First, those men who are speaking on behalf of women(negatively), I am sorry to tell you,you are in no position to talk on behalf of them. It's easy for you to judge and thinking that liberating women and making them able to take their own decisions and stating their minds.
Personally I lived in the "West", and I chose not to take off my scarf, drink or go clubbing, although I could've if I want to, however; I still lived my life normally I was able to speak up my mind, enrolled in dialogues without being judged. I even went to a Jewish Synagogue and a Christian church stayed their for the whole service (with my scarf on) people around me tolerated that I am a Muslim women who is trying to strive knowledge and was free to express my opinions without someone telling me you are a women you shouldn't be talking about this or that.

Personally, believe it or not when I was living in the west, my faith strengthened even more, although I am surrounded with all the "destruction" I've could've done this or that, but I chose not to because I am convinced of my identity and my religious believes, maybe because I was able to talk freely and draw the comparison, maybe because of the diverse society I was living in.

I did say yes, we are doing better compared to other societies, but there is no harm in improving for even better and change some of the current circumstances without losing our traditions and believes.
As for you ingeniero, I hate to pick on you, but why do you bring "Extreme" cases and compare them to what's happening or could be happening here. How many years have you lived in Qatar and else where in the Middle East? How many Qatari families do you know? Additionally, you know not everyone does have the ability to write in English or discuss their ideas in English on QL OR elsewhere? And those cases can not be measured by just the number of posts here or the number of people posting here on QL.