How to Move On and Forget the Past..

Sometimes, events that happen in our life make us feel tired, burdened, or regretful. We spend too much time thinking about a horrible deed we've committed, even though we can no longer change it. So how do we move on from a bad experience?

1. Accept that it happened. It's not the easiest thing to do, but it will help you get on your way. The past is a part of your life now, but it is not the most important part. Accept the fact that it can no longer be changed in any way.

2. Change your cognition to not feel as bad about what happened, and decrease anxiety that triggers going back to the past; for example, if you were embarrassed, tell yourself don't worry, everyone gets embarrassed; various relaxation methods will decrease anxiety that can trigger bad memories.

3. Live in the present. This one is kind of hard, since the present is easy to take for granted. Know that by constantly using your present time wisely, you are constantly making a better past for yourself.

4. Learn from it. Something good always comes out of everything, even if it was a very bad experience. Find the lesson involved and try not to make the same mistake twice. Lousy-Lesson Example 1: "If I didn't get busted shoplifting, I would've moved on to armed robbery and get shot by cops."(Note: this did happen to me)

5. Forgive. Yourself or the ones that hurt you. Cut some slack to others and yourself. Nobody asks to be given a bad memory. People are not perfect. Everyone is prone to make mistakes. That's how people are. And the only way to really move on from a bad experience is to forgive the people involved.

6. If all of the above don't help, then maybe try some writing in a diary, or journal. But be specific about what's bothering you.

7. Just forgive them for whatever they have done and don't ever be sad. They are human too and make mistakes. Just look for hope because "fear can hold you as a prisoner and hope can set you free."

8. Use affirmations. These are phrases that help you feel better about yourself or something that has occurred in your life. You can make them up yourself or with the help of a counselor.

Tips

* If it really bothers you, talk to someone you trust and feel comfortable around. Talking is good.

* Compare it to another's bad experience. Think about it. I mean, you've had a bad day, but that other person may have had a bad year. You may have lost your cat, but that person across the street lost his mom. Everything is relative, even problems.

* If you keep remembering things you don't want to remember- if it is really bad, keep telling yourself to "forget the past" and seek and see a counselor/psychologist

*talk about what has happened in a positive way.

I HOPE THIS ARTICLE HELPS THOSE QLERS WHO ARE IN THE SAME SITUATION THAT I'M IN RIGHT NOW..LET'S MOVE ON...