Why India have less divorces issues?

I spent a couple of days in Bombay.... You should see what goes on in some of the night clubs there. The women are just as 'liberated" as those in the west..

Then i am lost!

I need an advice.

Which lady is better for a happy marriage?

You don't need flowers. You need a bag of "O positive" to help you through this!

'Pirito Purush Poti Parishad' (forum of oppressed husbands)

I am a men who suffer mental and physical torture at the hands of my wife.

I need help ranging from counselling and legal advice to fighting my case in court.

Britex, where are my flowers? huh???

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#1 factors... is they are sticking to their culture and belief... Indian woman have no right to ask indian man...not like Filipino wife that they are in control of everything..

***OUCH!!Hey!!!You really need to emphasize "Filipino" this is not fair!!!!;((( What if I told you that women in our place are not puppet..hope your happy with your married life...huh!huh!!

**** There are so many factors to stay together or seperate ways it really depends regardless of your culture and beliefs, goverment laws,religions, traditions or whatever reasons that comes out from your family and friends..

dont u guys particularly i2kreativ & Murali think that Indian culture is not the problem of our wromen folks. Men are the basic problem in keeping them behind whether in public forum or in private in our own homes.

A very very innocent & simple example:

How can we justify our deeds of a simple home chore of we men considering it as below our dignity to enter into the kitchen and cooking. If at all we do cook never ever will we wash utensils. I agree 0.00000000001% of us would do so but that too only & only when ur wife is around and not in public.

PARTY SITUATION

Whenever we call friends or relatives to our palce, have u ever considered why females are most of the times in a seperate room chatting / cooking and/or taking care of our kids.

We are sick male members of our country. Stop blaming west and its culture which has entered our bedrooms and sort of given some thoughts to our better half. Yes, better half. U might consider me as a feminist, so be it and I would keep being one.

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not like western culture where women and men got same right where women is sold worthless then the animal,mens in full suit where womens in bikini,mens jurking womens working.....

Sorry couldn't resist this pile of dogshyte........TRANSLATOR PERLEASE......Mens jurking womens working...so thats what my husband does while I'm at work??

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

Again you have hit the nail on the head. I once worked with a lady from Sri lanka.. she was having a really hard time in her marriage, but could not bring herself to let go because of the family and also the shame it might bring. Ofcourse, men know this and use it to their advantage.

You are right Britexpat...But since I am myself from India I can see and feel the change actually. I think the media exposure gets some credits too. The media in India is so powerful nowadays that it isn't any easier for anybody to commit a crime and walk away with it. Still there are other forces like our own politics and politicians, sometimes pose the major hurdle in women progress.

But I am optimistic for the change in woman status .....without breaking the families.... at the same time.

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It is common that in most cases, people are murdered by someone they know or are related to.

Not trying to justify things, but in the case of the Armed Forces, circumstances such as stresses of work and mental issues could be the major cause.

Spousal battering is a major issue all over the world, but you will agree that in developing nations it is more so because of the lack of education, the stigma related to a woman walking out of a relationship and also teh lack of support structures available.

Well, I think I have posted some wrong link. Let me find out the correct one about USA where it is said that people from armed forces are mostly involved in domestic violence.

The global figure is such a haunting isn't it?

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I'll be damned!!...."50% of murdered women are killed by current or former partners"

But Shreeya wht the report says in teh beginning is "...the whole story of all the human rights abuses committed across the world in 2006." It doesnt say those are USA statistics, or did i miss something?

Also the report says, "153 countries featured in Amnesty International's Report 2007"

So couldnt it be that this is a global figure? Ofcourse even then its SHOCKING!!

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

These are all age old generalizations about India, Indian women, Indian culture, Indian everything...And these generalizations are there because it is easy to think about this crap..no much pain to brain.

On the other hand Amnesty International says that Western women get beaten by their partners too.

http://www.amnestyusa.org/document.php?id=ENGPOL100072007&lang=e

This report is about USA particularly and the interesting fact is

"Domestic Violence

1 in 3 women is subjected to intimate partner abuse during her lifetime".

50% of murdered women are killed by current or former partners

This is just to show that it happens the same everywhere when it comes to a woman.....

Surely it's changing and it must change. And the women themselves are the major power behind this change even in India.

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Sorry, but with your luck, your misery will continue..

Husband battering is on the rise in India and theer is actually an organziation called 'Pirito Purush Poti Parishad'

http://www.expressindia.com/news/fullstory.php?newsid=48919

Sorry Buddy! i'll send flowers..

Realsomeone....i personally know a few Indian who have remarried.donno how u came 2 this conclusion!!

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

because no one will marry a divorced indian women... its reality.

"He who does not thank people, does not thank Allah" prophet Muhammed (pbuh)

Yeah...lesser divorces doesnt ncessarily show a stronger/fairer society.

crazynoddy: wht exactly do u mean "keep ur wife or sister or family.... in ur control." if being faithful depends on the amount of ctrl exerted, is the faithfulness worth it??

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Divorce has today become the easiest solution for people having problems in marital life. Small issues, slightest arguments and married couples are ready to go their separate ways. There is an increasing number of divorce cases in India as well as in the world.

Infidelity has been and will continue to be one of the most common reasons for divorce, be it India or any other country. Due to the newly found financial independence Indian females are not ready to adjust with their partners and end up in divorce.

as per Indian law the ground for divorce should be anyone the following

Adultery

Desertion

Cruelty

Impotency

Chronic Disease/STD

Everyone has the right to live a happy life, I personally think there is no need to take any S**** if they have a choice.

Classifieds:

I want to swap an european wife with an indian one.

For any details, just visit me to Hammad Hospital - room 131. ( the man full of bandages, first bed near door)

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Divorces will always be less in countries that treat women like a commodity to be bought, sold and owned, rather then like real people with thoughts, feelings and desires.

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well i really dont know who commented about indian women so blindly n so proudly. listen my friend u need to open up your eyes at the earliest.

now our indian women are beyoned our reach and this is mainly due to the influence of media, clubs, MNCs, etc etc. above all money talks when women get handfull of money all of a sudden then dont know what to do or how to spend.

our women are ready to pay anything to reach or to adopt the western 'living style'.

our culture has been diluted n deteriorating.

the latest survey in mumbai india says for every three marriage registration two divorse cases are filing. its dat fast now. so there is no point saying that divorse rates are less in india. that zamana was earlier now every one wanna be poised and self dependent in front of our useless society.

we can not bring any specefic nationality to blame it does not suit our culture and heritage. why only philipinas why not others?

we must respect every culture religion race colour tradition etc etc instead of blaming or criticising when you can not find your answer.

loadsa things to discuss

believe me we can not close this chapter just like that.

my suggestion to this regard will be keep ur wife or sister or family.... in ur control. being sincere n faithful depends upon person to person and that concept is fading out from our culture i believe.

once you leave ur life loose.... then everything will be KHALLLLAAAAAS

gotta go!!!! :) to

Irrysa:Thanx for the clarification....ofcourse its bigamy, silly me!

I sympathise with ur frnd. I guess having a kid is more of a compulsion for a woman( or evn a man) to stay in an unhappy relationship.

Culture and bringing shame to family is not jus ther in india...there are lots of cultures that look down upon divorce(which btw, doesnt make sense to me). Also I know women hu hav been bold enough to throw the "culture/shame to family" argument away n take charge of their lives. ultimately its a personal thing.

Even in western societies there are women hu take crap n stay in the relationship(may b the numbers r less, i donno). Wht these women need to understand is "If u keep doing wht u r doing, u'll keep gettin wht u r getting!!"(oops was that a bit too harsh?)

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Irrysa just becaue its the case with ur friend doesnt mean that the turn of the table will take a long time. Seriously the picture u have of Indian women is slightly outdated.

Murli please dont talk nonsense- if ur trying to say something be clear and support it with facts. You're comparing rural or Indian women from villages(just becasue they are educated and have a degree does not make them modern- it has to do with the society they live in) to modern western women. Lets compare Modern Independant Indian women to Modern Western women okay?

I donno much about western women apart from what i've seen in movies which i'm sure is not the right picture;)

So I will talk about Modern Indian women coz i am one of them or at least I think so. The word is not "Obey"- its mutual "Respect". My husband respects me and my decisions as much as I respect him and his decisions. There is no domestic violence or wife beating(although there is a bit of husband beating:) or bride burning for dowry in my house. In India most women have marry guys who are older to them at least by 3-4 years. In general in Indian society there is a respect for elders factor which may not be prevalent in other societies. Children stay with their parents till they get married, take care of parents in their old age etc. maybe thats why the women respect their (elder)husbands a little more. But I really feel respect is the way to go.

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I have taken those comments back and deleted that ;-)

You didn't tell me how is hte new signature

What is what??

Murali: abt boyfrnds thing being exclusive for western culture, I dont agree. was talking to a frnd of mine who works in counselling (In India)for women who r in troublesome relationships. She was telling me that she herself was astonished at the kinds of stories that u get to hear especially in cities. Infidelity is much more common than a lot of us fool ourselves into believing.

Wudnt blame men, women or any culture for it though. Its just a personal choice made by an individual due to circumstances that came in to their life.

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

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Murali whats this... :o

I didn't mean that. I meant if you leave one you will get another

Murali, come on! "so many boyfriends"???

what r u trying to say here?

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

winn...it was meant to be bigamy.

the turn of the table would take very long time for them. i personally have a wonderful friend. she is Indian, very well educated, full of energy, has a gr8 job. she has a baby and husband that has absolutely nothing in common with her. they live kinda separete lives. when i asked her why did she got married to him and why would she do something about it, while she is still young, she said that it is their culture and she doesn't want to bring shame to her family.

so, in other words, she will stay like this.

when i asked, what will she do if her husband would find someone else? she said "i won't say or do anything"

when i asked "what if one of these days u will find someone who'd be ur true love? she said "nothing will happen either"

very very different culture from mine. but i respect it, even though i don't agree.

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

Macky 911: "Obey their men"??!!!

Men in suits , women in bikini?? which place r we talkin abt??

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Macky911...oh pal, u r just so full of it!

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

pardon my ignorance...but wht is a bimagy??

Couldnt understand point 3 either!

"3. They don't need exposure to western culture as they are ok with one husband."

wht is the connection between exposure to western culture and being ok with one husband??

Irrysa:quite some points there. But I do foresee a better future for Indian women coz the tables r really turning n quite fast too!

n yeah,IMHO, being single is way better than making 'adjustments' that one doesnt like!

If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you.

Perhaps, by using the term "obey their men", you've identified part of the problem.

Trus and support is very important, but obey ?

Is this ok??

Relationship build on support and trust thats what the secret of india married life,india womens respect their men and obey their men not like western culture where women and men got same right where women is sold worthless then the animal,mens in full suit where womens in bikini,mens jurking womens working.....

if you look at the history,freedom to womens in any country always been misused....

"Love is not just limited to butterflies and sex

It’s to recognise and respect each others intellects"

Sometimes just reading different "viewpoints" can help us make changes to our own.

As long as we don't get offensive or rude, we can actually learn from each other.

Wouldn't you agree?

lol Oryx....the poor women should be paid for the pleasure....eeewwww

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

Yes Super

Imagine paying for the men!

More fool Indian ladies... they need a few lessons from the Qatari chicks...

western culture rears its ugly head AGAIN......Shilpa Shetty hasn't done badly has she?....

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

IN MOST OF THE CASES, THE DIVORCES ARE RELATED TO DOWRY WHERE WOMEN IS ASKED TO PAY MEN.

NEXT, OFCOURSE IS WESTERN CULTURE.

LAST IS MISCELANEOUS.......

Murali.... you take offense but yet you put an offensive cartoon on your post..... think on!

A bit hypocritical my friend.

To be quite honest, does anyone really care??

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

What’s the point in adjusting if they cant get along? Why should they suffer life long if both parties are not happy in the marriage? It’s stupid to be in the marriage just for the sake of it. Indian women should wake up I guess modern women are more financially independent and they don’t tolerate SH** from her husband for his family for whatever reason.

Murali, it won't be sorted out and u know it and we all do. whoever will put their 2cents in it, it will be their private subjective opinion, nothing else.

not trying to offend anybody here,

and my 2 cents are, that u have a different culture and society doesn't look good at divorced women, as if they were 2nd hand goods, no matter if they r educated, beautiful and so on.

another thing, in my opinion, is the fact that ur women r less independent in life. it is all about the family. if a lady doesn't have a satisfying education/job/careere, she is more likely to stay in a relationship that she feels very unhappy in. simply because of the fact that she depends on her husband/family.

but there r plenty of other factors involved here...

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

adjustments lol..very nice....adjusting cos she has no choice but to adjust

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

As long as it gets sorted out what is the problem then?

I dont understand whuy so much of India bashing/glorifying? Cant we just have world peace??? :)

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oh, this can go on forever...

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

Husband does something wrong or the wife something then they discuss and sort it out.

adjustments?? Like what?

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

are really loosing there culture these days.

Supernurse: There is something called adjustments thats what Indian ladies and their husbands do.

Bimagy even! How terrible!!

More fool the Indian ladies I say.......and they can keep their Indian men too.....

"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid."

- George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)

Hi Murali

hope doing well

This issue is too long to discuss

On fact Indian women are now changing lot bcoz the influence of western culture.....

Its really killing the our own culture