Why Women Are Picky?Do They Succeed In Relationship?

love and appreciate someone for who they are and not for what they can give and offer you..

but if that is their decision to pick who they want to be friend with just respect it.....its so sad that there are people who looked only whats on your pocket and not whats on your heart!

dont give up searching for a true friend im sure it will come on your way soon...

to be "picky" as you call it to protect themselves from men that don't always tell the truth and present themselves as something they are not.  Maybe as modern executive women we have earned the right to be picky. The confusion is in your head.

We should not be picky you know..

we have to always put in mind that there is no such thing as Mr. Right...

if you will wait for this Mr. Right you will end up lonely for the rest of your life.

Appreciate people the way they are..

"Everything in life is destiny."

Well...

"apart from his physical

appearances,nationality and financial status?"

There are factors aside from these that I'm meant to be considering? Man, I knew

I was screwing up the dating thing.

Actually, I'm kidding.

I dread the mere thought of wading into the relationship pool in this

country. In Australia I dated a little, but here? Suddenly it doesn't seem so

bad that I talk to my plants and consider watching a movie for the third time to be time well spent.

Consider things from our point of view... are we being picky? Try cautious.

I walk down the streets and wish I could hide. Men here converse with my rack, not me. If the bulk of men that I encounter are walking around thinking I'm fair game because I'm not Muslim and from a Western nation then... they're in for a surprise. My high standards exist only to protect myself emotionally and

physically.

I don't "look" for a certain nationality, but I sure as hell want

him to speak English just as well as I can... how else will we communicate? It helps if we have things in common, like knowledge of popular culture, music and acceptable behavior. As for money? No, he doesn't need to be rolling in it. I'd just like for him to be solvent and not have to worry that I could offend him by making far more than he does. It isn't about you not measuring up, it's about us needing certain things and assurances that we will be safe, respected and able to form an equitable and happy relationship with a man. Women want partners, not lapdogs. With inequality brimming, as it is, in Doha.... when is that likely to happen?

*prepares to spend her Thursday night washing her hair*

try this

very primitive one but helps

http://family.findlaw.com/marriage/marriage-guide/marriage-ready-test.html

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Genuinefriend, I guess the word 'picky' gives a negative tone to your question. For any men or women entering a long term commitment of marriage, the decision requires a lot of hard thinking. So I would suggest that you too should sit down and jot on the paper what exactly you are looking in your bride to be. Make a priority list, that is .This will give you an insight on what qualities you are looking in your partner.

As for your question on does such a relationship succeds ? I would say nothing in the world is perfect. If you have decided to make your marriage a success, and you work on creating a harmony it will.

It is about respect and doing the right thing and really being honest in a relationship. You are looking too deep with a shallow mind.  It is not about race, creed or ethnicity.  I use the word respect again and that comes with maturity. When I choose someone to love it is about how the feel about themselves, and about how they treat me.  Treating parents with respect is a big thing too. If I were looking at you for instance, I wouldn't see your race, care where you lived or your materialistic life style or how much money you made or where you were from.  I would be looking at your heart.

A woman wants someone who is going to be their equal.. isn't it true that 'water finds its own level'?

I speak from experience here having been blinded by good looks and charm in a parner from an entirely different background and academic mindset. (Only to find that it was these differences that overwhelmed everything else.)

It doesn't necessarily come down to money or status, but when women are so busy juggling everything, they ultimately want to settle with someone with an ability to make decisions (sometimes for both of them).. and someone who is not going to need looking after themselves 24/7.

 Someone who has a backbone as strong, or indeed stronger than ours is someone who is always going to be attractive.. 

I think that's a double standard right there. It's unfair for women to be called picky when most men are the same.

Ok, for one thing, you certainly didn't just meet your fiancee today and decided that you wanted to ask her to marry you right.? I'm sure you have your own standard. Choosing a non picky woman is you being picky don't you think?

For another, why worry now about picky women when you're already planning to get married with a non-picky woman nonetheless.

“People think it must be fun to be a super genius, but they don't realize how hard it is to put up with all the idiots in the world.”

- Calvin and Hobbes

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seriously was funny..no need to blush...

You had me blush. And still

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i like KH posts...lol..expiry and faulty calculator...funny and true...

neither am I...lol... I like TO LOVE, not to count his money...lol... but anyway, i like some certain type of man.. he should be bright, strong (mentally), fast thinking and fact acting, very active, not lazy and not cheap ( it doesn't mean I need his money, but when i see a man shaking on his every cent it's really driving me crazy...and it hs nothing to do with how rich or poor he is)

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Women as well as men fall into different categories.

I know some women who are (were) very picky to the extent that they reached expiry and then expired while they are (were) still considering what to pick.

SOme do extensive calculations and end up using a faulty calculator. They discover the quality of their calculator when it is too late.

Some jump into the first opportunity being impressed by what they see. They discover the reality very late or after the fact.

Mainly. Those who succeed are those who are themselves without any "cosmetics"

Luck is not to be ignored.

Same applies to men.

Good luck everybody.

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Below is Ragnarock Raider's signature.  I saw it and thought about this thread!  

"Perfection does not exist. The question therefore, is: what level of imperfection are we willing to settle for?"  How true!!!

It's not just the fairer sex that can be "picky", us men can be quite selective too, especially if we're looking for a life partner.

From the last few sentences of your post, genuinefriend, I suspect you're having a little confidence issue at the moment.

Unfortunately, or fortunately (whichever way you may want to look at it) most women are pretty astute when it comes to recognising this and confidence is usually a very important attribute when attracting the opposite sex.  (correct me if I'm wrong girls...)

Sorry, but I think Qatarisun pretty much hit the nail on the head with her very first reply post! 

am picky. don't like sissy men.  If I'd choose, I'd choose someone with an air of authority around them.

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One of the hardest things for us to do in our human nature is to just stop what we are doing to allow God to produce in us what only He can produce.

lol genuine friend...if you are planning to pick a non picky woman then you really dont have a problem..Good luck...

p.s why women are picky? I see it like this why buy a second hand car with problems that you have to deal with and will cause you problems when you can wait till you find the new perfect car that will run smoothly(well most of the times)..Lifes too short to be with the wrong person....

there ya go gypsy we are even now i guess>one is picky the other wont commit....lol

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

 Why are women picky? Why can't men Commit? The eternal questions. 

"When they say he could walk on water, I think of it like he could fly like a butterfly, sting like a bee. Literal people scare me, getting it wrong fundamentally, down at the church of 'Look it says right here see!" Ani Difranco

i aint a picky woman(not picky eater,  and dont pick my nose....lol)on a serious note i aint bothered abt if he is good lookin or not , not concerned abt wat nationality he is, not care abt his financial status. wats important to me is that we are compatible, he is of good character and attitude and that he loves me unconditionally.......>i have found my soul mate so to speak.....

life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......

 most of the women nowadays go for men who are "challenging" whom we dont get bored...and also somebody who is compatible with our personalities.

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

Oh, btw.. I have this kind of friend in T.O… he is a VERY NICE Mexican guy.. very social, very kind, very friendly… he was proposing me once in a while during a year, until I left for Qatar.. He is really nice guy, and it’s real fun to hung out with him, going to the bar, clubs, latin dancing, etc.  but.. all he was dreaming about is the time when he can retire (he is just 35!!) , and how he can buy a little house in Mexico on the beach, and spend all his days… laying down in HAMAK!!! It is funny! I could never imagine myself spending all my days in HAMAK!!! He is really really nice friend, and excellent  guy to have fun with…BUT…HAMAK is everythign he dreams about!! .. we were just so much different in this matter! I think I will die at my work place, and he was dreaming about retirement since he was 25 I think..lol..

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such woman would most likely never fall in love with someone, let’s say lazy, or slow thinking, or whatever else, what is out of her image of successful man.. and again, not because she “calculated” it, but because she literally and naturally cannot have RESPECT to such man…

or may be she can fall in love for a while...but she will never choose him as her husband to ther rest of her life...

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yeah i agree with what you say.

the social position sometimes is the problem...   

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I would say, the higher social position of woman, the higher her expectations of her future partner….and it has nothing to do with the “calculation”… it is just self-respect and respect of her partner…

For example.  Lady X is smart and high educated person. She also possesses an executive position. It means, she has certain priorities in her life, certain goals, certain orientations and principles…

 there are some particular features that she would respect  in other people in general, and of course she want to see these features in her partner .  She wants to feel that her man AT LEAST is equal.  Not because she CALCULATED this way, but because particular criteria has been developed with the time, due to her life style…

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Nowadays, most of girls are picky. they go for MONEY.

(im not saying all of girls... im just saying mostly..^^)

sad, but true..

(well, life is hard and full of misery..we cannot blame them)

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Pick me.

The time has come to substitute caution for courage. Martin Luther King, Birmingham, Alabama 1963

i dont think the issue here is "picky" woman, its just that you havent found your match yet. 

im pretty sure there is a woman out there intended for you...who knows you'll cross your paths tomorrow! 

I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it.  ~Charles Schulz

There is no answer for this question…. because the question is invalid initially… if someone (yourself or somebody else) has been turned out, does it mean that the girl is picky? Or maybe it means that she just doesn’t love you? so easy...

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You dont have to find a non picky girl ... if she is non picky ... she'll pick you anyway ... stay happy as long as you are not picked ... genuine suggestion my dear genuine friend ...

Nobody dies a virgin ... Life Screws you anyway !!!

not all woman are picky. maybe some fall to this catagory because actually they have to much less self-esteem and too afraid to try something new.

Everybody is right and Everybody is wrong, its depend where you stand