a married man and now he has decided to do the "decent" thing and make you his 2nd wife? Can he afford 2 wives and all the children he may have to support? You know that Muslim wives don't have to contribute to the support of their family and the man is supposed to pay for everything.

Can you live with the knowledge that he must split his time equally between you two and that he will be sleeping with her, too? How do you feel about the fact that she will almost certainly hate you and want to drive you apart?