Just like I posted earlier- The author of the thread is not looking for any opinions. She has already made her head up and was looking for some sort of acceptance for her decision. When she didn't find it, she takes the hypocritical turn and judges other women on why they did what they did. I don't really see who gave you the right to pass judgement over other people's belief.

Rebelling without a reason is worse than conformity. The surname is not your name- it belongs to your family. So as long as your not changing your first name, I don't see how your losing your identity. Or if your identity is based on being born into your family, then I have no further comments.

I was expecting some sort of rational argument at the starting of the thread, instead it turned out to be- My way or the highway sort. Quite disappointing.