I choose the first, PAINFUL TRUTH.

My case was different, though. I had to leave my daughter's father because he's not READY to be a father despite his age. O told him that when he can face his reponsibilities, he knows where to find us

It was painful, emotionally and my thoughts were of my child then. four years of patiently waiting for the boy to grow up. Found out later that he married another.

I have to break the news to a 4 YEAR OLD child...Now, realizing it, even if I married him, I might end up filing for an annulment and still take care of my kids alone.

What you are is what you have been, and what you will be is what you do now. - Buddha