Common areas of interests, unslefishness, effective communication, trust....these are all factors that will enhance building a healthy relationship in a married life. In reality, both partners have to understand the strengths & weaknesses and the likes & dislikes of each other. The degree of variance is dependent on the society and the circumstances they were born & brought up. Accordingly one has to compensate for other to get the desired result, not as an individual achievement, but as a combined effort for the family to be meanigful in life. It is a mutual & continued effort from both of you where you place yourslef comfortably and get along quite well. It is imperative to note that life is full of adjustments and sacrifices and it should come from both partners. It takes time to get into the right level of acquaintance. Last but not the least, do not pretend in real life... It won't help.. just be the way you are....