With all the current posts flying around, what do you consider cheating? Going out on platonic dates without your partners knowledge? Phone relationships? Internet relationships? or does the deed have to be done to classify a cheater?
just avoid complications! Even if it is legitimate, better avoid "extra explanations". There is a saying, "what you don't know, won't hurt you". In a way, I find it useful.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
I think everyone has it on his/her personal level and sense of it. Whatever is accepted by one, cannot be accepted by another.. and also it’s about TRUST.
dmigtysolomon, it’s because with the time a mutual trust has been built. If you never gave her a reason to think/to feel that you are cheating, she got more relaxed and she knows that kissing other woman in front of her means NOTHING.
again, it's all about trust... He doesn't have to TELL me everything.. due to his job he meets hundreds people during the month, both men and women. His mobile is ringing nonstop, both men and women are calling, even very late in the evening..If i started investigating every call, every meeting with a woman, every e-mail exchange, every text message... i think all our time would be spent on the investigation process..
I can feel if there IS something, and WHEN and HOW.. i don't have to be told...and i think everyone can feel... no need for the investigation, explanations and reports..
If you have reason not to tell your partner about what you have with opposite sex, then that is cheating. But this does not mean one could not have an opposite sex friend - openly.
having a friendly relation with the opposite sex, if you are a young couple is always giving misconception. Even now, given an option, I would not introduce to my wife a woman who I feel with not suit her characteristics the way I knew her. I just want to avoid unnecessary "explanation".
Amoud, that's why I said, not 100 %.
And BTW, even I know it's somewhat a joke, "flirting" with the opposite sex may sometimes be misunderstood and this is what I am avoiding. Yes you are right Amoud, our difference in culture and nature tends to give us different opinions. You are much liberal than I am but I still stick to my culture.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Remember havin a full fledged discussion with my friends on the topic...Results were somewhat mixed...
#some people who were uncomfortable about platonic/distance relationships felt it was because these could develop into a full-fledged 'affair'...
#Most of them said they would feel cheated upon even if it stayed platonic but their partner confided more in his/her opposite sex friend than in them.
I would say, if you confide more in someone els of the opposite sex than your partner, the relationship kinda lacks depth. But again...To each,his own!
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when I was young, my wife is a jealous type, seeing a woman in my car even in the highway (an officemate who is going the same way as I) will mean a WW III. Does it mean that all women you meet you have to tell your wife? There are woman, however honest or transparent your relationship maybe, your wife will look at her differently, I would admit that if situation warrant, I will deny her to my wife. But it's a case-to-case basis. When we become matured individual, I can even kiss a woman in front of my wife.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
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Cheers
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Heard your wife left you,
How upset you must be.
But don't fret about it...
She moved in with me.
Cheating...ummm...sex with out condom is cheating...lol
DMS I am confused, in the other thread you said I am closed minded, in this one I am too liberal?
Isn't it really easy to figure out from thier antics?
Its not easy to hide everything from a person who knows you really well.
Next time we'll meet at the Irish harp!
:)
just avoid complications! Even if it is legitimate, better avoid "extra explanations". There is a saying, "what you don't know, won't hurt you". In a way, I find it useful.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
too BAD i am gonna miss you again this weekend!! but you guys definitely gonna have a GREAT TIME!!!
I think everyone has it on his/her personal level and sense of it. Whatever is accepted by one, cannot be accepted by another.. and also it’s about TRUST.
dmigtysolomon, it’s because with the time a mutual trust has been built. If you never gave her a reason to think/to feel that you are cheating, she got more relaxed and she knows that kissing other woman in front of her means NOTHING.
again, it's all about trust... He doesn't have to TELL me everything.. due to his job he meets hundreds people during the month, both men and women. His mobile is ringing nonstop, both men and women are calling, even very late in the evening..If i started investigating every call, every meeting with a woman, every e-mail exchange, every text message... i think all our time would be spent on the investigation process..
I can feel if there IS something, and WHEN and HOW.. i don't have to be told...and i think everyone can feel... no need for the investigation, explanations and reports..
If you have reason not to tell your partner about what you have with opposite sex, then that is cheating. But this does not mean one could not have an opposite sex friend - openly.
having a friendly relation with the opposite sex, if you are a young couple is always giving misconception. Even now, given an option, I would not introduce to my wife a woman who I feel with not suit her characteristics the way I knew her. I just want to avoid unnecessary "explanation".
Amoud, that's why I said, not 100 %.
And BTW, even I know it's somewhat a joke, "flirting" with the opposite sex may sometimes be misunderstood and this is what I am avoiding. Yes you are right Amoud, our difference in culture and nature tends to give us different opinions. You are much liberal than I am but I still stick to my culture.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
Hi friends,
all of us meet some interesting people in the course of our lives and we call them friends.
Friends we meet in school, in college, at work, at the air port, at the super market and so on.......
I dont understand why should one confide everything. Will a spouse be interested if the friend one has met is a male?????
Certainly not. the spouse is alert only when the friend is a person of the opposite sex.
Hmm, i heard something about Platonic love, so, i had to come (Platao = Plato) :D
I have a long distance relation, just hopping it will work out.
Only God Can Judge Me
الله فقط يمكنه محاكمتي
I am you and you are me, if you love i love, if you suffer i suffer
أنا أنت, و أنت أنا, إذا أحببت نفسك أحببت نفسي, إذا عانيتَ عانيتُ
DMS, how can you agree with brit when in a previous post you argued that going out to dinner and such with a married man was OK?
It was the fights while you were young that brought around her thinking to the calm lady she is now.
If you constantly hide something from your wife, albeit small, they will never adjust to the idea that you can have platonic female friends!
Remember havin a full fledged discussion with my friends on the topic...Results were somewhat mixed...
#some people who were uncomfortable about platonic/distance relationships felt it was because these could develop into a full-fledged 'affair'...
#Most of them said they would feel cheated upon even if it stayed platonic but their partner confided more in his/her opposite sex friend than in them.
I would say, if you confide more in someone els of the opposite sex than your partner, the relationship kinda lacks depth. But again...To each,his own!
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At the end of our life our questions are simple: Did I live fully? Did I love well?
when I was young, my wife is a jealous type, seeing a woman in my car even in the highway (an officemate who is going the same way as I) will mean a WW III. Does it mean that all women you meet you have to tell your wife? There are woman, however honest or transparent your relationship maybe, your wife will look at her differently, I would admit that if situation warrant, I will deny her to my wife. But it's a case-to-case basis. When we become matured individual, I can even kiss a woman in front of my wife.
"dgoodrebel will always be the rebellious good one"
LOL.... Brit you sure know how to woo a lady. I am sure my husband wont mind. Ask your wife, it its alright then its a date ;)
Are you free tonight :)
I was under this impression also, until I was told otherwise. I am Canadian so it is assumed that anything goes.
All of the above.. Anything, without your partner's knowledge and acceptance is cheating..