do you remember...

Is there a friend you have known that you never have lost touch with, no matter where your life takes you?

That friend that has always been there for you no matter what?

Do tell about this special person who has been in you life no matter what. Share why this friend is so dear to you.

Thx 4 sharing...Canadian Ach. it was nice meeting you and your brother and friends last week.

Well, I understand that you believe my comment is irrelevant to your post; however, I assert that it has everything to do with your post. I just gave you my own perspective on the post. Your post is not a choose the best answer sort of question that it must be answered in a single way.

I am not making it serious my sweet and lovely. I am just telling you what I feel about the topic.

This is an open forum and we are all free to choose the way we express ourselves. As long as we do not use offensive language, do not target someone, and do not indulge in provacative discourse, anything is ok.

It is not for you to tell others what to post and what not to post. It is also not for me to do so. If a comment is irrelevant, the moderators are always swift to have it deleted.

Coming back to the topic, I still believe our own attitude toward life in general and toward relations in partitcular is the primary determinant of how we are taken by other people. I do not see any problem making this observation (copying), and sharing it with others (pasting). :)

I grew up moving somewhere new almost every year, so I have no childhood friends.

I find that most people don't either because friends change over time as is the nature of human dynamics.

even my own brother who I have not been separated away from since his birth, for more than a few months at a time, is not as close to me as 70% of my friends.

through my experience, it's the friends that closely resemble me that stay with me the longest.

Those that share my same view points, beliefs, experiences, etc. are the ones that I share the strongest mutual bonds with because to me their success, is the success of at least one of our rare kind.

we're all humans, we're all prone to disagreements and arguments, and each one of those opposing solutions to our issues threatens to sever the ties of our relationships.

by bonding with like minds, I feel like i am caring for an extended family member. someone who can express genuine empathy as they would more than likely be living a similar life to mine.

without that sense of comradeship, and being united with a common view, you can't really have long lasting, meaningful relationships.

I have only made such bonds with friends from the military academy and i'd hold a target on the range, 500 meters out for them any day, because I know they'd do the same for me if I felt the need to be that much of an @$$hole lol. and because we're all almost exact clones in many ways.

What does all this have to do with my OP about>>>>

Is there a friend you have known that you never have lost touch with, no matter where your life takes you?

That friend that has always been there for you no matter what?

It was a simple request>> Like Sir. Fin said

>> Do tell about this special person who has been in you life no matter what. Share why this friend is so dear to you.

why make this thread so serious and copy pasted theories about losing weight etc... come on stick to the topic.

or go make your own post about all you posted here Segmund.

Well, sure one can change one's appearance in terms of how they dress and all. However, it is not that easy and feasible for everyone to change their appearance in terms of the outline of their face and body. Do you know how difficult it is even to lose weight?

You are perfectly correct. Changing behavior is not easy. Nevertheless, it is these habits, more than anything else, that often stand in our way of having really good friends.

Emy, you are truly blessed to have these close friends. I always say, no matter where life takes us, close friends will be near to you anyway. Thanks for sharing.

I am the same way, it will take something huge to make me leave my friends. They are like real family to me.

Hugs

Interesting Segmund...although, I do not agree that we can't change our physical appearance, our social position and financial status. Many have. In fact, I believe it is easier than changing our bahaviour.

Changing behaviour necessitates the ability to analyze what we do wrong, which necessitates the ability to admit fault. Not something our ego is eager to do. And changing behaviour, a habit, is in most cases, a lengthy process.

All not things people are keen on.

Friends & books should be few & good :)

Segmund,

wow who is gonna read all that?

The OP asked a simple question... not to write a book....or give a physiological analysis about what friends are or not.

give a personal experience of what your friends are to you, how they have been there for you, and how you are there for them.

Gezz

my friends are there for me, as I am to them. grow up with them.. they are more like family to me then my family sometimes.

well....do i have dat kind of friend? i have one who i called best frn from high school we still in touch but i find most of time i can only find her when she need ....

agree with tahsinmim I dont trust friends, they are only friends to say hi and bye maybe coffee in btw.

agree with mimiloves2sing as well some of your family would back stab you when you will be expecting it from friends.

for me I trust two persons in my life, the first one is ME, the second one is not YOU.

I have always been fascinated by human behavior; interpersonal behavior has been an area of my interest since my school days. I have been studying interpersonal behavior in psychology books, general books and in fiction. I also tried to study it in my life by observing myself and others. This is what I have found.

We ourselves are responsible for the making or breaking of any relation--- for the most part. It is our behavior, more than that of others, which determines how many friends we can win, how often we can do so, and for how long.

As to our behavior and person, there are a few things which we can not change, such as our physical appearance, our social position and financial status, and our capacity to communicate (though this one is not completely predetermined); and there are things that we can change, such as our interpersonal style, our lifestyle, our attitude toward other people and toward life in general.

Although it might appear that the non-modifiable factors (appearance and socioeconomic status) play a bigger role in the creation of our social circle than the modifiable factos, it is clearly not the case. In fact, it is the factors we can change that make the most of the difference.

The universal virtues of honesty, integrity, sympathy, straightforwardness, and selflessness go a very long way in the making of good friends. Selflishness, dishonesty, and lack of integrity, on the other hand, are sure fire recipes for interpersonal discord.

Those who possess the noble qualities manage to make good and lasting friendships regardless of the social status and ability to communicate. Those who lack them may still make many friends by virtue of their high social status or good communication skills; however, there relations are never deep and lasting.

Friendship like love is purely mutual. If you lose your friend, you should not forget that they lost you too at the same time. If you sometimes find yourself complaining of your friend not being able to give you any time, you should also remember if you are able to do so. And if you still are, what there is then that they have and you do not have. Why is it that you remember them whilst they do not. There has got to be something so good about them that you still care to remember them.

Not all friends are meant to remain in touch with you till the end of time. Friendship can still remain life long but it does not have to be based on continious communication between friends. In the modern age of computer technology, where you get a Facebook friend almost every other day, it may not be possible humanly to remain in touch with everyone all the time.

There are some friends with whom you will never lose touch. And they are very few and should be very few as one's busy life might not allow one to remain in contact with so many people all the time.

Instead of decrying our old friends' indifference, let us cherish the sweet memories of the friendship we had once. Let the recollection of those beautiful moments warm our heart and let us not allow any negative feelings do build up within us for our friends who, although they are not doing so now, were once kind enough to bless us with their time.

your very welcome.

I love being able to touch lives of others. Even if it is just to create a postitive feel good post.

God Bless All.

Mimi very thoughtful of u to start a wonderful thread...!!!

Marconandoz's post this morning about missing home and now ur post about friendship....day of nostalgia....Feels good.

I have lots of friends back home and few of them r very dear and have been together for years right from childhood....so no matter what, we have always been in contact wherever we are.

I feel having friends makes life interesting, different people, different views....lots of fun..and by gods grace we friends have been with each other through the rough phases of life nd that makes it more beautiful....;)

Tahs....it is all my family who have left me because I came here. They are dead to me, which kills me.

It is because of special angel Friends from here, that I am going to see my kids after 11 mos of trying to get help from the very ppl you say are FAMILY.

But anyway...let us not worry about that, I am blessed that God has gifted me a kind heart to always be there for my friends and family, it is their loss...I will stay true to my heart and be a giver.

Salam

Family is not forever, mine is dead. friends have proven to be more then my family ever was. depends on the family i guess like NM says can't chose your family.

You are blessed bro to have such a wonderful and supportive family, Barakhallah feekum! But for some of us our friends have been like family, and even closer.In the past,some of my friends have helped and supported me in tough times, though my family didn't, hence I am truly grateful to them all!

You can choose your friends but not your family.

As Tahsinmim said, I too trust my family onlyThey are my best friends who stand by me always,through thick and thin!

Truly I am blessed to have so many of them, from all around the world. And yes some of us go like waaaay back. And anyone I call a friend is someone I treasure, love and respect. Of course I may not be able to keep in touch with them as much as I'd like to, but whenever we catch up, it's just amazing a feeling and you wonder why you waited away so long.

Mimi...your friends must still love your thoughtful gestures though quite clearly unable to reciprocate in the same way, so keep up the good work girl and spread the love!

And yes, you can't leave QL..we won't let ya =D

Well that is sad Tahs, because you are missing out on some people that come into you life for a reason that will never back-stab. Maybe you just have not met those few people yet.

I have always been there for my friends and family, but it is the FAMILY who had turned their back on me since I came here.

Peace

okkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk. ok whatever Tahs...

let's get back to the subject.... ;p

lol saeed kan

I have 2 friends closed one for the past 6 years and we keep in touch wherever life takes us, I adore them

Am someone that cant leave my friends very easily

Guys I am still here til night of 21st if you followed my appreciate post you would know that. p

And I can not leave QL for good Fathima says so....who would monkey Badu tease about my moving cat sign line?

tahsin she is leaving qatar not ql

spock why dont u post anything on my facebook or like my status

Are you sure he didn't mean ancle?

ur strongly welcome lol :P

angel* it was a typo. Thanks BG.

angel or angle ? or ungle :(

I dont have someone like that cuz I am very independent from my childhood but few have me as best in their list. So far what I experienced is always in ur bad times a stranger used to be in front as an angle.

awww ur cho chweet :o)

Lucky to have a few friends who are there when I need them and vice versa. :O)