I read in so many posts that I am a "jerk", why? (Thanks, Olive)

I showed up in Doha 4 years ago, immediately met a girl (I wasn't looking for one) and we started going out. What was I supposed to do, Olive? Spend 3 years living like a priest because I knew we would both be leaving back to our own countries? So you are saying NO ONE except Qataris or people from the same countries should be in relationships or date while in Doha?

And what is it about "sex", Olive? Every comment you post has something to do with "sleeping" with her, You think that's all we did? Every year for vacation we went to the Philippines (Boracay, Bagiuo City), vistsed her family (where I spent a lot of money for them on all kinds of stuff, but I better not go into detail because I'll be bragging, right Olive?)

So now, after three years, my contract is over on 30 days notice and I had to leave. It was a shock to both of us. I can't marry her because she is already married, annulments are very expensive and take a long time, we already looked into it. I can't take to the states because we aren't married. I can't live in the PI because...umm what would I do to make money? I make a lot of money working for the US Govt as a technician, impossible to make so much in the PI.

People, quit hating. I did what I thought was best. Olive, you say my GF isn't happy, you want her private email to see if she's alright? I mean, you're so concerned about her. And I didn't "abandon" her. We text 50 times a day, and I telephone once a week. And yes, I DO plan to support her for her school for as long as it takes. So what are your solutions, people? I should give up my career and money and move to the PI and commit bigamy, ie marry a lady whose already married? Open a small roadside chicken stand and barely make enough to survive? Or continue my job for the US and pay for her school.

All I'm doing is what I think is best for both of us.

Wow, Olive. Not to be mean, but reading your posts, I'm surprised you found a guy to marry you, you really come across as a judgemental *itch. What have YOU done for anyone lately? All u seem to do is post on QL all day. What a catch.