singing in unison with everybody: BLAAAH-BLAAAH-BLAAAH..
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Oliver Wendell Holmes
Sorry. Too quick off the mark there:)
"and I hate "slow moving" anyway...it makes me feel sleepy anyway". QS, my friend, you are giving too many details about yourself.
really, bluemountain?? I never noticed it... :):)
and hey, do you think that's why a girl prefers a married man? because all she needs is that he knows "where to start, what to do and how to come.. ops sorry, to finish everything"?..
and I hate "slow moving" anyway...it makes me feel sleepy
anyway.. just a next stupid thread...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
There you got it, QS. Bluemountain is an expert, too.
I am answering qatarisun's question.
Married men know where to start, what to do, when is time to do, slow moving, don't rush, patient, etc in everything.
Single guy doesn't have those experiences.
and why is that, FE?
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Easier said than done.. She's in the Philipines and probably dependent on him for support..
DP
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
Leave him.
I am very calm MD..and I know what does he mean.... but who said, the married man is a sex expert???..lol..
I would probably say it's other way around..
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
it came out of my nose.....lol
rajah,,i know the best thing to do is to castrate your philandering husband so he could longer do anyone harm.
and the part you castrated well,,,you can always show it to him when you catch him glancing at other women....
But I think you know the answer to this question -- or at least I hope you do. He is not a faithful husband.
I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM
He means "Sex Expert", QS. Calm down.
yes i know,and i talk to the girl already.. sadly i couldn`t do anything..
experienced in WHAT??? in having affairs?
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
shoe, I am sure she has all the same.. but MUCH CLOSER...no need to fly to phillipines every time..
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
qatarisun....may be these girls(going with married rather than single guys) think an experienced person is better than a non-experienced.....we still hav to know the exact reason
you cannot do anything...
does he know that you know about his affair?
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
with your q......
since fidelity is an issue here,ask him straight in the what the other woman has that you dnt have?
lol.. PM.. this combination is pretty much understandable and quite often in real life...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
right now we haven`t talk seriuosly for almost 1 month... i just really don`t know what to do. m here in the philippines and its really so unfair on my side
The poor guy is just stressed with work and home, so he goes screws someone to take his mind off things. obviously the other woman is the guilty party since she must have led him on and seduced him..
I think that's what she means ...
understand?
I refuse to drink the kool-aid! -- PM
Yes. He just need a break. But not for a lady.
i don`t know...
I would consider him a two timing unfaithful low life who doesn't deserve my respect or my love..
But that's just me :o)
sorry for asking this silly question, but again.. why is that philippino husbands are constantly having affairs in Doha??
no wondering, other guys are complaining, there are NO single (available) girls in Qatar.. they are all taken by philipino somebody's husbands.. :):)...
now.. why GIRLS in Doha are going with the married men, since there are hundreds single guys around?.. THIS IS THE QUESTION!
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
He may not be faithful, but still a husband, or?
since he is having an affair, how can you consider him FAITHFUL???..lol...
another question, whould you still consider him HUSBAND? well, it depends...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
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NO!