This is an interesting topic , after going through all your comments I couldn't help but add mine , and ill do so from my own point of view. Firstly marriage is about understanding , compartiblity , love . This marriage issue solely depends on your personal motive before venturing into the institution , in africa, it is mandatory that a woman should cook and do other chores , raise the kids , whereas your a career lady a nanny can take up d job BUT still under d strict supervision of the wife . I personally desire a long lasting marriage God willing , and if I love my husband (for which I won't marry except I am in love ) doing my own job in the marriage should gladen my heart! There aint no slavery in it . Although the man too ought to play his role as my Husband , but career or no career I can not leave my husband and kids hungry nor in an unhealthy environment . If not for the increasing demand for finance to live a good life why would I want a nanny to raise my kids??? There is a saying that goes if you want a job done well Do it yourself. You aint sure of the knowledge , character your kids emulate from your maids , nor neither is this close bond between a child and the mother if that child isn't solely raised by the mother. A matrimonial home is like a farm , and women are the farmers, if the farmer does not tend to her crops dey either die or grow unhealthy.