Being positive helps the healing process. When a friend had cancer back home, another friend made her a treasure box and inside were dozens and dozens of card each with a message starting with "Today Lianna sends you..." then she ended with a postive word like harmony, incentive, sanity, etc and added funny ones like sending a peas as world peace was too expensive, a nice non interferring mother-in-law, permission to skip the boring bits etc. The friend with cancer pulled out and read a different one every day, even took it into hospital with her and says it really helped to keep in the right frame of mind and reminded every day she was loved. Maybe you could do something along those lines?

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