well i think its all move arround the way you are brought up and the envoinmet you got when you were in phase of learning and adopting ... 

i have seen many families who sent there children back home for studies and get wt they are n how to live .... they are almost having good n successful happy life ... coz what parents seved was there education ....

the who lived here did nothing but played in money and shodow of big shining life got money but forgot who they were and who to respect ... coz according to them shine is every thing .....

i used to say if you wont stop  a child when he or she is young .... you cant stop him rest of your life ... coz parent gave him the things which he dont deserve at that time .... 

so its all about how one is brought up and lived in which envoinment and conditions ... 

But their is always exception .... :)))