FS, don’t be so tough… life is not only black and white.. there are hundreds of shades in between.. And again, for 100 times..i am sure these couples who celebrate their 30-40-50 anniversaries of marriage, haven’t lived in paradise for all these years.. I am sure they had their ups and downs, and most likely some dramas on their ways… but they just were wise enough to overcome it… instead of ‘packing your stuff and walking away’ every time you have an argument or misunderstanding, take some time and invest some of your efforts, and do some simple heart job, and make some steps towards the one that you called Love of your Life just few days ago, who is your husband/wife, who is father/mother of your kids, who is eventually YOUR FAMILY.
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
at the end of these dramas and discussion let us advise them communication is the best way to solve everything.without love and communication the end.thats it.
I'd yell, kick, scream and throw things and when I'm done that I would listen to what they have to say. Then I would consider whether or not I still love them and if there's a marriage to save.
Well depression is rarely so cut and dry, most people can't just say "Oh bugger, I'm depressed" they just act out, and promiscuity is linked to manic episodes.
Maybe part of the insecurity is that she/he feels they can't discuss this with their spouse. Maybe they need this act of infedelity to make them realize what's wrong in their marriage and make them seek counselling.
Lust, well, if it is lust then I don't find that a forgiveable reason. I'm just listing some of the forgiveable reasons.
BritExpat.. If I think with the Heart and make a rational decision then you are right it would be what you and others have said.. kick her out, dump her so on.
But if one thinks with a head on their shoulder then one should talk to her and find out what is going through her mind and what made her do that. It will only be a reflection for oneself to know why?
did she think about the kids??????????????? before doing that? guess what she don't even love her kids in the first place cos if she did she will not have opened her legs for another man. the kids will be fine but she got to go. for all you know they may be old enough to know whats up.
well there must be a reason why but for the sake of love forever maybe you should ask her why first. may be you not there as she may neeed you but that still is no reason to cheat so divorce her is SO RIGHT, I WILL ASK FOR A DIVORCE IF MY HUBBY CHEATS.after all she had you and she still cheated....................
that is filty dirty lust , to have a husband or a wife and still cheat?????/ come on its to be just the wife and the hubbby for life ,well in islam the wives and the hubby for life. i will not share my man with no one that i know so i will not let him share me with any plus if you really respect your ownself you will not cheat if you married . oh another issue men give us comfort and good sexing and we will give you same ,there will be no cheating. boyfriend girlfriend cheating is common but when you get married please STOP CHEATING AND STAY BEAUTIFUL AND BRING SEXY BACK AT ALL TIMES SO THAT NO ONE LOOK FOE SEX ELSEWHERE.......
There is no gurantee FS, but then again there are no gurantee's in this life period. I would simply look at the reasons why he/she did it, how sorry they are, do you have children, do you still love him/her, do they still love you? Many times there will be no marriage to save, but other times there will be, and you're marriage could be stronger for this infedelity.
Gyps.. I have seen you givin the same advice before also..what’s the point in saving such a marriage...any guarantee she wont do it again? No marriage is good….. if it’s just for the sake of it! There should be trust and love between the partners. All these trail error should be done before marriage and not by cheating the partner.
If a person cannot stick on to one man/woman...he/she should not marry! If they cant live with the spouse better tell them … ‘I am done with you’…leave me alone…thast anytime better than living with a cheating partner!
How can you call it Understanding? On what basis one should pardon a cheater?
Shye clearly did not love you enough to be faithful. Try and move on and you will find the right lady. Its very hard but keep your chin up and move on.It does get better.
Well I don't believe that monogamy is the most important aspect of a marriage. I believe it should be strived for and it's defintely a neccessity for a healthy marriage, however one infedelity should not be the end to such a commitment as marriage.
If not happy wives should talk it out with the hubby, if it cant work, PART.
we are talkin about she finding someone to have a screw, while keeping the hubby. duh!!! NO excuses. Its the same whebn it is the otherway around. ______________________________________________
No one ever does anything for no reason... maybe she is not happy - found someone who made her happy. maybe she is frustrated "se.....ly" and found someone who let her release her frustrations.. or maybe she just found some one who gave her the time of day and took the time to listen to her...
Could be any of the above or then again it could be she just wanted something else...
Dont be too quick to judge just cause its a woman... if it was a man am sure it would be a different case !!!!
I think you agree that I am not talking about 1st acts, but rather common repeated acts...
As for what people mean when they say things, although it may not be exactly what they said, it relates to it.
You wouldn't describe someone as a bitch and mean the opposite?!
Even when making fun, what we include is what we come up first from our thoughts. It is relevant to what we say, although it may not be what we really mean...
Think of a spontaneous answer to a cheating man right now, don't go too deep thinking, just a spontaneous answer. Could you come up with the same descriptions made above for women?
I hope you see now what I truly mean..
Thanks.
BTW: I am discussing this on a forum here.
Please feel free to comment...
http://www.qatarliving.com/node/469334
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for every mom and dad we should think first and always think the sake of our children.dont make a move that will become the start of ruining your childrens life at the very young age coz that will gonna be the gretest failure in our life...
Sefri, I presume you'd take your own advice by "not judging a person from his first act". Some of the above posters are just kidding when they call those names ..
"I think although we make these comments in a quick and spontaneous manner, it only goes to show that we do not respect women in the same sense as men, because spontaneous answers are what you first find when you search inside yourself! Right?"
- Absolutely. The answers that people speak without thinking are generally what they really think. But the understanding of what they really mean also depends on their culture ie. they may not mean what you think they do, seemingly plain English or otherwise.
I read the post about finding your wife cheating on you, and I noticed that we are always tending to treat women with so little respect!
Going through the comments, I read descriptions like BITCH! HOOKER or WHORE...etc.
The cheating guy was let go and little did he have of the above descriptions although he should be blamed as much!
I don't mean to point out to the commentators, but rather the comments, so please excuse me gentlemen...
If this same question was about men, I am guessing the descriptions would be: Bastard, son of a bitch... or similar comments that would actually lead to getting at the guy's mother rather than himself!!!
Is it not disturbing that whenever a woman acts lowly, she is described in the worst words ever, and when a man does the same, it is not foreseen as that bad?!
I think although we make these comments in a quick and spontaneous manner, it only goes to show that we do not respect women in the same sense as men, because spontaneous answers are what you first find when you search inside yourself! Right?
Just think if your mother or daughter did something wrong for a reason, would you like it if everyone referred to them as bitches, whores and hookers?!
We even make judgments without first knowing the reason behind these acts!
I believe that women deserve more respect in the way we look at them, than just aid women equality rights, so we look good and just.
To begin respecting women in spontaneous reflections is one way to judge if we have truly begun to respect them rightly.
Think again and maybe you will see what I see.
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liencrow you don't know what's in between them ...only the two of them.. what's her reason why she cheated him you don't know??? he knows that he is cheated by her what has he done??? that is hard for anyone of us to judge but the fact that she cheated him with due evidence let him bring this matter to the court and file a divorce..if there are kids involved better to see a marriage counselor first communicate and hope that things can work out for them for the sake of the kids if there are no other way then deal with the kids in such a way it will be not difficult for them to understand
1st i make sure that i have enough evidence, then have a big party together with her relatives specially her parents present then announce my intention of giving her back to her parents together with the evidence. if we have kid's ill make sure that they will stay with me forever and not with her.
You do not like to eat the same menu everyday right. Today - Beef, tomorrow - Mutton, day afeter tomorrow... etc. Probably she have that mentality. For this type of woman, it's not money that matters to her most. Try the intimate approach. Change your size man !!
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Even I experienced the same case,knowingly I always did the best for her, but when i got know I asked her what was wrong with me and how can I make her happy,, she said there's nothing wrong with me & she said she doesn't know what had happend to her,, I tried to convence her to protect our family life,, but unfortunately her family members were behind her and forced her to re-marry in her country,, I told her just to make sure the guy would take gud care of her more than me. now she is married. but still sometimes she sends me Sms and asking me for forgiveness. but I am relplying her back very rudely to stop her from sending SMS to me, I always wanna to see her happy. If I want I could have done something legally but don't want to, coz I loved her still I am. and I dont wanna do something bad for her. so I just let her free.
Guys just advice me do you'll think what I did right???
Why not asked yourself, sometimes the problem start with you. Maybe the wife is not contented of what you are giving or sometimes its only a one sided relationship where the wife always suffer. So eventually the wife will find another person to understand and comfort her. This is not the issue of why the wife cheats but this is an issue of what force her to cheat you.
Why only question about wife. What about husband???
If we have proper understanding and love & affection between husband and wife, neither wife nor husband will cheat each other. Trust on each other is most important at the same time openness between both is required. Even a small doubt will turns itself into big devil. There may not be any thing actually but when we have doubtful mind and think negatively, we will see everthing wrong.
Inspite of all, if still some thing happens, it means that either husbank or wife and not happy with each other. So sit down coolly, discuss and take necessary steps.
report to the police so both of them be sent to jail. can't imagine her sleeping with the husband and playing a "perfect mother" role? while kissing some other guy's ********? am gonna give her a dose of her own medicine!
You would still shag her? she's a TRAMP. the same lips that kisses you goodbye every morning same ones wraps around the others guy's D>>>>K while your bz working?
have one last shag with her then ask her how much like the hooker she is.
it will be your own decision. 10% of life comes from what we can say unavoidable circumstances and 90% is how you react on it. you may never know what lies ahead with your reaction.
And as for the future possibility of dumping me in that trash bin outside the house ... you have no idea what I'm capable of... all hell can really break lose.
Anyway, back on topic - wife cheating behind your back - need to find out whether there was contributory negligence on your part. Communication is key. I find that many men (not all, but not a few) don't listen and simply assume things. Of course, many of the women also tend to be too "forgiving" but chalk up hubby's "breaches" because their supposedly batter halfs can't take it because of their egos, etc,etc. So there's more to everything and only the parties involved will know the truth.
OP, Good luck and hope you can work things out with your wife. I'm against divorce so I'm biased towards working things out.
Agree with B2D - "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
And no need to pray that he/she cheats on the next gal/guy cos he/she will definitely do it, whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Actually, come to think of it,even a principled person may do it, esp if pushed to do it once. The first step is always the most difficult, thereafter it would be easy to justify. Life is about justifications for many people.
/Yes, I'm setting that stage for my possible future randy andrea escapades. My future hubby better hope that I don't lose my faith in God cos that's the only thing keeping the danger at bay. Bwahahaha! ;0)
If you really love her, talk it over, learn to forgive,...and hopefully forget, but if it happens again, talk to her, forgive again (its up to you how many times) then forget again......but if she won't stop doing the same thing, hang them both...and find another one who deserve your eternal love...(geesh how many times you have to forgive and forget..)lolz
is there any good reason why she did it?... you need to know... so that you will learn next time (either with your next partner or still with her.. if... if and only if.... there is next time or next partner..LOL)
Have a heart to heart talk with her and discuss what was the reason behind that. On ladies part (mostly), they wont do that because of lust, there is really something why she did it...
Miss S: the problem is cheating a partner...who does it is not the issue as it affects the family at the end. All above opinion would be applicable to either gender.
To what extent an individual reacts (forgive or resist) is a matter of personal choice.
Miss Saigon. I'd have said the same if it was a guy cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Just pray that he/she cheats on the next guy/gal too ;o)
that most of the above comments were from men, it's the same pain if the husband cheats with his wife its just that women are more forgiving in nature.
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britexpat..you are very reasonable..
I don't want to go into details here but I would leave a comment which caught my attention few years ago and still does:
"Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together." - Author Unknown
They will never go back to original state anyway.
In this case, we are not talking of arguments or misunderstandings, but cheating..
within limits could be sorted out with effective communication....
BUT Cheating has no place in family life; Being trust, faith, sincerity and loyalty are making mix blend of beautiful and healthy family life.
Like they say, best revenge for a cheating wife is to let the other man keep her! :)
Good Fortune always comes knocking at your door...when you are sh*tting in the toilet!! :)
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Ohh so you are gonna give a chance. WooooW, Calm and Nice guy!!! Hmmmm... Well, I wont be nice in this situation. Shoot her!
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well said QS
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FS, don’t be so tough… life is not only black and white.. there are hundreds of shades in between.. And again, for 100 times..i am sure these couples who celebrate their 30-40-50 anniversaries of marriage, haven’t lived in paradise for all these years.. I am sure they had their ups and downs, and most likely some dramas on their ways… but they just were wise enough to overcome it… instead of ‘packing your stuff and walking away’ every time you have an argument or misunderstanding, take some time and invest some of your efforts, and do some simple heart job, and make some steps towards the one that you called Love of your Life just few days ago, who is your husband/wife, who is father/mother of your kids, who is eventually YOUR FAMILY.
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“You become responsible forever for what you have tamed”. Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
in this thread, it's the wife...hmmm :-?
Anyone got anymore stories about their kids doing drugs, eloping or getting pregnant?
Talk about washing dirty linens in public (web forums)...sheeesh!!! >:(
Yes and well make major goof ups and blunders.
it is deliberate indulgence in a Major GOOF UP and BIG BLUNDER!
hallo guys,
at the end of these dramas and discussion let us advise them communication is the best way to solve everything.without love and communication the end.thats it.
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Well I guess I'm just not as harsh on my fellow humans. I believe people make mistakes.
I felt insecured , I am depressed , that is why I went and slept with him/her. wow, what a joke.
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Listen to Many..Speak to a few.
Well maybe you have let yourself go and not paying attention enough to her....
Lose weight, go to the gym, buy some new clothes....
try and make yourself more attractive to your partner...
(well that was the advice posted here when a woman complained about hubby cheating....)
So having sat down and talked over things..
Would you then continue the relationship and would it be stronger ?
I personaly doubt it, because there will always be doubts in your mind..
Anyhoo... Each one of us thinks and acts according to their own specific circumstances..
I'd yell, kick, scream and throw things and when I'm done that I would listen to what they have to say. Then I would consider whether or not I still love them and if there's a marriage to save.
cheating itself break the essence of 'Trust' in any Relationship hence no ground for further discussion...A big full stop.
Well depression is rarely so cut and dry, most people can't just say "Oh bugger, I'm depressed" they just act out, and promiscuity is linked to manic episodes.
Maybe part of the insecurity is that she/he feels they can't discuss this with their spouse. Maybe they need this act of infedelity to make them realize what's wrong in their marriage and make them seek counselling.
Lust, well, if it is lust then I don't find that a forgiveable reason. I'm just listing some of the forgiveable reasons.
BritExpat.. If I think with the Heart and make a rational decision then you are right it would be what you and others have said.. kick her out, dump her so on.
But if one thinks with a head on their shoulder then one should talk to her and find out what is going through her mind and what made her do that. It will only be a reflection for oneself to know why?
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Ok..could be...
If she is depressed - tell her hubby that she need to see a Doctor
If there is any insecurity - she can talk with him and try to sort it out
If stressed - join a gym/yoga or whatever...
Are you ruling out the lust factor?
Well for starters:
a) Depression or alternatively the development of manic/depression
b) insecurity in the marriage (perhaps he/she feels used or taken advantage of)
c)Stress. Being overly stressed often results in making bad life decisions.
OK.. Hand on Heart. If you were in a similar position, Do you honestly believe that will sit down and discuss thsi issue ??
Truth and honest answer please :)
The only answer for cheating is Lust...or emotional support...
Gypsy What according to you is a justifiable reason behind cheating?
I think I go with Gypsy on this one.. Speak to her. ASk her why before making the decision....
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lets just drive away from the manish ..
did she think about the kids??????????????? before doing that? guess what she don't even love her kids in the first place cos if she did she will not have opened her legs for another man. the kids will be fine but she got to go. for all you know they may be old enough to know whats up.
well there must be a reason why but for the sake of love forever maybe you should ask her why first. may be you not there as she may neeed you but that still is no reason to cheat so divorce her is SO RIGHT, I WILL ASK FOR A DIVORCE IF MY HUBBY CHEATS.after all she had you and she still cheated....................
that is filty dirty lust , to have a husband or a wife and still cheat?????/ come on its to be just the wife and the hubbby for life ,well in islam the wives and the hubby for life. i will not share my man with no one that i know so i will not let him share me with any plus if you really respect your ownself you will not cheat if you married . oh another issue men give us comfort and good sexing and we will give you same ,there will be no cheating. boyfriend girlfriend cheating is common but when you get married please STOP CHEATING AND STAY BEAUTIFUL AND BRING SEXY BACK AT ALL TIMES SO THAT NO ONE LOOK FOE SEX ELSEWHERE.......
Agree with Gypsy.
There is no gurantee FS, but then again there are no gurantee's in this life period. I would simply look at the reasons why he/she did it, how sorry they are, do you have children, do you still love him/her, do they still love you? Many times there will be no marriage to save, but other times there will be, and you're marriage could be stronger for this infedelity.
Gyps.. I have seen you givin the same advice before also..what’s the point in saving such a marriage...any guarantee she wont do it again? No marriage is good….. if it’s just for the sake of it! There should be trust and love between the partners. All these trail error should be done before marriage and not by cheating the partner.
If a person cannot stick on to one man/woman...he/she should not marry! If they cant live with the spouse better tell them … ‘I am done with you’…leave me alone…thast anytime better than living with a cheating partner!
How can you call it Understanding? On what basis one should pardon a cheater?
Hmmm....no wonder divorce rates are so high. Is there no room for forgiveness and understanding in a marriage?
Well, there is no room for relationship or tolerance if one finds its partner cheating on him/her.
But i feel ask your partner about the reasons of such wrong doings and then leave your partner for good.
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If it is your mistake then learn from it & don't repeat it.
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But to continue your marriage life is out of question coz marriage is based on TRUST and when it is broken then it can't be regenerated at all
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Shye clearly did not love you enough to be faithful. Try and move on and you will find the right lady. Its very hard but keep your chin up and move on.It does get better.
LoL salax85....
Well I don't believe that monogamy is the most important aspect of a marriage. I believe it should be strived for and it's defintely a neccessity for a healthy marriage, however one infedelity should not be the end to such a commitment as marriage.
Show her a mirror and release her from the burden; she was carrying....it is very simple.
You're a better man than I :)
Yup.
Would you do the same if it was your husband you found cheating on you ?
I would confront her, ask her why she's doing it, see if there's a marriage to be saved.
bring saw and cut her head
If not happy wives should talk it out with the hubby, if it cant work, PART.
we are talkin about she finding someone to have a screw, while keeping the hubby. duh!!! NO excuses. Its the same whebn it is the otherway around. ______________________________________________
Listen to Many..Speak to a few.
OK.. If she found someone to make her happy, then good luck to her..
She's still a two timing low life who needs to be divorced..
No one ever does anything for no reason... maybe she is not happy - found someone who made her happy. maybe she is frustrated "se.....ly" and found someone who let her release her frustrations.. or maybe she just found some one who gave her the time of day and took the time to listen to her...
Could be any of the above or then again it could be she just wanted something else...
Dont be too quick to judge just cause its a woman... if it was a man am sure it would be a different case !!!!
What goes around comes around!
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HOw much you try to bring it back to NORMAL both of YOU will never ever do that.
Thats what i THINK Let Her go, She will pay for her DEEDS
eaglemmanuel,
I think you agree that I am not talking about 1st acts, but rather common repeated acts...
As for what people mean when they say things, although it may not be exactly what they said, it relates to it.
You wouldn't describe someone as a bitch and mean the opposite?!
Even when making fun, what we include is what we come up first from our thoughts. It is relevant to what we say, although it may not be what we really mean...
Think of a spontaneous answer to a cheating man right now, don't go too deep thinking, just a spontaneous answer. Could you come up with the same descriptions made above for women?
I hope you see now what I truly mean..
Thanks.
BTW: I am discussing this on a forum here.
Please feel free to comment...
http://www.qatarliving.com/node/469334
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When dealing with others: Never judge a person from his first act
When dealing with myself: You don't get a second chance to make a first impression.
let her go...respect her rights...consult your lawyer to prepare the divorce papers...maybe she's not happy with your relationship anymore...
for every mom and dad we should think first and always think the sake of our children.dont make a move that will become the start of ruining your childrens life at the very young age coz that will gonna be the gretest failure in our life...
Sefri, I presume you'd take your own advice by "not judging a person from his first act". Some of the above posters are just kidding when they call those names ..
"I think although we make these comments in a quick and spontaneous manner, it only goes to show that we do not respect women in the same sense as men, because spontaneous answers are what you first find when you search inside yourself! Right?"
- Absolutely. The answers that people speak without thinking are generally what they really think. But the understanding of what they really mean also depends on their culture ie. they may not mean what you think they do, seemingly plain English or otherwise.
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No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
Hello,
I read the post about finding your wife cheating on you, and I noticed that we are always tending to treat women with so little respect!
Going through the comments, I read descriptions like BITCH! HOOKER or WHORE...etc.
The cheating guy was let go and little did he have of the above descriptions although he should be blamed as much!
I don't mean to point out to the commentators, but rather the comments, so please excuse me gentlemen...
If this same question was about men, I am guessing the descriptions would be: Bastard, son of a bitch... or similar comments that would actually lead to getting at the guy's mother rather than himself!!!
Is it not disturbing that whenever a woman acts lowly, she is described in the worst words ever, and when a man does the same, it is not foreseen as that bad?!
I think although we make these comments in a quick and spontaneous manner, it only goes to show that we do not respect women in the same sense as men, because spontaneous answers are what you first find when you search inside yourself! Right?
Just think if your mother or daughter did something wrong for a reason, would you like it if everyone referred to them as bitches, whores and hookers?!
We even make judgments without first knowing the reason behind these acts!
I believe that women deserve more respect in the way we look at them, than just aid women equality rights, so we look good and just.
To begin respecting women in spontaneous reflections is one way to judge if we have truly begun to respect them rightly.
Think again and maybe you will see what I see.
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When dealing with others: Never judge a person from his first act
When dealing with myself: You don't get a second chance to make a first impression.
liencrow you don't know what's in between them ...only the two of them.. what's her reason why she cheated him you don't know??? he knows that he is cheated by her what has he done??? that is hard for anyone of us to judge but the fact that she cheated him with due evidence let him bring this matter to the court and file a divorce..if there are kids involved better to see a marriage counselor first communicate and hope that things can work out for them for the sake of the kids if there are no other way then deal with the kids in such a way it will be not difficult for them to understand
1st i make sure that i have enough evidence, then have a big party together with her relatives specially her parents present then announce my intention of giving her back to her parents together with the evidence. if we have kid's ill make sure that they will stay with me forever and not with her.
You do not like to eat the same menu everyday right. Today - Beef, tomorrow - Mutton, day afeter tomorrow... etc. Probably she have that mentality. For this type of woman, it's not money that matters to her most. Try the intimate approach. Change your size man !!
ROFL, britexpat!
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Are we talking cheating canadians or just canadians ?
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most of the comments come from deep Male chauvinism...
what about husbands cheating the wives ?
there shoiuld be equal punishment !!!!
Half of the men do this... at least half-hearted romance... ( if not physical, atleast mentally ). But mostly wives tolerate this.
what above wives start doing this ??
Any Canadian here?
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Blimey! do you have parties at your place? do Tell! lol
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set her .... and if she realise and comes back to you it's yours to be.
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consider also your childrens situation "love is sweeter than second times around"
You can still commit adultery.. Have you never tried chains, mannacles and whips ??
Its your fault - if you had kept her chained up to the cooker where she ought to be this would not have happened. Yippee, Yippeee, its GORDONS gin for me!
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No need to ask questions.. If she i caught red handed, divorce her after moving her stuff out of the house..
KinG-07
Even I experienced the same case,knowingly I always did the best for her, but when i got know I asked her what was wrong with me and how can I make her happy,, she said there's nothing wrong with me & she said she doesn't know what had happend to her,, I tried to convence her to protect our family life,, but unfortunately her family members were behind her and forced her to re-marry in her country,, I told her just to make sure the guy would take gud care of her more than me. now she is married. but still sometimes she sends me Sms and asking me for forgiveness. but I am relplying her back very rudely to stop her from sending SMS to me, I always wanna to see her happy. If I want I could have done something legally but don't want to, coz I loved her still I am. and I dont wanna do something bad for her. so I just let her free.
Guys just advice me do you'll think what I did right???
"Winners never quit, quiter's never win"
Why not asked yourself, sometimes the problem start with you. Maybe the wife is not contented of what you are giving or sometimes its only a one sided relationship where the wife always suffer. So eventually the wife will find another person to understand and comfort her. This is not the issue of why the wife cheats but this is an issue of what force her to cheat you.
tat shez cheating u then take the next step .
First thing I would do,
Ask for facts, sure thing that there's an explanation and further reason to what's obvious.
Second,
I'll Reassess myself of what went wrong, starting with myself, then to my wife and to the our relationship.
Lastly,
I will take action, it can be separation or find ways how working things out.
"I don't go back on my words, that's my way of ninja"
Why only question about wife. What about husband???
If we have proper understanding and love & affection between husband and wife, neither wife nor husband will cheat each other. Trust on each other is most important at the same time openness between both is required. Even a small doubt will turns itself into big devil. There may not be any thing actually but when we have doubtful mind and think negatively, we will see everthing wrong.
Inspite of all, if still some thing happens, it means that either husbank or wife and not happy with each other. So sit down coolly, discuss and take necessary steps.
are you concerned about this matter? It has been discussed many times before!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
report to the police so both of them be sent to jail. can't imagine her sleeping with the husband and playing a "perfect mother" role? while kissing some other guy's ********? am gonna give her a dose of her own medicine!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
in front of you.
just a friend of the husband who's been cheated...
just a friend of the husband who's been cheated...
we call it "amok" am i right?
ever heard about the fiery of a scorned woman? Wait 'til you see a cheated man! Lol!!!!!!!!
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
let them free...free them as a bird...no need for you to cry over a spilled milk...its her loss not yours...
Mitzzyy Mitz '09
give a hard slap in her face then divorce her & keep the kids & house with you (if u have)
"sometimes the heart sees what the eyes can't"
You would still shag her? she's a TRAMP. the same lips that kisses you goodbye every morning same ones wraps around the others guy's D>>>>K while your bz working?
have one last shag with her then ask her how much like the hooker she is.
yes they forgive, but never ever forget.
it will be your own decision. 10% of life comes from what we can say unavoidable circumstances and 90% is how you react on it. you may never know what lies ahead with your reaction.
the husband cheated or the other guy? Is this happening for real of just a fragment of imagination? Looking at his profile, something fishy?
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
deserves a second chance is not applicable when it comes to cheating?
And as for the future possibility of dumping me in that trash bin outside the house ... you have no idea what I'm capable of... all hell can really break lose.
Anyway, back on topic - wife cheating behind your back - need to find out whether there was contributory negligence on your part. Communication is key. I find that many men (not all, but not a few) don't listen and simply assume things. Of course, many of the women also tend to be too "forgiving" but chalk up hubby's "breaches" because their supposedly batter halfs can't take it because of their egos, etc,etc. So there's more to everything and only the parties involved will know the truth.
OP, Good luck and hope you can work things out with your wife. I'm against divorce so I'm biased towards working things out.
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
but some have a nerve to ask for forgiveness, and remorseful after being caught, that's why there were serial cheater.
Agree with B2D - "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
And no need to pray that he/she cheats on the next gal/guy cos he/she will definitely do it, whenever the opportunity presents itself.
Actually, come to think of it,even a principled person may do it, esp if pushed to do it once. The first step is always the most difficult, thereafter it would be easy to justify. Life is about justifications for many people.
/Yes, I'm setting that stage for my possible future randy andrea escapades. My future hubby better hope that I don't lose my faith in God cos that's the only thing keeping the danger at bay. Bwahahaha! ;0)
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Don't want no drama,
No, no drama, no, no, no, no drama
set her free and dont look back... unless you want to live with s**t above your head...
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KEEP MOVING!!!
there is a trash bin out side your house thats where she needs to be then for good.
If you really love her, talk it over, learn to forgive,...and hopefully forget, but if it happens again, talk to her, forgive again (its up to you how many times) then forget again......but if she won't stop doing the same thing, hang them both...and find another one who deserve your eternal love...(geesh how many times you have to forgive and forget..)lolz
as north_me said... heart to heart talk...
is there any good reason why she did it?... you need to know... so that you will learn next time (either with your next partner or still with her.. if... if and only if.... there is next time or next partner..LOL)
but you'll never know until you ask her...
good luck!
jus kick her butt leav her n get sum1 better
can the husband file a case between the wife and his guy?
It happens more often than you think.
Oh i hope that's just the case..
it feels so humiliating on the husband's side. i could even feel it, it was like i'm so useless
what about she wants more money? but its just so sad that she had to do it even her family is also here in doha
ONLY GOOD ONE
1 st ask your wife way you do this ,,, what wrong with me
you not want to stay with me ...???
you not Love me....?????
Have a heart to heart talk with her and discuss what was the reason behind that. On ladies part (mostly), they wont do that because of lust, there is really something why she did it...
MO RIN...YUN LANG!!!
Miss S: the problem is cheating a partner...who does it is not the issue as it affects the family at the end. All above opinion would be applicable to either gender.
To what extent an individual reacts (forgive or resist) is a matter of personal choice.
y is she cheating? you have to know the reason maybe theres a problem between you and her....try to comfort if you still love her
her family is also living with them in doha
well, this is the right oppurtunity to downsize the family in this economic scenario. Do that for now & when times are better get a better one!
Miss Saigon. I'd have said the same if it was a guy cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Just pray that he/she cheats on the next guy/gal too ;o)
Miss saigon - you dont need to forgive, its the same and deserves the same. Kick him out.
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Listen to Many..Speak to a few.
what about the kids?
let her go.
that most of the above comments were from men, it's the same pain if the husband cheats with his wife its just that women are more forgiving in nature.
have one last shag with her then ask her how much like the hooker she is.
she must have the guts to do that!
Give her the Pink slip :) and a good farewell party.
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Listen to Many..Speak to a few.
Yes it is. It is adultery.
i think that's punishable here in qatar right?
Divorce the b!tch.