you simply have to love the helpful ways of the QL community!
Singlefather, i feel for you completely, and you have just been torn apart by this stupid thread. Just forget about it - delete it if possible. People are not here to help you, they would rather poke fun, and pick at every single oppurtunity.
Not a dating site? Of course it isnt, but he wasnt doing anything wrong. I thought this was an advice site, and it sounds to me like he was asking advice.
I have learnt already that there are plenty of people on here who simply want to jump at your throat. Forget about it, and in future, i wouldnt post anything personal.