Happily SIngle? or Happily Married?

don't let others push you when you feel you're not ready for it...

me, neither, happily "attached" :P

im tired of being single but nobody wants to marry me.....it hurts yo know!!! :)

wacky... you are not alone

many women ask the same question

even if im not engage but have serious relationship

im still thinking if i want to get married or not

though im at the right age (which may almost going past the right age...lol) still i doubt about that marriage thing.

it simply because we women suffers more than men whenever the relationship goes wrong due to various reasons mostly third party issue which result to huge social problem like broken families.

and we are afraid to end up like that with our married life arent we? how many women ended up as single moms? (i wonder if there are many single-dads?)

and to avoid that, we tend to think of becoming single than getting married.

but...

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Women's Rights Are Human Rights

Famous Speech by Hillary Clinton

wacky, if you really think that you want to be with him and he can be with you for the rest of your life ... then why not?

i had a friend who had doctor-bf for 10 yrs,they got engaged but sad to say they did not end up together.

i had another friend who had bf for 4 years, he met a guy with gf for same 4 years. they fell in love at first sight. both gave up their relations with their gf/bf, then they get married after 7 months of relationship.

its really a matter of preparedness, guts and willingness to be in married status, irregardless of age and family pressure.

most women if not all want to have a child, dont they? if having a child without husband is possible and not haram/sin, i would prefer being single. joke...lol

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Women's Rights Are Human Rights

Famous Speech by Hillary Clinton

There are phases of life and we cannot compare each other. For example, we cannot compare our childhood with younger or old age or single life with married life. It is not an apple to apple comparison. Every phase has it's own charm and challenges.....

So if you want to change your phase, marry...... otherwise ... u will be bore in same phase.....

Cheers..

stay single when you enjoy being single. Marry when you are tired and lonely being single.

Wacky_Baby if u feel he is the right person just go for it!

Listen to ur heart & forget the rest..For me marriage n kids have changed my life completely & i feel im the luckiest one in this whole world:)

wacky_baby: get maried n stay single

but back to the subject...i know for myself that i am not yet 100% ready to settle down. i want to have more time but my family and relatives are nagging me every now and then and i love them so much. i am engaged. but i am having the jitters all the time and kept asking myself "is he really the one? am i ready to do this?" i don't want to take the plunge just to please everyone but end up miserable.

maybe the problem is really with me...i can't make up my mind.

some of your comments have enlightened me and i'm really grateful. :)

Marriage is not about marrying Mr. Perfect or Ms.Perfect. Its about truly loving that person inspite of his flaws.Its about finding completeness in being with that "special someone". Some people are happy being single, someone people feel happy with someone. To each his own.

Marriage was invented by a jealous basket sitting in one corner hating all the others more fortunate ones. Marriage is a system against 'survival of the fittest' to ensure that the loosers don't go without getting laid. ;)

Staying single is natural. Marriage is a social fallacy.lol

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

SINGLE, MINGLE lolllllllllllz

funny thread

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easy come easy go...

Gettn the right one, with matchin wavelength is the key. I pity the rest. :(

I have been an happy single, untill I got merried,Then I become a happy double..lol was really lucky there.

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- Listen to Many...Speak to a Few -

Yes, aZyDBuRn, your 3rd statement is the least priortized..understood from your first post itself that the far reaching consequences of the health problems would be eg. losing your child to illness, etc. in the sense that the hereditary problems were forseeable from the beginning.

However, if we were to dot all the Ts and cross all the Is, it would never end. There must be a limit somewhere, in anything. My limit is up to your 1st 2 points.

"my dear , there is nothing to lose when you happened to have an organized knowledge of the family tree of your future family. This only spells concerned...nothing else..a matured individual fully understand this."

Lol! Your last portion of your statement shows you are being emotional. And yes, for arranged marriages, the parents do proper background checking to ensure this is avoided and if it can be avoided, that's a good thing.

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The Cookie Monster said it.

I also don't plagiarize...

Stay Single is very good anytime...

But it is more greater if you have children but still

Single Mother.....

As for my experiences it is more better if you are Single Mother...

Actually it depends to your Habebe...

But most of them is sick for ladies...

So better to make a Single Mother rather than to married one.....

Good Luck.....

Well mates..better get married soon before the water becomes unproductive.

As of now..happy and enjoying being single ..to the MAXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Happily some where in the middle .. l0o0l

just joking mates

stay single and enjoy ur life to the max...wen ur ready to be in a relationship and ready to take on responsibilities and ready to sacrifice then get married

gudluk mate

’Idolized Or Despized’ Either Way I Get Recognized.

my dear eaglemmanuel ==== thanks for comments but yet my 3rd statement mostly was the least been priortized by soon to be couple yet my point would create bigger impact in the future. Though many might find its unnessicity and others might consider it silent mistrust yet how can you discount the health security of your future heir, right...? as what common cliche states that " prevention is better than cure".

my dear , there is nothing to lose when you happened to have an organized knowledge of the family tree of your future family. This only spells concerned...nothing else..a matured individual fully understand this.

starlight143 said Getting married is still better than being single..ALONE & miserable...?

Maybe at present when you are still young you wont feel the difference.."

Not true. I'm as old as the hills but very happy - because I'm not tied down for the rest of my life to a useless GFN a*** sitter (who expects a glorified maid), who's gutless, egocentric but with a thin ego, arrogant, lacking in self awareness and listening skills.

Have I got that all covered... yeah, think so... (edited only once)

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

aZyDBuRn_ said consider basic aspects before jumping...

3. have you consider in making a background check of the family circle of your soon to be partner of any possible inhireted diseases and disorders that might be carried out to your own children or grandchildren. this is very important for security reason of your own hier..you dont wish to end up to have your children to carried out physically or mentally defected right?"

- Agreed with your 1st 2 points but this one - nope. Irrelevant.

But if partner has HiV / carrier, then that would be a serious issue, if it was his fault

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Don't want no drama,

No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama

Getting married is still better than being single..ALONE & miserable...?

Maybe at present when you are still young you wont feel the difference..BUT if you are getting older..ALONE...? nobody will take care of you like your own children...

HOME for the AGED..? you will land there...!you will regret for the rest of your life...

Marriage is not a bed of rosses...it has also thorns...but for me...getting married & being married is still BETTER...

"i am already being pushed to get married but honestly i'm still enjoying my life as a single"...

THERE IS YOUR ANSWER DEAR...enjoy life to the fullest while you are still single because once you get married,you will not be HAPPY SINGLE ANYMORE lool you will be FOREVER MARRIED... the only question is WILL IT ALSO BE HAPPILY MARRIED???

As far as I know there is no perfect person nor a perfect relationship....specially PERFECT MARRIAGE....

As early as now, you must have an open communication with your fiance so that he will understand you more and dont keep him hanging on...

GOODLUCK ON YOUR DECISION...It is not evryday people are getting married..lool

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Someone wrote this before on QL, "marriage is a temporary lapse of sanity with permanent unthinkable consequences.."...lol

Salam

Happy I do agree with you its a two-way thing...If one of them is not right for the other it wont end up in marriage...and in case if it ends up in marriage..it will be a disaster...and wont lst long!!

What if you're the wrong person for the poor soul "you've chosen?" that’s as miserable to both of you….lol

Just a reminder that it's a two-way relationship.

Salam

Formatted Soul said ...Married life can be heaven or hell depending on the person we choose!! "

- Precisely.

Combine both single and married. Just like being married inside the house and single when outside the house. It will works fine.

Follow your heart.The best decisions are not always the right decisions and vice versa. Marriage is for life and it is up to you to decide. If your heart feels that what you are doing is right then it is right. The guy you are about to get married to,will probably love you more than anyone else can. And also,how do you know god made him for you or not? Mabe he did! :)

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

Ms Lana your comment really made me smile...it's heart warming :)

And yes... he is good looking :)

My bestfriend who knows about my situation teases me a lot...like i'm the 2nd Julia Roberts in the making for Runaway bride lol.

Dear Baby,

so, you are already engaged..!?

And your family happy about him,

.. and his family is happy about you,

.. and he is from a good family,

.. and you think he has all the qualities of a good man,

.. and you have known him for years ..

Listen, it's not often you could have the same opportunity. Men become wiser later, you know; I think you should give him a chance, even if now you don't appreciate him 100%, in some years he might make you happy cause of your mutual experience together, and sincere wishes of your families.

Just one more question: ask yourself, additionaly to all above mentioned, do you think he is good looking enough that you'd have cute children..? If so, go immeadetly to search for a wedding dress!

Good for you FS. As for me, in the near future.

Getting married is the best thing ever happened to me.....probably because I am married to the right person...no regrets in getting married very young..

Married life can be heaven or hell depending on the person we choose!! Get married when you are ready for it and when you really feel to be 24/7 with the person you love!

If you feel its happy in single life or merraied life all depends on you and your nature of life style.

Seems that you are affected with relatives' same old push. Some of unmarried old man/woman are kicking theirselves off wondering what they have missed.

No no, I'm asking wackybaby.

Gypsy are you asking me? i just get married 5 months ago with an arab nat. im happily married my in laws are very kind to me though we both wait 2 years for the approval from the Gov. finally we're happy together.

Marriage has its ups and downs but if you stay single forever you wont have anyone to care for you or take care of you when you get old or ill . Yeah of course your family will be there for you but they have their own life to look at and they wont take care of you forever . Its true you will see people coming in and out of your life , but they wont care for you as much as your partner will .marriage is commitment and a big responsibility and when children are involved the responsibility will be more . So you have to sit down and think about your future in both ways , say to your self if i stay single where will my life lead me and if i go for marriage where it would lead me too . Sit down and write the pros and cons of each situation and see what is best for you . i hope my answer was useful >>>

get marrry , then again enjoy as single

Sounds like you might just have cold feet. How long have you two been engaged?

getting married with own kids and family is part of our journey in life, if you are financially stable and both of you are ready better to get married now.

have a good day!

others might think that it is a simple yes or no to the question. but believe me it is not... my fiance comes from a good family. he has all the qualities of a good man. and my family and relatives love him so dearly. and i have known him for years. Almost everybody is expecting that we end up together soon. but lately i am having cold feet of entering into a new stage in my life. and i needed time for myself to find out what i really want and to give myself space. but i can't seem to do that when everyone is hovering around me. there even came a time that i wanted to break the engagement not because i don't love him but because i am so confused. but i can't hurt him nor the families. i don't think i can stand to see the pain i will inflict if i ever decided to break off. that's why i kept on backing off and just kept all the feelings and frustrations inside. but by doing this i end up being miserable...

When you are in doubt about getting married, say NO, stay single.

The best "Happily together".

Dont worry, very soon your family and friends will be bored about the question and they will notice you have no solution.

By the way, MD tactic is very good.

When they ask you for the marriage ask them for the next children and give them an speech on how good is to have a number of children of two digits...

War looking for peace,

is like fornication looking for virginity.

Don't get married just because u r pushed or u have too... u have to get married cause u love ur partner otherwise it is better to stay single than distroying ur happiness and ur partner's....

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mai lain pa!

Marry when you're ready. Am I wrong in thinking it's just that simple???

Isn't the point moot if you haven't met anyone?

Yeeeehaa!!

The reason why you posted this, is reason enough to mean that you not ready yet. Although,those not ready will always get married young only to break up later. I think if the feeling is right then the marriage is right but if the feeling is wrong, make a disappearing act

marriage aint just simple decision in life..although not all marriage end up as happily ever after as what the fairy tales are. Yet do consider basic factors that will helpful in jumping into final conclusion :

1. are you and your partner are both mentally, physically, psychologically matured enough to engage yourself into marriage life?

2. do you had enough financial capabilities to carry out marriage life like having a shelter to live with, food and other necessities can be meet, education and insurance capacities for the future of your children?

3. have you consider in making a background check of the family circle of your soon to be partner of any possible inhireted diseases and disorders that might be carried out to your own children or grandchildren. this is very important for security reason of your own hier..you dont wish to end up to have your children to carried out physically or mentally defected right?

always remember that proper planning together with your partner is the most important key.

otherwise, if either one above is not yet applicable to you then...you need to double check yourself...might be you still wanted to REMAIN SINGLE FOR THE MOMENT...marriage is not a race my dear..it needs to be plan accordingly,,,

This is the second life..or second step in life.

Being married and having kids its truly good.

Have your beloved wife and your child near you while getting old ....super

marriage is the probably the most important single choice that any person could make in his/her life (maybe except for cutting the blue wire or the red wire :) )

It should never be done out of convenience or succumbing to the pressures of society, but of complete personal conviction.

happily married for 6 years. I love her and love being a father to my daugther. LOve is not always grand but we always get by thru the highs and lows of life.

Well wacky,

1) I hate tattoos on females, it is a complete waste and has no added value to a female. There is, to me, nothing worse than an inc stain on a female, which after 5 to 10 years will be a stretched piece of failed art.

2) Marriage, do as your heart tells you... no more, no less.

Salam

before u getting married think many times coz you will have great responsibilities.

kudos!!!!

no worries choc....most people remain "confused" even after they get married....so better stay confused be4 rather than after marriage...this way u will still hav a hop that one day ur confusion might resolve....

hey wacky baby,wen u come up wid a sound result of this question thn lemme knw also plz coz facing same situation...coNfuSeDDDDD

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SINGLE, so that you can MINGLE any time with any one ;)

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सोनम दि नेपाली बाबु

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single .......................life long freedom

Life is a play with out a script ...

it's better to be happily single and dating a married woman.

why not have the best of both worlds.

Waiiiiiiiiit for it.................

1) STAY SINGLE...NEVER GET MARRIED OUT OF PRESSURE, MARRY OUT OF LOVE.

2) Never marry cross-culturally.

3) Never get a tattoo.

Happily married is better, but unhappily married is suicide :(

Though there are advantages and disadvantages of being single or taking the plunge of marriage, it actually ultimately depends on how you see yourself being comfortable and with peace of mind.

Should you opted for marriage, marry for the right reasons. Also, when you have doubts with marriage or your partner, the best thing to do is not to do it at all...

The joy of being single is to entirely have your life for yourself alone. On the other hand, the joy of marriage is you get to share everything life has to offer with your special someone... So the question still stands, WHERE WILL YOU BE MORE COMFORTABLE???

You have to be 100% certain you want to get married, otherwise if you aren't happy yourself, then you can't make someone else happy too.. You should get married because you want to, and you want to share your life with someone and make them happy too...

You can talk about cars when the relatives come up with marriage.

for a married life its depend on u and your patnar

When single the marriage topic will always be brought up then would be exchanged with another topic after you've gotten married, and that would be "when will we see our first grand child?"...lol

Depends on the culture and how annoying your family and in-laws are..:)

Salam

it's not like i am being pushed out of my free will...just that families and relatives kept on asking when i am getting married. the topic always comes up. and they are like discs playing on my head over and over again lol. i do appreciate all of your comments :)

If you're unable to commit now and barely taking responsibility for yourself, than don't add to the plight by getting "pushed to get married".

Salam

being single is good...i love my freedom :P

"pushed to get married"? That's a very bad sign. Run, buddy!

At your present age you know perfectly the HAPPY answer to your question. Remember the same question 20 to 30 years after, you will realize, yuo should marry and end your life HAPPIER.

...to stay single. We messed it up by 'inventing ' marriage.

Source:

- A study Conducted by FriedUnicorn - Vol I (September,1999)

coz u can do anything you want go anywhere with anybody but i believe that there will be a turning point in our life wherein we give up being single look forward in having a family..but for me im happy with my life everythins under remote control so far lolz ;p)

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You're never ready for marriage, it just hits when both partners have found each other, then you'd have no escape..:)

That's on a lighter note.

Salam

there is a saying......The only time married men get to open their mouth is when they yawn.

thats why i prefer to stay single....

Aana free, jaana free,

Pakde gaye tho khana free.