cool down, and your totally right you could be whatever you are, still you would be proud of having certain ancestors, and to tell you the truth it does not matter should you have a father or not for sure, but when you have a father whom might put your head in the mud, you'd rather not to mention him among your friends although each one's acts speaks for themselves. For the cool down it is just a discussion whether you like or not does not mean you have to be mean.