Gifts you should never give your girlfriend
Men and women are really different in many aspects: the way of thinking, their needs, expectations.
For example, gifts mean a lot to women, but we can't say the same thing about men. A woman knows how to ''read'' the message that a gift is giving, but men doesn't pay too much attention and importance to a gift.
So, choosing a right gift for a woman can be very difficult. The right gift tells her you're thoughtful, observant and you really understand her, but the wrong one can tell her just the opposite. Any gift that says you love her, that you cherish her, know her, is pretty safe. What happens if your gift doesn't transmit your real feelings for her?
A gift worth more than a thousands words for a woman. Not many of us, men, know which a bad gift for a woman is. In order to not surprise her negative with your gift, here are some gifts you should avoid buying her:
1. Insult gifts:
-Awful flowers – for women flowers have a big importance and that's why you have to realize the difference between good flowers and bad ones; if you don't know anything about flowers, you may ask a female florist to help you choose the right bouquet for your girlfriend; you don't want to go there with some flowers you may give to her grandmother, don't you?
-A cheap perfume – no matter how fancy it looks, you can't fool her; women usually know many things about the beauty products, perfumes, and which the best are
-Lingerie – is a risky bet; a lingerie made of flannel will be definitely not on her taste; you have to choose the correct size, the right style for her; you have to choose something that she likes and not what you'd like her to wear; if you didn't choose the right size, the message she will understand is or that she is too fat, or that you are insinuating she needs a breast enlargements; so, forget it
-Wrinkle cream – even if she does need it, you are not the right person to buy it; let her do it; you will make her feel old by bringing this
-Socks – are considered the most offensive and disappointing gift; most people are happy to buy their own socks; so it's not a good idea to choose
-Laser hair removal – even if you are tired of her mustache or stubbly legs, don't buy such a thing; maybe she will buy herself one from her own initiative
2. Gifts that require work:
-Cooking utensils – the message that she will understand from this gift is that her place is in the kitchen; a cookbook – might be thinking that you hate her cooking; if you want to encourage her to cook more you'd better make her some positive compliments; praise the meals she does and she will be more likely to take more of an interest in the culinary arts
-Cleaning products – as vacuum cleaners, mops, dusters, oven cleaner or other household cleaning products; she will wonder if that you consider that her place is dirty or what ; also she will understand that you see her more as a maid and not your partner
3. Things that make her feel bad about herself:
-Membership to a diet program – even if she told you that she would like to join one, it is not a good gift; she might think that you consider she is not beautiful anymore until she won't be lose weight
-Exercise equipment – it is an unpleasant way to tell her she's fat; you'd better ask her to join you at some activities such as cycling, hiking or jogging; say her that you want to do it for yourself and don't want to go alone; choose an activity that you think she would like and doesn't need an expensive equipment
-Clothes – again you may choose the wrong size, and make her feel bad; anyway, even if you have impeccable taste, clothes are a woman pleasure
4. Totally NO gifts:
-A pet – not everybody is glad to get a pet as gift, because to raise a pet involves a lot of responsibility, much work; is she said that she likes dogs that not necessarily means that she wants one; if she decides to buy a pet, let her choose one and buy herself
-A gift for yourself – like a golf set or a playstation; it will be a selfish fact; gift should be focused on what she wants and not what you want; don't assume that you have the same interest, because even if she stay and watch football games with you this doesn't mean that she wants to have soccer ball
5. Nothing
-Do not believe when she says that she doesn't need anything, because this is not true; she said this but she is expecting to receive something from you; if you appear there without a gift, you may see on her face that she will be disappointed and upset
I wish you good luck in choosing the right gift for your girlfriend and remember that you have to give her something that makes her feel special and loved; so, be thoughtful about it.
My Oh My!! I want to give her a real cabbage and look what she wants???...'Carbon'...just like like coal? really girls are strange creatures!
oh dear! It is really not rocket science...give her diamonds (real ones, she will know if they are fake) and all is good. Sheeesh.
i always thought pleasing woman was difficult but now i realise that it is impossible.
edifis, not as a gift.. :/
Mj..would you like a cabbage?
edifis, I don't know what your girlfriend is like so I cannot say.. :P
Mj...then what about a cabbage?
some of the mentioned gifts..I guess that's cos I'm a wife and not a gf,then!
edifis, I feel sorry for the poor girl already.. :/
Or a cauliflower?
I want to gift a 'jack in the box!' Hows that for a gift to a girl?
Yes, they've been around a long long while .. Why not try one..
WK hahahahaha... just kidding...
Osama not that i dont agree.... but i dont ask for money, i mean.. my guy can go shopping with me and will ask him to pay the bill..hahahaha :b
prettyice: it seems that u don't agree, do u?!!!
Don't push your luck now prettyice ;)
Cash????? hhmmm.... maybe that counts..
WK- add red ferrari car too..hahahahah :b
No tink.. main to aise hi....
prettyice: in my opinion we should add giving cash as gift in your list coz telling "buy the gift which u like" will make the woman feel that she is not that much important
lol WK.. ;-)
ya tinker got them.. Getting same msg, not an issue..
prettyice you never know ;)
WK i know.... maybe a house and lot then?hahaha ;-)
so there are battery operated toothbrush now? LOL..
Anyway, getting back to the topic..
As I'm sure Drmana will agree.. Lingerie of the tasteful and expensive kind does work..
Prettyice I won't even dream of giving something like that to you ;)
MJ the only sport I was ever good at was running so I did run really fast out of there ;)
you were lucky she didn't slit your throat with it.. :P
WK if i will receive the same gift, ill be devastated.....hahaha
I gifted her weighing scale and shaving blades, she didn't appreciate either one of them :(
lol brit, a toothbrush for a present to your gf.. she'll think you think she has bad breath.. hahaha
For goodness sake tinkerbell.. I was talking about those new toothbrushes which clean the back of your molars..
What did you think I meant ?
It depends upon my taste of course,.Every guy should know what the girl wants before giving a gift..if I'd receive clothes,there's no problem for me, i know how hard it is for boys to guess your size and stroll the mall to get the clothes that they think would be the best for u.The effort would be counted for sure..
tink, don't remind him.. :P
What about one of those wobbly battery operated thingymajigs ??
I think it depends on the girl you are with.what she likes and her interests.
lol drmana..
I second ur thought and was about to comment same after reading the whole article..
I agree with you MJ ;)
well, I don't mind getting lingerie as a present from him, as long as it's the right size.. ;)
OK....so tell me about the gifts that work.