Office Romance, Bad, Good, Or Ugly?
All of us particularly the “yuppies” (Young professionals) spend approximately 60% - 70% of their time at the office than at their home. Thus, single professional men and women lack the time to meet new friends. So, the office is where they likely look for their potential partners. This is somewhat true with the men.
Why so? A typical person spends at least 40 hours a week in an office, with other individuals of the same backgrounds and interests. Having a relationship with an office mate could be very tempting because of the fact that working hard doesn’t leave you much time for socializing.
Office Romance:
IS GOOD
• Time efficiency – why look elsewhere when your office is full of beautiful men and women saving you time and money...Scrooge-like huh??
• Spending so many hours’ together helps you have an idea of what she/he is like. Saves you the headaches along the road of relationship.
• You can carpool to and from work.
IS BAD
• Office romances are a recipe for disaster. Couples that spend all their days and nights together may cause friction within the relationship. No "alone time" to pursue hobbies or hang out with friends may cause relationships to self-destruct.
• Could also interfere with individuals' abilities to perform their professional duties.
• We can't forget the green-eyed monster, JEALOUSY. Usually office relationships is a secret, other co-worker may flirt (common and happens all the time) with your partner or vice-versa.
IS UGLY (Definitely, true!)
• Dating colleagues: Rivalry and competition may harm the relationship. Uncomfortable situations may arise after the breakup when career advancement issues come into play.
• Dating Subordinates: False accusations of favoritism may arise, as well as accusations of sexual harassment after the breakup.
• Dating Bosses: False accusations of favoritism may arise. You may get FIRED after the breakup.
So this is just a word of precaution: Consider the potential outcome before beginning a relationship within the office environment.
So, gals and guys...still want to test the waters and go for it?
What do you think?
Office affairs and office romances are different. If either or both parties are commited to someone else, then having an affair, in the office or otherwise, is just plain wrong and has no justifications whatsoever. Office romances in which both parties are single, on the other hand, could very much work provided both are mature and able to deal with jealousy, possessiveness, relationships with other co-workers, etc.
In my line of work it's actually quite common for people to meet and marry through an office romance. Perhaps because your entire life revolves around work and you need a mate who understands that.
The only way I meet guys anymore is at various cocktail parties and work functions, and I know I will have to work with them closely at some point, but hey C'est la vie.
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I too had my share of office romances. Let me give you a short-cut version:
He's an Arab and Sandie boy, he's from your race (if you're not too dense to realize it what I'm saying). We were going good as nobody suspected that we're a couple. Until he became too possessive and jealous of the people around me. The break-up was not that all bad except he kept telling my staff and friends (in the company) that I dumped him for this and that reason.
I still have feelings for him, he's such a nice and sweet guy. But I found my MAN outside of work, and I'm happy.
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What you are is what you have been, and what you will be is what you do now. - Buddha
Anal sex forum topic??? Scandalous and outright "HARAM". Hygenically disgusting just like "YOU"...
Why? your choice of topic is like your comments, some of us enjoys it while majority do not. Why don't you start the topic, Sandie? I'll just borrow what HEARTLESS just said to me in the other post. You don't have the bollocks (I know you DO have them)to do.
Enjoying the popcorn, Colt45?
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What you are is what you have been, and what you will be is what you do now. - Buddha
I don't like office affairs because some times innocent colleagues get caught up in the maelstrom of romance/lust.
This happened in an office I worked in... every time I spoke to the guy, his girlfriend, my supervisor got jealous. both were married and then we are left in the situation of complicity at office parties when their spouses were there.
I did not like it!
I want to do my job in a pleasant environment - take the money and enjoy my free time.
Ignore Sandie, he's just upset cause he hasn't gotten laid in forever.
Anyway, I've only ever had one office romance and it worked out fine, we're still friends. (Not only were we working together we also lived together in the staff accomodation). I don't see any problem with them as long as both people are mature about it.
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I need some popcorn... love this sandie guy's comments...lmfao!!!
Make me, why don't ya. Obviously ya know diddly about Islam
This is an islamic country and u r violating the rules of this forum. Be within limits ..
So what's the problem with starting a topic about anal sex
Stop the War- how about that mr space station
Hey sandie boy stop bullying in the forum...
Man? Ya freak. Mind yer own business, weirdo Geeker.
I dare ya Ana Liza or u just like to be boss of them filipinas cacklin away like chickens, chicken?
What was that about man? Take a chill pill dude, and please dont be rude!
Start a topic about... anal sex Ana Liza. I dare ya
Right up your league.
I wouldn't encourage people to look for relationships at work, cause afterall they're there to work not socialize. But should there be a spark or chemistry between two people I wouldn't discourage it either,working together shouldn't be the only excuse to end. It depends on each situation, but it isn't always a bad thing, if they can make it work, and they fall in love then I don't see working together as a barrier.
It's a catch 22 situation. After sleep, work takes the most time out of our lives. It's sometimes hard to resist an office romance.
It can be a great thing; you already have something important in common. That's only if it works out. If it fails, (which most romances do, work or otherwise), it can be hell for everybody. You can't even get away from them at work.
I believe that we are playing so many different roles everyday and all of these different roles should not be mixed up. My role at home is different than my role at work, my friends and my personal life. I don't want to get any role involved with the other role. My relation with my colleagues should not be affected by my problems at home. My work problems I forget about them when I leave the office. My personal life, I don't get so many people get involved in it and .. they are limited to a number which is less than half of the number of one of my hand fingers.
I don't believe in office relations, always there would be problems. I don't want to talk much about them, they are countless and the disadvantages are more than the advantages. I don't mind having and maintaining a good relation with everyone in my office in the name of friendship and good relation between us all.
When it comes to the competition in the office there should be a different between friendship and doing your work the way it is supposed to be. If you want to take the risk of having relations with your mates in the office outside the work bond then you should make sure to differentiate between your friendship outside the office and the competition or the relation that you got inside the office. While this will work for a while and would never later ... it is better that you try to avoid putting yourself in such situations.
Best Regards
Cant say for sure depends on how the intensity of the love is between two partners... All psychological ...
all of the above..pursuing said relationship wont do any good, would start of restless nights, misserable moments, carreer gossips(would ruin your total persona as an individual)
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You just never run out of debatable topics, do you, and its really good too.
personally, i would say a no-no. Mainly coz i believe that official and personal matters should strictly be kept apart. Like you said, it is a recipe for disaster! I wouldnt do it, and i wouldnt recommend anyone to do it too!
I think it's bad.
I don't see any good coming out of it, and the reasons provided still haven't convinced me.
Ugly? Maybe that's a bit too extreme, but you can't be too sure.
I'm sticking to bad. :D