There are pros and cons and if you believe the wrong person's advice you will end up taking the wrong decision for the rest of your life, sometimes people may advice you as they have the same situation it could be because she is lucky or not lucky at all!
Love is difficult to contradict! unless you try, you will never know your luck!
But who are we to confuse you? You are already confused enough!
Just be aware of the pros and cons and be smart and know your rights as a wife, if you decide to marry the guy!