Confused about parents feelings !
Hey,
I have a good job offer at Qatar, but after noticing the strict visa rules, It has become clear that my parents who are above 60 and feeble and weak wont ever get a visa to live with me.
I am wondering... Parents have sacrificed so much for their kids, what do they want from their children when they are in the last and final phase of their life ?
Would it be appropriate for me to leave them back with no one to fend for them except themselves ?
What do you people who have children expect from them when you are 60 or 70+, would you be happy if they left you and went away seeing you only one or two month a year ?
Regards,
samix
You can try to get visit visa for your parents which will allow your parents to stay with you for six months. Take residence visa for your family so they can visit you any time they want. Residence visa will require visit every six months at least. Good Luck
Samix,
My parents went back after my father retired at 60 a few years ago. My dad changed his sponsorship so that both my mom (who was on dad's visa) could stay here. At the same time I was leaving Doha for studies (with no plans to comeback) they decided to move back home.
Hey,
Thanks people for all your comments, also, mathboy, I read your profile you said that you have been brought up in doha, so how come your parents are not with you anymore ?
Did they go back on their accord or were they not given visas anymore.
Regards,
Samix
samix, Money is important as you need it to take better care of your parents. If it is a good opportunity, capitalize on. You might get visit visa for your parents even if they are 60+. It isn't straightforward but people do get.
I can understand your situation. My parents are in their late 60s and staying back home. Not even a single day I miss them and think about them. My greatest desire is to have them with me.
But life is about compromises you have to decide on the best. Do discuss with your parents have their thoughts on this.
Ruth he's MARRIED. Stay back...
Samix it's good that you're deeply thinking about your parents, but I don't think leaving your wife behind would be a good idea.
hey,
ruth are you crazy ?
Regards,
samix
hey ruth odilly get out! spare this room from your wicked biznis!
I always apprecite and give high respect for any one who value and respect their parents...like you samix
and I agree with stallion opinion...realy good luck to your decision...by the way make salat istikhara it always positive.
Hey,
Thanks for your thoughts stallion!
regards,
samix
Wishing you success and prosperity Samix.
good solution by the way and you are still sacrificing a lot for your parents...
Hey,
Thank you everyone for the comments... and jazakAllah khairan ya akhi stallion.
I have thought long and hard and spoken to my parents and wife, I think that if my parents are not given the visa, then I will leave behind my wife to take care of them, coz I feel that money is also important for a person to take care of their parents in their old age. What if I stay back and am unable to fulfill their medical requirements ?
Do lemmi know what you guys think.
Regards,
Samix
Samix from the bottom of my heart I salute you...
You dont need our opinions...your parents are your most valuable things in life...from your avatar I sense you are a Muslim then I am sure you know how rewarding it is to serve your parents.
something I noticed myself: the more good I do to my parents the more life becomes easy for me...more rewards, less problems, more time management...etc.
If your parents have other kids that would look after them then you should not worry...but if not I highly recommend that you stay with them.
ok sorry guys i should be serious regading ur parents they need u as they sacrificed a lot for u but its ur future if u have a better job opportunity then its up to u if u would accept it but always be there for ur parents
even i dont mind if i am 60+ and my kids abandon me
ask any of your friend or relative to just ask ur parents in general talk... & see what they feel. It depends from person to person.
Btw, If the offer is really good & ur salary is more than enought to support them, i think the govt will permit them a permit on ur sponsorship.. you will need to contact a govt official.
~noms~
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"Before God we are all equally wise ' and equally foolish" - Albert Einstein
I wouldn't mind if my kids leave me and my husband when we're 60+ I would rather be happy for them since its in their advantage. But honestly if I am the one who my parents depend on, I would NOT leave them. I guess it depends on the situation, it's hard but you gotta decide.