family not agree

The problem is his to handle, not yours...If he can fight for his love, bravo...if not, cry then the next day face the world with a smile (even if it's a fake one)

...listen to the sound of silence....

well sadd to hear your story .. its almost same as mine.. even me n my gf are still going on .. but 3 months back we were caught.. and many many problems happened. any ways.. best of luck bellefire..

hope your relation goes on forever.. and inshallah u will be able to marry him soon .. :D

good luck for everything

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I think he should marry his family, not you.

why worry so much?, let HIM worry about both your situation.. besides, you are still young...

SalamAlaikum

pray to ALLAH that he give you patience. Loving other than ur husband is not allowed in Islam. So sister please read Quran and pray to ALLAH that he guide you ok. I have gone through many of this stuff ok. ALHAMDULILLAH now i am on a right path. Thanks to ALLAH (SWH) Pray to him and ask only from ALLAH (SWH) So sure he will help you and guide you..Ask for ALLAH's forgiveness....May ALLAH give you patience and guide you to the right path...AMEEN

well, first u have to consult ur cat... tell it that it needs to get a job, stable income, and a house...

times that by number of cats that ur cat is banging...

because u dun want kittens by the baskets in your house... QAWS dun have enough shelter for em.

or make it easy have it's (ehem) fix as soon as possible. so u dun have to worry about kittens...

:) consultation fees is QR10... hehehehe

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Is This Love Consultancy Site?.i have a problem with my cat, very polygamous..what should i do!?

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Life is short...300 meter before roundabout!

how do you know that the new guy is really for you... u just told us all u just met him 6 month ago... how do u know he is the one... maybe he's just the rebound guy...

give ur self time my dear.. ur still young... there's more to live...

u can't force ur parents or his parents to like u in a day or two... it takes time for people to know others... dun rush things...

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i agree with ALEXA..you should go out there and get yourself a life...but since you only wanted positive advice/suggestion...never mind...

it's really difficult to have a long distance relationship...good luck :)

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Hmm, so it is you thats the bad girl then belle :) religious parents dont look fondly on their daughters boyfriends.

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hello people..first...we met on net then after like 6 months after that..we met face to face...after we met face to face..he went back to his country...with the pictures of both of us togather...one day..his parents saw d pics..and then walla..kabbooomm!!!

and secondly...im sick and tired of my previous ex's...i just moved on with my life after the failure of relationship with my ex's..then he showed up in life....and SMOKE..my parents are religious (muslim) and theyre strict parents..ok..

This is the problem with kids today and their parents too, Parents think that if they be too conservative, their children will grow up to be the same way. If they keep their kids from going out and mingling with other friends, they wont fall into bad company. You just cannot restrict your children from going out and having a bloody life!

Bellefire you apparently have never had a boyfriend before for fear from your parents, so the first guy you must have actually found comfortable with was this guy through the internet. Internet guys are easy, you dont have to make excuses to your folks to meet up, you can spend hours talking..for girls like you who never get out of the house coz their parents are too old fashioned this seems like the perfect set up for you.

What exactly do your parents want hmm? do they want to find you a nice boy from a decent family of THEIR choosing for you? They still want to make all the life decisions for their little girl?

You girl have to do 2 things first. First stop this whining. You love someone do something about it, life is to short to let the right person slip by coz of your family or parents, today they are with you tomorrow they arnt. This is your life take control of it. Marriage is a two people dance, get a serious commitment outta your man, he's the man that has to take care of you, if he cant handle his parents and fight for what he wants then you sure as hell are not that important to him.

Second, you get a grip of your own life, walk out that door and mix around with people. Your educated, your working stop behaving like a freaking village girl whose sole purpose is to go to school, learn to cook, and get married and have kids. Enjoy life!

Dr. Phil aka SMOKE

Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)

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Long distance relationships never work.. Look at BritExpat and his Cuban Shot putter..

I tried a long distance relationship once, it was fine at first, but after few email exchange's she asked me if I could send some money to her via Western Union. After I sent her $500 never heard from her again. Can't beleive that a Pikey like me can also be conned?

You can't teach experience...

dear I ask you what ;

I am not Sherlock Homes but I'd like to remind you your first post ,you said he came to ur country and the parents saw ur picture(u and him together) while he was there with you.before he came to your country how come you would be side by side?With a person u never met before how you could toke a photo together unless he is not David Copperfield ?did he visit u twice? I am little confused.or u r enjoying here with us for nothing.

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i finished study and im working and im nt kinda of person who can go out and hang out with friends..coz they are all bz and my parents not that kind of people who like her daughter to go out always...she will nag at me if i always go out...i dont want to be like that so i prefer to stay at home..

theres a limit for everythng...

So, are you telling me that he is more important than your life,family and friends?In a way, you're saying that if he wants you to do anything, you'll do it?

How can you even think that this guy loves you too?

In what way did he changed your life for the better?by sitting in front of the computer for almost 24 hrs everyday watching him eat...sleep...study?

HMMMMM, VERY NICEE!!!=)

do u believe in qada n qadar???so just pray..thank u all

If you want to cry you can borrow my sholder.

bellefire23... cut your losses whilst you can, else you will spend the next 5 decades watching him over the web! Not trying to be cynical, but I'm sure there would be plenty on men in your country that would be a suitable husband. I personally think that the web allows people to creat an identity for themselves, and not portray themselves honestly.

How long have you actually spent in each others company - 2 weeks? A month? Too short a time to know someone properly. i know some people find it easier to put down in writing their emotion, and past experiences, which I guess could be seen as a plus, but you need to spend proper time with him to get to know the real him.

I just think you're setting yourself up for a fall in the long run

hermmm..that doesnt crossed my mind..thanks amoud..i will ask him

he wanted me to b with him 24 hours...and i also have nothng to do..so just spent time with him..thats what i wanna do...i wanna have d bless from his parents...i knw parents is important...

Wow belle thats much better.

Even better that the responsibiity of his parents accepting you is yours not his. Whos idea is this? I mean, has he said he cannot make them accept you? Would this not be a huge alarm?

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we met online..not from came for vacation..then we met for real

Of all the hardest people to please...it is the IN LAWS... SPECIALLY "THE MOTHER IN LAW"...

I am not a pessimistic person..just being practical...WINNING THE HEARTS OF THE FAMILY OF YOUR LOVE will take FOREVER... everyday in your living life you have to prove to them THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY WOMAN TO THEIR SON....

and im telling you now..it will take FOREVER...

SO..GOODLUCK MY DEAR ;)

Ofcourse his parents didnt agree with the relationship!!!How can they, when the relationship is not even healthy??!!Wasnt trying to be mean, but babe?dont you have other things to do other than watching him for almost 24 hours everyday???!!!Shhheeesssshhh!Give the man some space at least..

If you're just gonna sit there and hoping that things will work out someday between you and his parents then better forget bout marrying him!Life is not only bout falling in love, there are other things you can do in life like....spending more times with your family and friends or bla bla..

Hmmmm!!!If you are really serious bout this guy thn prove to his parents that you deserve to be part of his family!And keep in mind,parents always want good things for their children. Im sure his parents knw what they're doing=)

Im saying this for your own good. Go out and meet people. And im not asking you to give up on him, im just telling you to keep your mind open=)

I bet I could almost predict how this came about. They met when he was on vacation in Malaysia with his mates and they have kept in touch via email.

I also find a lot of the times that the family not accepting is a way out. Perhaps we have some perspective as we have been here and lived it so long.

It will go along the lines of him crying that his family isnt accepting, then he will state he will give them all up for her. It will turn into the scenario that she will let him go because she loves him and cant bear to see him in pain.... etc.

I hate to be the sceptic all the time, and perhaps this is indeed a lasting thing but I have my doubts. I have seen it a hundred times over.

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hermmm..thanx hesa..thats one of idea i can suggest to him..okla...24 are young..fair enough...well..i knw im young..hehehe..its ok people...anyone who have idea on how to tackle d future in laws heart..plz welcome to give opinion..heheh

Sweetie - its not just your responsibilty. Your boyfriend has a greater responsibility than you, if he cant convince his parents, then noone can. If his parents are trying to split you up anyway, dont you think any action on your part will push them further away??

If you are intent on winning their approval, why dont you invite him and his parents to Malaysia to meet you and your parents? Or go on holiday together - neutral ground!

i dont want him to come yet..i want him to finish his training which is maybe next year..so that after we gona start planning for marriage..he will nt b thinking or worrying about his training...correction..nt next year,,but end of this year..are 24 n 25 is a teenager??

Same old posts, same answers. Belle has made up her mind, and to be honest I think they are both extremely young.

What a lot of ladies seem to misunderstand is that young arab muslim men promise a lot, sometimes out of guilt as they have to convince themselves that their intentions are pure and sometimes out of misunderstanding. The words for I like you and I love you are the same in arabic, funny enough. The proposal thing is common issue with men in these parts. I have a friend who has been proposed to about 50 times in the last 3 years and guess what, she still isnt married.

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"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship"

"dgoodrebel is not plastic"

van i ask how old are you and yr friend?

coz i think you r both teenagers

its gona b my responsibilty to try to make his parents accepts me wether by hook or by crook...

so he can fly out and see you for a few weeks, and start planning the wedding then? Thats good news! He could come and see you by the end of the month? If not next... Its pretty easy for Jordanians to visit Malaysia!

ok..to make it simple..he is working and he got salary..

Say if you did get married, how will you cope with his family not accepting you?

now i just asked from d god to help me..i wrte in here to see what others think so that maybe i can open up my mind if theres somethng that i missed in my life..so that u people can remind me about that...soo..thanks people..appreciate all of d advice

he is nt studying..he's working....just his job need to d revision b4 going for a work ;)he can support me n he proposed to me many times..but just nt the right time..

Bellefire it seems as if you had made up your mind before you wrote your post, and that you weren't going to accept any advice.

Say if you did get married, how will you cope with his family not accepting you?

Insulin, quickly, please!

Mandi

a MAlaysian girl. You are both young and as you said, you virtual bf's parents are not in favor of you!

Here's a reality for you, your bf could still not stand on his own so he could not fight for you! If he is matured enough and get a good job and have plenty of money and travel to your place again, then, maybe he can marry you! But as of now, just keep yourself contented with seeing him in the tube as that's the only way you can be both with each other. Just have faith and continue to ask Allah to make you both strong and don't commit any bad things that would strengthened the unwantedness of his parents towards you!

If you are really soulmates, you end-up with each other. If not, find your fall back position! Lol!!

"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship"

"dgoodrebel is not plastic"

hermmm..thank u people...appreaciate all of it...im gona stick with him..hope u people can pray for us so that we both can b togather at d end...ill inform in here if we get marry or nt..hehehhee

as what PM says, you don't get to choose or force any to give you only positive words.. everyone will give you logical advice base on your situation.. and it is always up to you in the end to decide on..

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24 n 25.. i knw loves doesnt conquer all ..but if u have trust ..loyalty ..understanding...isnt that d basic???

hermmm..can someone give me positive advice for once...come on people...help me to think positive or u people want me to end d relation??

Andrews- You thought its female, profile says male, actually what did you miss there?? LOL

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why worry so much?, let HIM worry about both your situation.. besides, you are still young...

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ok if u r a female then change ur gender...so dat u can make ppl to stop asking and commenting u

ok if u r a female then change ur gender...so dat u can make ppl to stop asking and commenting u

bellefire.... I think what Brit said is right, there is definitely more to this than meets the eye!

Its all well and good having an internet relationship with someone, but pledging to spend the rest of your life with them is a truely different kettle of fish!

yes im sure he's nt married..coz almost 24 hours he's in front of cam with me..he study..eat..watchng tv..sleep..in front of me..well..of course nt only that....and i was thinking that too..tht i have to have a job and stable economy...and about working there in qatar..takes time to work there...all im doing now is a big risk...well..this is life..ups and down

I think I agree with Brit. On a side note it is very easy for Jordanians to visit Malaysia.

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Are you sure he is not already married?? Or a commitment-phobe??

bellefire, what i want to tell you is that your love should be strong enough and both of you should be mature enough to see you through family alienation, cultural and interracial differences. i think it would be best if you live and work in the same city. this way, you will know each other better. see if this "you& me against the world" drama is not clouding your eyes to what is real.

kadaut...

oiiii...never...n im nt doing it at all..but ive talked with his younger sister..well..at least one of his family on my side

well...i just wait for him to make a move after he finish his training...he used to tell me that if he told his family that he gona marry me..he afraid that they will do somethng to stop it...dead end ...i just want d bless of his parents

.. did his mom see you on cam naked?

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aisha..im a female

If this is a true story, then it is up to him to make his family like you, as there is nothing you can do personally.

The only way his parents will have respect for you, if they can see the respect their son has for you. It is up to him to make it clear to them how he feels about you, and that their opinions will not change his mind because you are worthy to him.

Having said that, some parents are born intolerant and may never accept you. If that is the case, then both of you must have a love that is strong enough to withstand it.

so u wanna said here that i have to let go of this relation arecel??..well u knw what..im nt gona give up on my man at all...coz i swear my previous life was really2 like hell and everyday i was crying coz ive been in love with a jerk...and its too late to realize that...takes time to get over it and when i already can overcome with it by the help of this guy...i am damn seriously not gona let him go

ok

I think it is very logical that his parents do not want you in a relationship. Specially if you are Muslims. You know what the Quran says about same sex relationships. So if you think you can get advise here I think you are wrong. This is not the place to get it.

Aisha-Taweela

yep victor bhatt..well..that was d other alternative...which is d easy way..but i want both parents agree with us..ok people..i am a female ok...

belle, as what the posters commented in your previous thread, you seem awfully young to get married. i'm not sure you are mature enough to handle interracial/ cultural marriage even if you are of the same faith. so please listen up. and no, love does not conquer all. that is just some crappy lines straight from mills&boon novels. it's garbage..

kadaut...

come on people..im here not talking about my gender .. im asking about my problem...help me..people said shared with others can ease d burdn a bit..right???

What do you mean? Dont be confused by your gendre. I am straight.

You are listed as a male.....talking about being in love with a male. You call that being straight? Who is really confused here?????

Aisha-Taweela

There's more here than meets the eye methinks :)

regarding Malay Girl marrying a Jordan guy.....in Qatar without parents consents.

victor bhatt, my parents knw about our relationship..and they like i think 50-50..well, icant have that serious talk with them yet coz i need him to come here first and after that everythng gona start from there..

keep patience, with Time everything will be FINE, Insha Allah....keep your intentions clean and parents are afterall parents; they will forgive their son and will accept you. Stand with your Man always, who cares for you!

Stop lying and tell the whole truth to your parents and be open and frankly express that this is not a teenage love but a serious relationship. Effective communication shall work, other option to take some other close relative such as uncle, aunty to explain the facts and convince his parents.

They will accept your love. They were angry may be when he lied, which no parents would like.

is there are you male (profile) or female (your story).

We'll see

Das wat andrews.. something fishy !!

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rMs..!!

dont b confused with my gender..im straight ok

right now he cant do anythng yet coz he under training and he cant come to my country..he wanted me to go there so that we can marry in islamic way..(is that d right words)watever..and without no both family knw until he can come to my country and make it legal in my country...but all i want is his family can accpet me..thats it...and i want to do this the right way like other couples

Your profile says..you are a male...I miss here something?/////////////

y the heck i get logd off wen i clik ur prof !!

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rMs..!!

Without wishing to belittle the relationship, Isn't it about time he made a commitment either way ?

im always with him..eventhou we are so far away from each other..i feel really sad when i knw that his family hate me