Wanna run away

Kiarajane. No. you don't need NOC to leave the country. My wife has been in and out for 3 times last year without NOC. If you are serious about the SMS you sent to my wife, contact me through e-mail.

I haven't tried to leave Qatar as yet!

I was told by one of my husbands' colleague, that if wife are going on holiday without the husband she needs to show an NOC to the immigration that her husband knows that she's going away.

It's the same case in Saudi. I can't see somehow that I can experience that anyway, my husband always wants us all together to go on holiday!

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

What DingDong or Sputnik, ... [I don't know it is always confusing] is right. Publishing here in the website that you got a problem will bring a lot of people who really want to help you and others who want to help you for other purposes. All of we are willing to help you here in QL, but as Dingdong said, you should look for an old lady with experience in these things and have a daughter in your age. Just calm down, talk to her and ask for her help, tell her everything that you got so she would be aware of everything and give you the best solution.

Best Regards

Please listen to Dingdong.

what he wrote is the best advice in this forum you can find.

Burnout.

An 18-year old is legally an adult. No you can't adopt or sponsor someone of that age, unless you mean employment sponsorship, then it's possible if the sponsoring party has the legal means of sponsoring employees... as for socio-legal sponsorship, nope, not possible.

I was wondering...isn't it possible for someone to adopt or sponsor a 18 year old in Qatar?

Can you be my guide to go to Bali and Surabaya :)

You are bit wrong. you do not need the non objection letter from you husband to leave the country unless he files a police report aganst you. I never give any non objection letter to my wife to go for holiday.

Why don't you apply to some universites overseas and see who accepts you. Barring that look for relatives you can move in with, and if that doesn't work get a job and save some money and move somewhere else to get a job. Really not complicated, you just can't do it right away.

A good plan might be to get your CELTA or TESOL certificate. Takes about 2 months and a couple hundred bucks to get, you can even do it online, then you can move to Korea or China to teach English for 2 grand a month.

Check www.daveseslcafe.com for more info.

I feel your scorn and I accept it-Jon Stewart

Natasha,

It looks like you need real help real soon. By real help I mean something outside the forum.. something one-on-one face-to-face… true honest consultation from someone with some age and wisdom on their side and trust on your side. My humble advice is meet with an older lady you trust and respect and vent out what’s on your mind. Make SURE it’s a LADY. Notice, the sort of situation you’re in WILL entice a million guys to suddenly turn into compassionate doves who have no ulterior motive on their minds other than listening to you and “helping” you with your problem. Please don’t fall for that kind of stuff; it will create bigger problems than you already are in, guaranteed!

Also, please stop trying to solve this problem through posting on the forum because notice that in order to resolve a problem of this magnitude and in order to get valuable realistic advice, you have to talk openly and intimately without holding back. This is definitely NOT safe to do on the forum. After all, Qatar is a real small country. The more information you give out about yourself, the more at risk you become because you don’t know just who reads this forum and you’re putting it out there in public that you’re vulnerable. That’s just not smart at all. In my opinion, you’ve already given away too much information, at least more than I would ever be willing to share about myself on a public forum. You’ve already put pieces of information about your life that can lead to finding out your true identity, and that’s not safe or wise. So, please stop trying to resolve this problem with continual posting on the forum.

At any rate, you REALLY should meet with an older wiser lady as soon as you can, be it through this forum or through some other venue. Internet chat and forum-posting is just not the kind of medium that will help you sort out a problem of this caliber. Trust me on that one. You REALLY need real-life an aunt-like figure to talk you out of your problem.

Regardless of who you decide to meet, make sure she meets the following criteria:

1- She is a lady

2- She is older (40 – 60 years of age)

3- She has a family or she’s a mother (not a 50-year-old single woman still “trying out new adventures”, you need someone who understands family life)

4- She is as close as possible to your racial, ethnic, and religious background, and it would be great if she’s from a similar socio-economic class. The closer this aunt-like lady is to your background, the better the advice will be.

5- Men are not a good option to meet with regardless of how wonderful/professional they may be.

I know I may be sounding like a prick with this constant insisting on not having a man help you sort out this problem, but the reason I insist is because this precisely the kind of situation where the odds and chances are highest for a classic take-advantage-of-a-weak-woman situation.

I am giving you a professional opinion here… this is the kind of field I worked in for years… so please take my advice quiet seriously.

Good luck.

I feel sorry for you sweetie…but it's not the end of the world. If your mothers want you to stay away from her and she don’t want to take care of your education and other needs, the best way is you find a job. You may get a job here in Qatar as a Kindergarten Teacher…or in sales…some companies may even be willing to sponsor you. Take up some job …….work for some time and then you can decide what to do next. As your mom is not concerned about you, try to get admission in some university abroad and continue your studies after a year or so. Without proper education its really difficult to be successful in life.

Don’t think about running away…you can run away from a place…but not from your problem…you be safe and don’t get yourself in trouble…. As you are a young girl…there will lot of people to help you with bad intentions.. so watch out.

Besides talking on here, don't you have any friends that you can talk to and maybe shift over to their place when you actually havta get outta your house. I know this may sound a bit silly, but hey, what are friends for?

Alternatively, you could get a part-time job and look to paying your part of the rent etc.

Running off ain't a solution, (and that too SAUDI? omg... that's like from the frying pan, into the fire) you'll probably be running all your life when things get tuff... I know it ain't easy, but hey not everyone has their lifestyle given to them on a silver platter, we've had to work for it and may I add, at some point in time, struggle too.

Let us know if there is anything you think we could do for you and maybe we can discuss it here.

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You're making the girl/lady more confused...

Natasha, we know you're stressed because of the thought that your mom wants you out of the house by June. Running away to saudi or the nearest state you can go to won't solve the problem. Hate to ask this but where's your dad? Don't you have any communications with him or something. I know you're of the legal age whein you're considered as an adult but making a drastic decision on a whim is just adding gas to the fire.

Did you and your mom had a spat so bad that she wants you out? There's got to be a reason why?

Honey, we're here to help you out sort out your problems but don't expect someone will agree to your idea of running away. We know you're a wise, sensible girl...think it over.

If your Mom is behaving like, it's not good! Does she even think what will happen to you? Do you have a job? why would she ask you to pay rent?

Maybe she's just stress.

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

Think through what you are saying and what you really want. I will admit when I was 18 I did not get on very well with my father, we always argued and fell out over stupid things. I left to go to University at 19 I was relieved to get away, but as soon as I left I realised that there was no reason for the rows except my youthful stupidity and pig headedness. I love my Mum and Dad now more than ever I just needed the perspective of getting away to appriciate them.

I finished Uni and moved to London, but I would say that what ever feels bad or gets you down now always improves with time and sometimes distance. Don't run away there is no need particularly to Saudi (are you mad) but maybe a move would be good just do it in good time and plan well. If your needs are very urgent perhaps there are peeople who could advise you here be careful though. This is the web never agree to meet any strangers or give your details to anyone you don't know or trust.

Good Luck

Then why the hell do u feel like running away when ur mom wants it too?

Sputnik, the fact is, Mommy wants it too. She wants her freedom. She doesn't just want to know what happens to me. I have time till the end of June. After that I'll have to start paying rent to her, when actually the house is free for her. tis that crazy.

U r lost ...

Why do u feel like runng away from ur parents? R they forcing u to do somethng agnst ur willingness> or is it just temporary issue & u r unable to vent ur frustrations....What exactly is ur problem? Only then can w solve it....

Darling you cannot just cross any country you want without your mother's permission. like me! I cannot leave the country without any permission letter from my husband that he has objection for me to leave, even if I'm just going on holiday.

Be patient girl! don't do anything rush!

One day for sure, you'll have the freedom you want. just finish your study and be grateful for what you have.

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

Does it have to be a whole different country? Can young women not share apartments with their friends? I know the relationship with my mother greatly improved by just moving across town and out of the house!

I also think you need to find an adult to talk to that you can trust. You seem quite naive and desperate and I would hate for you to do something in the heat of the moment that you will regret later. Is there a teacher or anyone you can talk to?

Well, you guys sound like Saudi is a 'no way'! Wel i'd thought that was the closest. And I can't go to spain at the moment....(another story).

O God if i don't move out, I'm going to die. How about some other place like oman or kuwait or bahrain? Closer places...I don't think I can travel far and alone for the first time.

By the way...no turning back.

Wow… you have got to be a REAL desperate case to be thinking about "running away" to Saudi Arabia… of all places on earth.. Saudi Arabia??????? Damn you've got a serious case of desperation. You haven't seen Saudi Arabia, that's probably why you think it's one of the alternatives you can run to. Believe me, if you see it, you'll run right back to Qatar and think it's heaven.

From your writing, I take it you're a young person. Here is my two cents worth of advice… stay home.. with you family.. and get a good education like everyone else before me told you. THEN you can professionally "run away" to pursue your career anywhere you want to. That's about the only positive way of "running away", especially for a young person.

You can also take a break… go to Spain to your relatives for a few months… see what life is there like.. and then re-think your plans. I'm sure your family won't mind you going back to Spain if you like it there.

Whatever you do, don't just go to any place because you want to run from your family. That kind of thinking will not lead you any where positive.

Still not that easy! lots of documents to process and unless you're a close relatives like mother, father, wife, children of the person who's working there.

Woman working in Saudi cannot easily sponsor their husband!

So who is she going to in Saudi? if her mother and father are divorced for example it will be difficult for her father to sponsor her, visiting is easy but to live with him? they only issue family status visa.

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

What sort of education?

There's no way you can go to Saudi if you don't have any job offer!

Life is not that easy if you run away from your mother, You will not have a good future. All parents thinks of the best for their kids future. Without proper Education you cannot have anything you want. don't even think of running away! listen to your mother, it's for your own sake that's why she's very protective!

Just keep dancing, it will do you good!

Are you a Spanish citizen? Do some research on universities in Spain that you maybe interested in. Or universities anywhere in the world. Maybe there's scholarship money to be had. You can go where ever you want if you work hard enough to make it happen. But, whatever your issues may be, Saudi is not the answer!

Look sweetheart, it's ok think about running away from home at your age. But Saudi? Gosh!!!

Just try to get yourself into a good uni in Australia. That's definitely a better option than running away. And, I'm sure mum can cough up the dollars to sponsor your education after all these years working in Qatar. If not, it's quite easy to get a educational loan and you can always work part-time. Even at minimum wage I'm sure you can pay for your accomodation, and mum will cover the rest. Also, it's not very hard to get a permanent residency once you graduate.

oh dear, is not the end of the world. you can try to find part time job or full time job now and your collage can wait for one or two years till you hv enough money for it. please do not run away. maybe you can approach the bank here for study loan, i am not how this thing work but in some countries the bank do provides the study loans and you can pay back later with very small interest. tell us more why ur mother want to stop helping you?

What the hell happend Did the earth collapse DId u fall in love? Whao whats the hurry?

Well, I live alone with my mom (if i ever saw her). She wants to stop providing me as soon as possible...I want to do my college years somewhere else far away from her. Am 18 btw and getting suffocated.

How old are you?

Wait please, missunderstanding exists a lot of times between parents and their young children, sure your parents love you, but if you could tell us few details we will try to help you our best, and you can try us.

...bet those words aren't uttered very often.

My advice, stay in school, get a good education and then you can go, do, and see whatever you want.

What's the problem my dear? you cannot run away from your problem because it will hunt you down till you decided to face it like an adult and be wise about it. please share ur problem with us maybe we can help you? if you really want to get away lets go to my country Indonesia. I will be your guide and take you to the nicest places around. I am planning to go home soon. please dont run away from anything.