Does Age Matter?

There's a section here in QL just for that...

Come to think of it...I think I should be activating my blog again...

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!- UNKNOWN

 hahhaha...hopelessly devo, i dont think you would post that story in this thread!

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

 Never.. hehehe.. In other words you want me to post how crazy, blind, and stupid I was? Nah

Me, Myself, & I

 Oh yeah  Ask me about it! I was crazily in love once upon a time! LOL

Me, Myself, & I

 hopelessly devo..wow that hit me quite a bit.

we start putting our own love rules that fits our needs...

this could be one of the reasons why my past relationship didnt work out.

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

lovinni, trust me no matter how philosophers we may become about such issues related to love, when you fall in love, you fall in love blindly and just forget all rules. We are all looking for Mr. /Ms. right, and when we think we found one, we start putting our own love rules that fits our needs, and suddenly the wrong turns into right, and what we thought was impossible appears to be simply possible and acceptable!

Me, Myself, & I

fell in love with a man 13 years my senior. Didn't mind it as we were both huge (overweight) at that time so we looked like 2 bouncing balls..lol

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!- UNKNOWN

hopeless devo...ok i get your point! anyways ive seen couples confidently going out together in public and you can tell about 15 yrs or more gap.  well its not bad, some people just dont mind it anyway...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

 lovinni, I did not say grandpas! I said an older man. Means maximum 10 years older than me. And yes, I do not mind going out with him. When you love someone and you really feel fitting together, you will not only go out in public with him, but also take a ride to the moon proudly with him. Hope I did not expose the dreamy part of me!

Me, Myself, & I

is it safe to say that those engage in may-december relationships, the older partner is in middle age state? these people feel young despite the number!

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Am I safe to say I'm in the "middle age"?

 Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!- UNKNOWN

“Middle age is when you're old enough to know better but still young enough to do it”

 hopelessly.devo, do you feel comfortable going out in public with an older guy?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

 For me, as a female, I do not mind being in a relationship with older men, but NEVER younger men! Age sure matters in some situations. I always find it weird to see a man with an older woman!

Anyways it is a long discussion. You also have to take into consideration that biologically women looks older than men with time and through years, so defently men will sneak out!! grrrrrrrr

Me, Myself, & I

Age is just a number. There is no such thing as perfect match,because in this world nothing is perfect .The most important thing in a relationship is how you will take care of your partner  and try to work out things and you must know what he/she likes to do.

I have always dated women that were older than be but am learning now that it does not matter as much as I myself get older.  I always felt that I had grown up faster than other around me and have continued to do so until my friends started gettign married, kids, and other forms of lame-ness... jk  This always led me to want older women because they offered more than a "sidekick" role. I didnt want somone that followed my lead and didn't have a life of thier own.  At some point I realized that even some of the older women were only interrested in me because they didnt want to grow up themselves.  I most recently had a great relationship with a girl slightly older but near the same age.  If this all sounds contradictory than you have read correctly.  I still am drawn toward older women and feel a bit creepy about persuing younger ones but this line is much more skewed now and I am totally willing to say that I dont have the answer.  SOoOoo, PM if you wanna help me test these wonderings, hahahaha jk

Mitch

Keep me in mind for next time. Older, currently undergoing complete Engine overhaul and very little baggage to carry. Just bear it in mind, wink wink. 

Fairy tales don't tell children dragons exist. Children know dragons exist. Fairy tales tell children dragons can be killed. G.K Chesterton

You can't teach experience...

 your welcome mr kali escrima...this post is applicable to all of us...somebody might just pop in our lives be it a  younger or older partner but in the end we choose what to make in our lives...forget what people say, what is important is what makes u happy!

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

good Vegas...

"Everything in life is destiny."

i have had relationships with both matured n younger females.i can only say that its not the age,but it's how u do it and how u handle it.now i am outta of my relationship,still complating of  the pros and cons of this myth.

Ms.Lovinni thank u for this post because it will help me think about what am i going to do next time.

GODBLESS US ALL.MABUHAY MGA PILIPINONG MANDIRIGMA!!! 

eefye...you never had a fight since then? amazing...well i guess you pretty worked it up and aside from that i bet you have a strong chemistry...

CHEERS!

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

You can't teach experience...

lol....

really as long as he or she doesnt look like granma or granpa that's fine..

i know one guy he's always telling me that he feels like 25 and i agree..

"Everything in life is destiny."

are the things you need to make a relationship work.

And quoting Cornellian...age is just a number.

Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain!- UNKNOWN

I think that just about sums it up....LOL

You can't teach experience...

My wife is 18 years younger than me and we are married for 8 years with 2 beautiful children as a result.

Before I met my wife I also thaught that a relation between 2 people of different age groups could not work but we just fell in love a love that only grew stronger over these 8 years.

We never had even 1 fight since we met and we enjoy eachother each and every day

Eef

Age doesnt matter as long as he doesnt look like your grandma or grandpa..

"Everything in life is destiny."

 hi spicemom i didnt notice your post earlier...yes its true that the partner we want has something to do on the impact of our parents to us... a son would certainly avoid a nagger gf/wife if being brought up to a nagging mother. or a daughter would prefer an older partner due to the absence of a father figure in her childhood days...and there are a lot more reasons...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Sorry to misunderstand you...

i'm a girl....

God Bless

You might want to read my post once again...just once...

I didn't ask you what religion you were...and I dont take interest in that at all...however what you just said about belief in God is quite right...

but then the only clarification that i required was were you a girl / boy...so i can address you correctly...cos your name is rather long...and too many letters...

No matter my religion is, it doesn't kill anyone by knowing the bible verse, i'm just expressing my comment the way i know how.

Religion is not important as long as i believe in God and that's it. for your info i'm a Christian if that's want you want to hear from me.

God Bless

Hey buddy, whats with you and religion...you are you know with alll due respect...starting to kill us...with tooo much religion...

In all fairness...you might want to tell us about your personal opinion and something from the Bible or elsewhere...

So come on get some life and wake up girl / boy...what r u by the way...jus for clarification...

Age doesn't matter. As long as you love him/her whoever she/he is, young or old, good or bad, don't mind age to love.

Proverbs 10:12

Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs.

Before we can fully love one another, however, we must fully love God and understand his love for us (Matthew 22:37-38).

Age doesn't matter

You can't teach experience...

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vegas care to share why ya laughing??cos i am lol too and i dunno why i am..............omg i am off my rocker today thanks to vegas.woohoo

ok if ya laughat 5 yr diff wat abt 4 yr diff??

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

How bout 20 years???

You can't teach experience...

Come on you pussy...bring that damn cat and continue with the fight...dont you try to wade away from the match on hands...

This is a no-disqualification match, now come on...forget this age matters thing...

Its way too boring...

No offence people...you want to continue talkin about age matters...pls continue to do...we are just taking away Smokey...

 guys no offense...but  maybe u can start a fight thread...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

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The maturity factor is more at play i think.. and i guess age effects maturity. However it is not matamatical.. some pleople mature early then others..

and some people (like me included) still hold on to the childish things about certain things..

to be in a meaning relationships, I guess both the parties should click.. in one sense being able to communicate at a deeper level, and the mush talk happens =) in all.. like the old Def Lepard's sayin..

"you can never change your heart, you can only change your mind.."

(trying to get 50 pts... >.<  )

i can agree with u, smoke...in my country, if ur coming from a conservative town, when an older woman has a relationship with a young man, it sparks a lot of talks...as it is in the norms that man has to be older than woman to carry out responsibilities...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

nope that not true in this day and age ...........then again tis diff ppl diff ball game, most of the time i have noticed even with an older husband the wife seems to be pulling the strings but then maybe that is how they like it.......some look for mothers in their wives where as some look for companions, best friends, partners in their wife.....(wat do i know - dugh)     

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

@ lovinni, my wife is older than me. on my opinion, if you  love someone, it really doesn't matter. i have seen a lot of couples a lady with an older lad and vice versa, and even for them they don;t see age as a hurdle to their relationship as long as they do love each other and happy together :)

- live your life as simple as you are

- money doesn't create man, but it is the man who created money

- don't do what others say, just listen to them, but do what you feel good

hmm doesnt this also have to do with how one has been brought up? i mean most cultures say that a man has to be older than his wife, and frown up women who marry younger men, they tend to call such women dominating, the men have no say in the relationship..more like puppets on a string. 

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is do darn easy to hijack any topic..........lol>good 'hijackers' we are

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

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 so ohbee wan, can u tell us your case?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

But you must be...MR PRESIDENT ???

Vegas, its only in a bit of fun (well, for me anyways)

And how did we hijack this topic ???

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does age matters? well not in my case though :) 

- live your life as simple as you are

- money doesn't create man, but it is the man who created money

- don't do what others say, just listen to them, but do what you feel good

lying in your profile wont make things better now... 

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Paul you tried to tackle the KITTY once before and u lost remember those good old days? its ok if you dont thats one of the perks that comes with oldage :) 

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I'm cool kasarat, just need a beer !

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You can't teach experience...

hehe count a little slower ksarat we need paul to catch his breath 

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Face it, you tried to tackle MR PAUL.....And ya lost !! Get over yerself..

LOL

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of 10...smokey, get your a z z back into the ring...

Dont make me count you out...

1....2.....3....4 come on now...get that a z z of yours back into the ring...

I cant have Mr. Paul waiting all day long...I'm sure he has other things to do (Better things to do being a weekend...aint ya Mr Paul)...

oh paul please if i had to make u break a sweat you'd be getting a heart attack silly old man 

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No i'm singing..One day or another i'm gonna get u...i'm gonna get, you get you, get you..one day or another... lol

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PUSSY !!!!

And i didnt even break a sweat !!!

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hey smokey are you singin I HATE MYSELF FOR LOVIN YOU??BY any chance..................

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

i hate you all! i'm going to go find people that will love my cat for who it is :( 

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did ya hear that folks the cats days are numbered. ..... till wat number is it may i ask MR PAUL??(hope it aint too big number)hehhehhehhehe>i am so gonna get whacked for this one......ewwwwwww

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

Maybe participate??? LOL

You can't teach experience...

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MR PAUL - just for the fun of it if lets sayif ya decide to fall could ya try to fall on that blinkin cat pls......or at least pretend to fall but on that cat???

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

And trust me I am a very fair referee...

(Atleast I get to have some beers in between the rounds)...

The match gets cancelled off if the referee falls out...Lol...

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woohoo i love it when men turn to boys ................hehhehehehhehhe(very entertainin indeed)

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

well the bigger they are the harder they fall..and the harder u fall the better it is for me to make my escape :) 

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PSSST vegas , shall we catch that darn cat and snip off that tail?? 

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

pants on !!!

Anyone who knows me, will know i am a drinking monster...

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okies spicymommy you stay away from my cats behind and i'll stay away from yours :)  

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You can't teach experience...

uhhh smoke, I said "older man" not 12 year old child

Now run along and play with ur action figures... 

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

Oh Mr. Paul what makes u think my cat would leave his lovely home and wander the streets? Oh well lets settle this like real men...Lots of BEER the first one to drop to the floor loses. of course the beer bills always on you.

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>swat cat's behind now behave i tell ya or i'll hang ya upside down in the sun................(and there ladies and gents is how we have a sun dried cat................lol)

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

You can't teach experience...

and i bet that cat is running on it's last life- the 9th one................hehehhehhehhe

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

Grrr spicymommy i said i'd hide BEHIND your dress not UNDER! geeze what sorta mommy thinks like that! MOTHERS now a day i tell u too much green tea. 

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Mwuhahaha !

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Yes corny u dont have to drop hints i know i'm older and i know you want me  *slaps corny on the bum*

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You can't teach experience...

thank you MR PAUL, you are such a kind gentleman, maybe you could teach the blokes in here a thing or two??

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

lol you'll have to catch me first old man...last i heard u cant get very far with the walking stick :) 

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What I'm saying smoke, is the young like the old and the old like the young. We want what we don't have, for example I'm young...I want someone old cause I don't have that, it's something different. 

Ofcourse there are many exceptions, but that's just the trend I've been seeing around.  

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

sorry smokey babe that aint me i aint wearing no dress today>......hmm wonder who could that be

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

And leave spiceymum alone ya bunch of Pervs !!

Shes a happily married lady.

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You can't teach experience...

oh oh run smokey runnnnnn *hides behind spicymommys dress* 

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That was a good one-liner..."too damn picky", you sound to be having a buffet meal everytime, you are not one of those A-La Carte Menu people...

You can't teach experience...

You wait till i meet you mister !!!!

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melikes yr style vegas.......

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

You guys are too dam picky...

You can't teach experience...

you have a point there corny but then if thats the case then people with vast age differences really wont be happy in their relationship is that what ur saying? Lets say a man marries a older woman...when she's what 40 and lets say he's in his 30's, if what your saying is true then the 30 yr old guy will feel that his wife is too old for him and that he should start looking out for a younger female?  like wise with older men and younger females are u saying once a man reaches a certain age like what 50 he will start looking for older woman ( like Mr. Paul lol)

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Its just the way it happens.......And yes, i am the execption to all the rules !!

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Actually smoke, young women prefer older men, but once they hit a certain age (early 30's or so) they start prefering younger men. It's the same with men, young men prefer older, more experienced women, but again once they hit a certain age (which is later than women) they start looking for younger women.

I think it has to do with trying to feel younger by being with a younger person (a 50 year old man wants to feel in his 20's again) or feeling older by being with an older person (a 20 year old guy wants to feel more like a man in his 30's).  

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

I'm sure for such a free spirited and high energetic and charming personality that you are, you shouldn't be an inch bothered with what people think ey mate...

And for the second, about you getting what you want...hmmmm...I am quite ready to bank my money on that line of yours, (ofcourse on your side)...quite confident, ( well you could say, more confident than you) that you get what you want, infact you KNOW how to get it YOUR WAY...LOL......aint I right buddy...

I am not dreaming Vegas. I got what I want in man with my husband.

My comments above is as if I were single. lucky am not.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

Paul your an exception to every freaking rule :) but are u saying u prefer older women to younger ones or ur just in a relationship that happened to be the lady is older then u? there's a big difference there old man 

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ksarat, i dont care what people say.. they dont know me so let them talk. I know what i like and most of the time I work to get what I like and I get it. wink...

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

 yeah thats why i verified first..i dont want to get into trouble!

its really LOVE that matters! Love is all that matters, faithful and forever....now im singing...hehhehe

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

RP- do you speaketh the truth O wise OL RP??

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

. So what do you say to that Mister ??

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You can't teach experience...

for this reason plastic surgery is becoming a booming business

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naahhh lovi...you don't want us both in trouble here would we?....  my answer is L.O.V.E  (lol..yeah right...)

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You sure are ready to drag me into the conversation aint ya buddy...

I must say, somebody was speaking of fountain of  youth, o were they referring to you buddy...more like a fountain of...

Gals like older guys and Guys like younger girls...why else would God Create Adam first and Eve much much later ;) 

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 hmmmm..you mean the size owen?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Spicemom  If you found the fountain of youth then you found midlife crisis. That is what the natives did not told the conquistadores.  "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

ksarat, dont feel miss-out dear... when you have the size, for sure you will make a smile in woman face. hehehehe

lovinni, I have few friends married to away older man and so far they are fine. So really as Red Pope said, depend on the foundation of the relationship, if you have same dreams to grow old together.. it will work. insyaallah...

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

ok...there's a conclusion now...can we shift now to what they have been wanting to discuss...  what really matters?

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age dont matter compatibility does (well for me anyways) and i found my 'fountain of youth'......lol

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

You can't teach experience...

 i can conclude from all your posts that age does not matter so much but its COMPATIBILITY...and a number of u, prefer older partners...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Come on now people,

This topic is for AGE MATTERs and Not SIZE Matters...LOL...

So keep it a clean morning..especially you Mila...

RP - is the high lift cranes for those dead engines that needs to be over hauled??

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

you are right...

"As long as you get along with each other then go ahead but if  the relationship become uncomfortable and boring then dump him and find a new one.".. and again age has nothing to do with it..

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This Too Shall Pass.....

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Lets not forget the high lift crane for those dead Engines full of viscosity..... "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

I think age is just a number, and can be very easily overcome if the couple is compatible. However, one aspect in which age can become a factor is EXPERIENCE. If one partner is much older than the other, then he/she is probably more experienced in relationships  and life in general, and conflicts may arise because of that. But if both are understanding of the issue and try to work together then it can work out. 

I'm not always right, but I'm never wrong -Garfield

lol GM...you really made me laugh...

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"Make a difference or make way"

A fork lift would help in that case

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 It all depends in the foundation of your relationship, If you build your relationship very solid and strong, then your marriage has no definition for the age gap.  If, you start thinking and questioning  the age gap, then you are asking for headaches and infidelity issues,  probably you only last about 5 to 10 years into your marriage, then you end up divorcing her or him.   "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

my current stand as of now..is that it does NOT matter....as i haven't tried "partners in all ages" .....all of which are the same as my age or younger by two years....but hey, compatibility here is the key...irregardless which age you both are if you both lacking compatibility then that would affect all factors.. :) 

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size does help KH, wink...but age is depend to the baggage he carry. hehehehe...'

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

Those are endless questions and no specific answer.

But what I discovered today is that we have baby sitters among the social group

Guess one has to try all ages and sizes then decide.

Anyhow. The norm is to have man older for many factors.

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Thank you for your honesty.  "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

 Red Pope, as to your question...it really matters if its an obvious gap. the younger ones tend to be so conscious if seen by older or very old partner...and i guess this is due to society's stereotyping...that in most cases younger women are after to old man's pocket...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

wel. if you got married at 12-15, then yes, you could see the difference.. but what is the "difference" between 32 and 37-years old persons?? If you are not mature enough in your 32 to match your 36-37 years old  partner, so forget about it, you never will...

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This Too Shall Pass.....

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of thinking wether you choose an old or young partner. Relationship is based on trust, communication and respect. Without these three things, your what you called "love" will not last. As long as you get along with each other then go ahead but if  the relationship become uncomfortable and boring then dump him and find a new one. 

EMS- "Our job is to save lives and we are highly trained to do it"

Red Pope, I am happy with my younger husband. so there you go... guess age doesn't matter as long as you both are happy  and living in same dreams thats the important issue beside the same sense of humor, intellectual, sex-drive, and many many quality that you can find in the person you loved.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

what trust has to have with AGE at all?? there trustful and trustable PEOPLE, there are NOT... that's it...

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This Too Shall Pass.....

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Syamsat, thanks hon... next time better luck for sure. wink

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

The question that needs to be ask, is the following: Are you happy with the age difference of your husband or wife?   "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

 that's why love is always a question. Why? Why? Why? 

Men hunt for younger women because women mature mentally/emotionally faster than men. A 12-year-old boy is no match for a 9-year-old girl in emotional intelligence. Add to it that after a point men don't grow. They cling on to their ideas and never let them go.

"Life is like a bicycle, if it's too easy - you're probably going down :)"

 syamsat, that is definitely an ADVANTAGE! so its a right choice for you...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Good thing is I became 5 years younger(psychologically) after I got married. by getting back to those enjoyments, which I left 5 years back.

Mila..next time good luck..

I forgot to add in the phrase...With Exceptions always...

Seriously, thats what it is all about eyyy...you need to know that you can trust your partner blindly...atleast you need to be very sure about the commitment and trust factor...

I'm sure they are such wonderful people but how did they do such a big mistake...(CHRIST GIRL ! ! ! THEY BROUGHT YOU INTO THE WORLD...I''m sure they are paying the price for that...LOL....)...No offence...and dont kill me as well...

with regards to international couples...why do these men hunt for younger women?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

A very common reason, many women turn to older men is tht these men r more mature than the men their own age. women do not want to date a man who would rather play computer games then spend time with her.

The best women are between 30 and 35. Mature, not silly, no nags, experienced(!?) etc.

Guys will be the same whatever the age.

Aunt Polly

For a woman who comes from a conservative family , where others have been taking decisions for her for ages, it is better that she gets married to someone a few years older. this person can help her take decisions in life.Also women are supposed to look older than men as time goes on , so maybe its wiser for women to choose older men to get married to.

Men who come from traditional families and feel the necessity to be the decision maker in the family also need to look for younger women as a life partner.It will boost their ego and give them a feeling that they are looking after the woman and others in the family.

i don't know about the situation in cases where the families are more modern in their outlook .

Thanks

speaking generally - yes.. but relationship between two people with huge difference in age is not too common by itself.. so when we see these kind of couples, make sure: THEY ARE BOTH not ordinary..

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i'd say there r other things that matter more than the age.

understanding, compatibility, sense of humor. i'd say size matters more than the age even! LOL!

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

dw and I virtually never talked during our dates.  We just sat together and thought.  This worked wonders and we're doing well together.  dw is taking this difficult time in stride.  No compaints! 

We are both almost same age (she's a little older) but we think alike.  We think along the same lines.

well QS, if I cannot find one of the 3 requiremetns in older man, than whats the point, I rather go with the young man and do crazy stuffs together which is more fullfilling to me.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

what a nonsense: "you just cant trust a person who is way toooooo younger than you (5 - 7 yrs)"????  My Mom is younger than my dad for 11 years... they had a perfect life together.. there are billions examples like mine one...

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I do agree with you , 4-5 years is not bad and there is a good thing in that too. most people dont look into it.  

YOU DONT KNOW ME, DONT EVEN TRY !!!

QS, you have a point in there...but generally speaking the age of a person also relates his/her lifestyle. but of course as an exception you can find people in their 50's heading to bars or otherwise people in their 20s behave like old people.

this is where compatibility comes in regardless of age...

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

My Confession Booth is available in three categories:1-For the young and restless lovers?2-For the old and worn out lovers?3- or The honey money pluggers?"Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

guys... guys...older man to me doesn't mean same age like my dad. come on.. you think I am that desperate to get rich (although I do but NO... i can find other way to get rich thank you very much)

Older man to me have to be 5 - 10 years different. thats my ideal. but bad luck to me now I have younger husband.

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

they have more experience - yes.. BUT.. it doesn't always mean that they are WISER.. and that they "have MORE MONEY"... not at all...

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Sure Age matters, you just cant trust a person who is way toooooo younger than you (5 - 7 yrs)...and no idea about someone being older...

You rather your priorities and commitments quite right when you going into a relation, it always comes in handy...rather than left stranded in a desert where you are going to be watering the whole desert with your tears if you had a terrible time...

Oooops...way too much senti...

Just an observation....when I see another international couple, more often than not...it is the much older dh and younger dw.

see? all of them they have ideas and points in every angles...

each of us have our own destiny...some say, we can make/programme our  own destiny but other say's, we are just following the path of our destiny...I say each of us  must be careful to follow which is right from wrong and what to choose from sadness and happiness....

each human being have their own choice in life...each should make thier life worth living...

"More money" LOL! Mila, i was waiting for someone to mention it :D

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

i agree... it's not the digits in the passport that make (or doesn't make) the relationship working (again, i am not talking about  a HUGE difference, which can prevent the couple from marriage and having kids or so..),

but compatibility of personalities

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Older Man, thats mean = they have experience, more wise (not childish) for sure more money. hehehehe 

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.

4 or 5 yrs older is not so much a gap...but what about by decade? 10 or 20? hmmm....a huge difference isnt it?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

it ALL depends on the particular person.. I know guys in their 20s, they are hardly moving their a**.. all they want is just to sleep and watch TV at home..lol... I know one couple, he is 27, she is 37, and they are fighting every time, coz she wants to go for the party, for the dancing, for the camping, and he only wants to sit home and drink his endless beer..lol... how about it?

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to me it does matter if the guy is younger than me...if he's older, i don't mind. would actually prefer him to be older.

i know lots of long-term couples with big age difference or women older than man... it all doesn't matter.

my mum is 4 years older than my dad :o)

If you're looking for a problem, you're probably gonna find one.

For most people, age brings maturity.  There are some exceptions.

I married dw who is older than I after dating young women who were too silly.  They didn't think in the future, plan ahead, or didn't know what a relationship really meant.  I didn't have time for such nonsense.  Older women are good and know what their man wants.

5 years - is a GAP?? that needs to be "adjusted"???..lol.. you must be kidding...

Mila, congrats... well...but again, 5 years is NOTHING....

well... i'll keep the diference in age with my buddy with me, ok?

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 i think one disadvantage of going out of older men is...you find it hard enjoy the things of your youth. especially if its a huge gap. they may not allow you to go parties coz as they say...they know whats going on...

but if you find a very understanding man who allows you to be you...then i guess there wont be too much problem...

do you think it is necessary to live in someone elses era?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Love is mystery, no matter how young and old you are as long as your in love and happy it conquers all. it depends how you accept and handle the relationship.

I really does matters, people have different priorities and their taste for things change with their age. you learn and behave accordingly as you grow. so I guess a huge age difference might cause some problems in a long run. Exceptions are there and depends how much one can scarifice for the other.

Mila  If, You are a strange creature in a strange planet, full of older man and woman, then you are the only young female creature, What will they think of you? "Every once in a while, declare peace -- it confuses the hell out of your enemies." - Quark quotes a Rule of Acquisition, "The Homecoming"

Mila, good choice!

Older man is better, but doesn't mean he would as old as your dad!

"There's nothing we can do to change the past, if it teaches  you a lesson profit from it then, forget it."

 so mila what seems to be a great advantage to older men?

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

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My wife is 5 years younger to me.. It took some time to adjust to the age gap.

I prefer man older than me. But my husband is younger than me. hihihi...

Everybody is right Everybody is wrong, it depend where we stand.