Couple in online 'marriage fund-raising'
A Palestinian man and his sweetheart have launched an online campaign to raise funds for their marriage, setting a precedent in local tradition in the conservative Gaza Strip.
Hakim Zagbour, an engineer graduate, and his girlfriend Palestine Tannani, a computer graduate, said they have already raised nearly $9,000 (Dh33,000) and that they need $9,000 more to go ahead with their wedding.
“I don’t care of what others say…I have no other choice and I only want to marry the girl of my dreams,” Zagbour said, quoted by Palestinian press.
Tannani said the couple, about 27 years of age, have been in love for a long time. “There is something even bigger tying us…there is an entire world, memories and stories…we only want to fulfill our dreams.”
Newspapers said most of the funds were sent to the couple by donors from the United States, Britain and Jordan.
OK… I like their style.. But my question: Do you really need 18,000 dollars to get married ?
In my opinion and as per my general understanding, the Meher is a valuable in any form as per the ability of the husband given to the wife. (it's indeed a good gesture as the husband should be an able man to look after the wife)
Just to Add:
I was given valuable from my mother in law from the earning of the late father in law which I rejected. I am also in the opinion that I have no demand to request any earning or part of my father’s wealth unless he likes to give some thing for me. I personally have no objection if my father wants to give all his wealth to his other children. This is a policy or a principal of mine.
My parents educated me and given the necessary guidance to grow up & still guiding when necessary. I suppose, this is what all I expect from them. Nothing else.
Above is my personal opinion and just a share of thought.
Whatever, it's just sick!
WT: In this case, both are professing that they are marrying for love.. However, due to religion / culture there is the issue of Meher.
From googling "Meher", it sems that it can be set at anything according to the status / afforadbility of the person.
So, in such a case, it seems that the need for 18000 dollars is purely on a whim and not neccessary
Marriage, as it is practiced here, is a social contract. It's all about economical security and has absolutely nothing to do with love. Love is a luxury only few can afford because it is priceless.
Who said I am going to get married..
When I have Bella and Chin Tu Fat....Life is just Awesome ! :)
I am Loving IT !
Rizks: Why get married when you have Bella ..
18,000/- dollars for getting married...holy crap
i.e. 18000 x 3.65 = 65,700 QRS
65,700 x 18RS = 1,182,600 Indian Rupees
Gosh, I can open my 2 chains of emporiums with tat amount, one in Gods own country - Kerela and one in Amchi Mumbai....serving Hot Karak with Spicy Poppadums....:)
R2R is too busy, Lol.
acchbascha, Ur essays r too long my dear nobody has that much free time as in ur case. lol.
Nanofilm: My English has never been very good and I am still learning the language. Thank you for accepting my comment. I will look up the meaning of the word "mandatory." Thanks again for educating me and helping me in adding to my little knowledge of the English language. .
'' .......Parents of the lovely daughter suffer ...'' ............ too bad .........
Accha Bacha...now ur comment is on right track...get to know the meaning of mandatory
Nanofilm: Possibly, you are somewhat confused. In Islam, "Mehr" is a mandatory payment in the form of money or possessions "paid or p-r-o-m-i-s-e-d to pay by the groom to the bride" at the time of marriage. This is required by the Shariah. There is no fixed amount and it can always be paid later. The wife also has the right to reduce the Mehr or even to forgive the full amount.
Dowry on the other hand, is the transfer of parental property to a daughter at the time of her marriage and it may include cash as well as property, furniture, car, utensils etc. In the past, Hindu parents gave a dowry to their daughters because they didn't have always have rights to claim a share of the parental wealth and property. Nowadays, parents offer dowries to attract a good husband for their daughters. The custom of dowry especially in India and Pakistan has become a menace as educated grooms holding good positions in office "demand" a dowry both in cash and kind from the bride's parents to marry their daughter. It is sheer greed. Many parents with lovely daughters are unable to meet such demands. Hence they suffer. A "Dowry" is not a part of Islam. As such, let's not confuse the two terms "Mehr" and "Dowry." Both the terms carry different meanings which are worlds apart.
Nano, I endorse it too ............ so cool ...............
This raises the question, how much is the amount of Maher???
"jodhe kapade bas" - Isn't that a fish based spicy dish at Rizks' Emporium
Brit in my case...my mom asked my wife mom just do jodhe kapade bas...:)
I have seen in Jordan. ..1 year from the time of engagement; the groom should arrange for a well settled home and then marriage happens.
Nano, May be they objected to the comments ........................
Wish them joys ............... Congrats ........... Hope they visit Wakrah one day .............. !
I failed to understand why are people giving reports. I request ql to remove it. It's annoying g
Not necessary. ..give something that he could afford...farmer. ..so rice...barley etc..me her can be in any form
Nanofilm: You miss my point. Thank you for explaining Megher... But what if a poor farmer wanted to get married - would he have to come up with a certain amount ?
acchabaccha i would appreciate to keep ur useless comments away if ur not sure about what ur saying or have knowledge about it
every parent would love to see his daughter stay like a princess after marriage...not like a beggar..so that is the reason
Love & money are very important for a new couple.
Love & money are very important for a new couple.
brit...In Islam, a mahr (in Arabic: مهر; Persian: مهريه; Turkish: Mehir also transliterated mehr, meher, or mahriyeh) is a mandatory payment, in the form of money or possessions paid or promised to pay by the groom, or by groom's father, to the bride at the time of marriage, that legally becomes her property.
meher is told in islam...as per islam yes..so they are basicall following what is told in islam..its mentioned conservative gaza strip...meher can be in any form...either money or clothes or anything
Nanofilm: Surely you give what you can afford.. If they are so in love, then why worry about "Meher" ?
No, you don't. If the true love is there, the shortage or the absence of money can in no way become an obstacle to such a relationship. According to their request, they are using money as the bonding factor. True love should be the bonding factor.
basically as i can understand the man is too poor and since both love each other and the man can not afford a meher...so they jointly took this step...so its really true love
18000 is basically meher...in arab tradition it is the men who has to give meher to the girls family...it is important because then the person is financially good in taking care of his future wife...with this meher basically they buy a home...important household items. in indian tradition we call it dowry where the girl gives to the future husband family