a story of an undying love
hope eveyone can learn something from this story.
Dear friends,
At this time last year, I was also an excited bride-to-be. My husband and I were keen on looking for ways to make sure that we will have the wedding of our dreams may it be by attending as much bridal fairs as we can, going to mall on weekends and being as much hands-on as we can. We succeeded. On August 8, 2008, my husband and I were married in Cathedral and it was the happiest day in our lives. After the wedding, we moved to an apartment immediately and experienced the independent and carefree life of a newlywed couple. We traveled, went to malls and enjoyed life’s simple pleasures like cuddling on DVD nights or doing the grocery on payday or eating burger at midnight or doing the house chores while playing loud music.
But everything crashed on May 1 this year. Eight months through our marriage, my husband had a heart attack while swimming during our company outing. There was no premonition. We really didn’t expect it. Although he had a family history of heart conditions, he was so fit and healthy. I couldn’t find words to describe what I feel - anger, pain, guilt…. He passed away at the time when we were so in love and had so much hope for the future. We didn’t even have the chance to have kids together. I am still in pain. I am still grieving. I have my good days when I can appreciate the blessings in spite of the tragedy. But most of the time I have my bad days when I feel like tearing my hair out and just cry myself to sleep. It is especially difficult now because our first wedding anniversary is coming up. I keep remembering how my husband and I would talk about how we would spend it and where we would travel to celebrate it. Thinking about that day really scares me.
But I am writing not to paint a grim picture of my life. I am sharing this because I would like to point out five lessons in our love story which hopefully would do some good for married couples, even future ones too.
Never waste your time with petty quarrels - Although our married life was happy, we were not a perfect couple. We also have our petty quarrels like tampuhan over who would prepare our meal or for not being able to text at the right time or for being 30 minutes late. We’d not talk for some time until during the wee hours in the morning when we were both in bed then he would reach out and hug me then say, “bati na tayo.” Oh how I wish I could bring back the time and not even bother with these petty things. Never ever let a day pass without patching things up and talking it over. Now I realize that I should have said sorry more often.
Offer words of affirmation - I remember how we would often ask each other: do you love me or are you happy with me? It was good that we did this because right now, his words of affirmation keep me going whenever I am on the verge of depression. Besides, expressing your love and your happiness will add strength to your relationship.
Find joy out of simple things - Always show your partner that you appreciate him — whether it’s a phone call during the day to say hello, or buying lugaw for pasalubong, or cooking his favorite meal. And when he does something for you, don’t forget to say thank you even for little things. As they say, familiarity breeds contempt — don’t fall into that trap.
Always make memories - Our time was short but for me, every minute was in color. Every word exchanged, every place we’ve been to and every restaurant we ate at were all deeply etched on my mind. It helped that we had our websites and albums to document our life together. Our first purchase as a couple was a digital camera and it was so well-used that we were able to build 6 albums of pictures in such a short time.
Always make memories - Our time was short but for me, every minute was in color. Every word exchanged, every place we’ve been to and every restaurant we ate at were all deeply etched on my mind. It helped that we had our websites and albums to document our life together. Our first purchase as a couple was a digital camera and it was so well-used that we were able to build 6 albums of pictures in such a short time.
We were married on 888 and spent 8 months together as husband and wife. Yes, I still feel rotten and empty at times. But I have hope in the future and trust in the Lord. I will survive this. My husband’s life was short but it was a life well-lived. But I believe in our love and I believe that we will see each other again – in God’s time. God bless all of you.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
--Kahlil Gibran
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The future belongs to those who prepare for it today.
Malcolm X
Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, ‘cause they’re not going to be around forever. Remember to say “I LOVE YOU” but most of all mean it. Hold their hands and cherish the moments for someday those persons won’t be there again. Give time to speak & listen, give time to share your precious thoughts in your mine. For life is not measured by number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.
good morning......
QS u described my situation in my previous relationship, hope my ex dint dictate this 2 u ;-)
" Dont take life too seriously, you will never get out alive!!!"
so why is this story of "undying" love?
oh, i guess, it just never got a chance to die... one of the partners has done it way before, just not to see the ugly end of it, caused by all these "petty quarrels over who would prepare our meal or for not being able to text at the right time or for being 30 minutes late".. (the last one I love most of all.. I can see, she is standing behind the door, her frozen look is focused on her watch, she is counting seconds, and the anger is rising up in her restless soul.. poor man.. in his place, i would probably preferred to die too)
...oh, no.. he faked his death! what NORMAL man can stand his wife counting minutes till he is back home, or making a scene over "not being able to text at the right time ".. what a crapy life...
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
l'espoir vous trouvez votre homme exotic girl
" Dont take life too seriously, you will never get out alive!!!"
Some man have bad mind so I do not like need to find kind man who likes fun people here nice so I like
Exotic Girl I m sure with ur name and profile, love of lots of guys must be following u the past few days since u became member..
" Dont take life too seriously, you will never get out alive!!!"
Ever love is hard to find I like most but maybe ever love not find me
yes they have their anniversary last aug 8
kikaychuchai U r too naive.
" Dont take life too seriously, you will never get out alive!!!"
the story says got married on 08/08/2008...it further says our anniversary is arriving ...(the post is dated 13/08/09)... was there anything else to know its not her story... hmmmm... anyways simple things for a happy life but seems difficult to practice...
So true when someone told me .....one realises the importance of another person only when that person is no more in ones life ...
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One life to live, live it to the fullest.
sandeepkadian it is not mys story but it is true....
i am also preparing for my wedding by next month, thru browsing the net regarding wedding preparation i am touch from her story, this is a true to life story, and i have learned allot of things from her.
you may try to visit her multiply account to find what is the story behind it.. http://dacruzes.multiply.com
life maybe too short that is why you have to give time to show how much you love your partner...
hmmmmm..... sit, relax ,enjoy and cherish every second, every minute, every day, every week, every month, every year that you spend with your loveones maybe it your family, friends or enemies... no one knows when we separate apart from this life full of colours and complexities..... enjoy life is GOOD! because GOD is GOOD....
"Our time was short but for me, every minute was in color."
How true, especially when you're paying her by the hour..
Ofcourse its not her personal story, one of the countless forwarded mails on net like this. anyone who actually lost his/her loved one will not put it up on the net like this.
" Dont take life too seriously, you will never get out alive!!!"
sorry it's not my story. i was browsing the net regarding wedding preparation and I have seen this story. and I asked myself if i make the most of my time for my love ones. nobody knows when it will end.
so it is not your personal story?
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"What lies behind us and what lies before us are small compared to what lies within us."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
just wanted to share this story to all QL members me too was touch by this story.
My condolences to you!
hope we can all learn something from what you have shared with us
WYSIWYG
I can feel the sadnest on your words while writing this letter. It is really hard to lost someone on unexpected time. I do hope that he is now with god and always watching you everyday just making sure that you are safe.
And to all couples out there, never leave a day without showing your love to your partner because nobody knows when and where our life will end. It is better to leave memories that will keep them strong rather than regret of not showing your love until your last breathe.
MO RIN...YUN LANG!!!
tht is the swetest lesson i learn from u
i hope everybody too can grasp the idea behind ur story and put into practice. i reallly2 touched by ur story.
i hope ur doing fine now even tough u r still in grieveing.. i pray tht u will b strong to continue ur life. and am sure ur husband up there wana see u smile everyday continuing ur life. and am sure 10000% he will b so happy tht u always remember him and he will said to everybody in heaven even to angel tht U R THE BEST WIFE HE EVER HAD.
looking forward to hear another tips of life from u again. :)