Can You Control Your Anger??
Controlling your temper isn't always easy. But these effective tips will help give you the upper hand.
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1. Take a "time out." Although it may seem cliche, counting to 10 before reacting, or leaving the situation altogether, really can defuse your temper.
2. Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
3. Find ways to calm and soothe yourself. Practice deep-breathing exercises, visualize a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as "take it easy." You can also listen to music, paint, journal or do yoga.
4. Once you're calm, express your anger as soon as possible so that you aren't left stewing. If you simply can't express your anger in a controlled manner to the person who angered you, try talking to a family member, friend, counselor or another trusted person.
5. Think carefully before you say anything so that you don't end up saying something you'll regret. Write a script and rehearse it so that you can stick to the issues.
6. Work with the person who angered you to identify solutions to the situation.
7. Use "I" statements when describing the problem to avoid criticizing or placing blame. For instance, say "I'm upset you didn't help with the housework this evening," instead of, "You should have helped with the housework." To do otherwise will likely upset the other person and escalate tensions.
8. Don't hold a grudge. Forgive the other person. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want.
9. Use humor to release tensions, such as imagining yourself or the other person in silly situations. Don't use sarcasm, though — it's just another form of unhealthy expression.
10. Keep an anger log to identify the kinds of situations that set you off and to monitor your reactions.
11. Practice relaxation skills. Learning skills to relax and de-stress can also help control your temper when it may flare up.
After reading this, can u control your anger now???
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is a very strong emotion that difficult to control but I always manage to be silent about it when I am on this state because its really true that anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.
But, when I can't help it anymore I tend to shout and cry!
Cheers!
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"I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of time. To be in company, even with the best, is soon wearisome and dissipating. I love to be alone, I never find a companionable solitude"
I used to rarely get angry, then I moved to Qatar …
And no, counting to 10 is not enough, say more 1000!
get EVEN!!! ok...just kidding...but the part about doing something physical is what works for me..or driving...My car here in Texas has WAY too many miles on it due to driving away my frustrations and anger but I do love the relaxing feel of just letting my mind drift with the traffic and hitting the back roads that wind along, especially when the wild flowers are out in full force.
If I get truly angry though...I just get REALLY quiet then whatever does come out of my mouth usually has a direct hit..never on a personal level, but certainly gets my point across. My sons have come to call that look my "death look" and have learned to run far away when I get it...
Eh eh, caaalm down calm down.
Call me Maninibat!
Does having a PC mean we have to be always PC (politically correct).. i was bought up in world where life was sometimes bloody frustrating, (the car got bogged, the horse died, the money ran out, we got swindled, the crop got ruined in a flood or drought, people lied, the dog barked all night and drove us all crazy,) life was bloody annoying sometimes so people got ANGRY sometimes. it was appropropriate, it was human , it was allowed..!!
nowadays being ANGRY is absolutely a big NO NO!!.....DAMN IT... I SAY ITS OK TO BE ANGRY SOMETIMES... its normal and human and life dishes out things that we are allowed to be angry about....SURELY!!
please let us be allowed to be angry sometimes, so long as we don't hurt others with our anger.. let us be emotive, expressive human beings dealing with complexities and confusions of the 21st century.. lets not be pansy patsies, lets be real about the frustrations, lets be allowed to be ANGRY SOMETIMES PLEASE!!
LETS not be frightened of other people's emotions!! lets get real about how we really feel!! no more pretending!!
CLAIREBEAR
Some 2 hrs ago I was very very angry (of course after reading some posts here on QL). So I just went to corniche, had a nice stroll and came back. Again I am infront of PC, again some posts making me very very upset. Think I am taking QL to bed tonite...lol...Ohhhh...well am I hijacking this thread?
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I slam doors and am proud of it. The above tips are useful, but there is no way I will be thinking of those when I get mad, I have a BAD temper :D
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slams doors lol. I am being bad now, I know but can't help it muhahahahha
May the roof above us never fall in, and may the friends below never fall out!
till i dont see blood no chances of gettin cool at all no way.
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I have no problem with anger. But my husband does. He has as he calls it "hot blood" He gets angry about anything. I have tried and tried to help him. But no luck. Do any of you know about anger management courses/help in Qatar. Preferably in Arabic.
Aisha-Taweela
I used to do that also before but stopped once it hits my hand and throwing glasses against the wall to release anger.. but I realized it wont help at all, cos I have to clean the mess afterwards ;)
You see, It will do no good at all...
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2. Do something physically exerting. Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. Go for a brisk walk or a run, swim, lift weights or shoot baskets.
I used to slam doors and stamp up stairs a lot - I guess that counts, doesn't it? :/
Haven't done that for years! Well, not since the plaster at the side of the door cracked and my husband refused to fill it so it just sort of remained as a monument to my tantrum lol
All good stuff.
I was told some very wise words;
"It's ok to get angry, as long as you know you are angry."
If you know you are angry you can manage your reactions.
If you just fly off in a rage you are certain to mess things up.
I used to be very bad tempered and I still am, but now I keep check on myself and manage it.
Also;
Before you shout at someone, ask yourself, if they were bigger, scarier and more powerfull than you would you still shout at them in the same way.
Call me Maninibat!