What do you mean won't let it go? Nobody can be by your side if you don't want it. If you don't want to be with someone you just leave. You finish the releationship and you move on. End of story.
If you want to be with someone, you try to make it work. Go to a specialist, talk with him or her, whatever.
THEN WHAT THE **** YOU'RE STAYING AROUND FOR? (Excuse me)
You're definitely a MASOCHIST nor you would like to be around a SADIST (emotional/mental...not the physical type )...but MOVE ON. Because by the looks of it, though your MIND is saying LET GO...your HEART is HOLDING ON.
well why not also give time for ur self from all those head and heartaches?
Give some space & have some time ALONE... go to some place alone where u can think... do some soul searching...refresh ur mind...
(also advise the other party to do the same)
maybe ur or both of u just under pressured... who knows after that once u come back ur a new u... & both of u realized that u still want to work it out, right?!
Now, if after all those things not work... i think its time to let each other go.... each of u deserves to be happy!
Also try to pray together maybe u just need some guidance.
GOOD LUCK & MAY OUR LORD BE WITH YOU!
"Even if LOVE is full of thorns, embrace it. For in between those thorns there is a ROSE that's worth all the PAIN."
My dear Lady, you need KSA Counselling options....I tell ya..LOL..
No seriously, if you do not know what do you want then give yourself time, maybe its because you aint giving yourself time, not going to the beach alone (a bit wierd I know still), and sitting and gazing at the dark skies with the shining stars and talking to yourself girl, pretty much sure people get a few answers, if not all , and if not any answer atleast a path forward...the first step is the most important, walk the path and you should reach your answers...sooner or later...
And Pinkaboo: Whats this you mean, hey everyone encompasses a dark cloud over themselves when they talk to their Ex but that doesnt mean, you freaking have to stay under that cloud, scroll thru the clouds, and guess what you might just be able to find sunshine on the other side with a much clearer sky...
You never know buddy...you just never know...
You need to know yourself first to know someone else, or atleast find that SOMEONE ELSE WHO KNOWS YOU TO THE TRUTH...
Now wasnt that a good hint of what KSA Counselling can do...QS...so am I expecting your call for a coffee and chat soon...????????
pinkaboo, the decision is up to you, whether you risk to move on and change your life or live all your life in his shadow and keep on pretending. if you choose the second option stop ranting and accept it whole heartedly.
Hi Qatar, yes nice signature...it will change how you perceive life...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
talk face to face..eyes to eyes.said you are not happy..and so on..and find solution..if it can be cured than is great..if is not then leave..life too short
So why are you going out with him and pretending everything is ok? Is he dragging you there by force or what?
If you don't want to, don't go out with him. And don't pretend things are ok if you don't want to. Nobody can't force anybody to do such things, can they.
when you have problems...even if you realize that you cant live with that person anymore...its hard to move away and end it if the other person doesnt want to. he thinks that it can still be fixed, need just counseling, just time off, or whatever he thinks of. thinks that everything is fine...is blind or naive that everything will still work out. and it has and will go on for years now.
even if you say its over...we're done...we cant live with each other anymore...its difficult to make him understand. he has to see the big picture but he just cant. he would tell our friends that we're still fine when we're not. will pretend that everything is going smooth. he'd take me with him and show others that we are still doing good. even if some of our friends know we are not. which is somehow lame. i learned from a friend that he always talks about us being ok. i dont know what for anyway.
if things are not going the way you want it to then ask yrself wat is it you want , if you can answer that question then that is the direction to go. life is abt choices- at the end of the day at least you can say that you have given yrself a chance and not regret it as one thing for sureyou cant turn back the clock........if its not meant to be its not meant to be and nothing you do can change that.....walk out head held high and move on. life is too short..........
life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......
britexpat, I agree with your approach- but the difficult thing is when you have come that far you have problmes breaking up because of all the abuse have made you " non-reactive" on. I've been in that situation some years back and it took a long time to break off - luckily it is history and I am happier than ever in Qatar with my new wife
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What do you mean won't let it go? Nobody can be by your side if you don't want it. If you don't want to be with someone you just leave. You finish the releationship and you move on. End of story.
If you want to be with someone, you try to make it work. Go to a specialist, talk with him or her, whatever.
If it doesn't work, end it.
Sylwia
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thanks everyone for words of advice. as they said its hard to walk the talk...
u r signatr hurts my eyes, poor thing my eyes....
If it's true that we are here to help others, then what exactly are the others here for?
The partner won't let go???
THEN WHAT THE **** YOU'RE STAYING AROUND FOR? (Excuse me)
You're definitely a MASOCHIST nor you would like to be around a SADIST (emotional/mental...not the physical type )...but MOVE ON. Because by the looks of it, though your MIND is saying LET GO...your HEART is HOLDING ON.
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well why not also give time for ur self from all those head and heartaches?
Give some space & have some time ALONE... go to some place alone where u can think... do some soul searching...refresh ur mind...
(also advise the other party to do the same)
maybe ur or both of u just under pressured... who knows after that once u come back ur a new u... & both of u realized that u still want to work it out, right?!
Now, if after all those things not work... i think its time to let each other go.... each of u deserves to be happy!
Also try to pray together maybe u just need some guidance.
GOOD LUCK & MAY OUR LORD BE WITH YOU!
"Even if LOVE is full of thorns, embrace it. For in between those thorns there is a ROSE that's worth all the PAIN."
it depends, do u still love ur partner or not, if u still do , sit down and take about the mistakes and try to fix it first, as long as it takes.
if u don't,, well just state that and move on, hard for ur partner but better life for u both after.
but before u do any thing just take time alone, and think deep about it.
My dear Lady, you need KSA Counselling options....I tell ya..LOL..
No seriously, if you do not know what do you want then give yourself time, maybe its because you aint giving yourself time, not going to the beach alone (a bit wierd I know still), and sitting and gazing at the dark skies with the shining stars and talking to yourself girl, pretty much sure people get a few answers, if not all , and if not any answer atleast a path forward...the first step is the most important, walk the path and you should reach your answers...sooner or later...
And Pinkaboo: Whats this you mean, hey everyone encompasses a dark cloud over themselves when they talk to their Ex but that doesnt mean, you freaking have to stay under that cloud, scroll thru the clouds, and guess what you might just be able to find sunshine on the other side with a much clearer sky...
You never know buddy...you just never know...
You need to know yourself first to know someone else, or atleast find that SOMEONE ELSE WHO KNOWS YOU TO THE TRUTH...
Now wasnt that a good hint of what KSA Counselling can do...QS...so am I expecting your call for a coffee and chat soon...????????
....and if YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT DO YOU WANT??????
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Eventhough some people think they have had enough but still they couldn't walk out, and most stay for the sake of the children.
how can u expect for somebody to love u if ur not loving ur self first?
"Even if LOVE is full of thorns, embrace it. For in between those thorns there is a ROSE that's worth all the PAIN."
pinkaboo, the decision is up to you, whether you risk to move on and change your life or live all your life in his shadow and keep on pretending. if you choose the second option stop ranting and accept it whole heartedly.
Hi Qatar, yes nice signature...it will change how you perceive life...
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
when ur not happy anymore & start losing ur self... Khalassssssss!!!
"Even if LOVE is full of thorns, embrace it. For in between those thorns there is a ROSE that's worth all the PAIN."
talk face to face..eyes to eyes.said you are not happy..and so on..and find solution..if it can be cured than is great..if is not then leave..life too short
So why are you going out with him and pretending everything is ok? Is he dragging you there by force or what?
If you don't want to, don't go out with him. And don't pretend things are ok if you don't want to. Nobody can't force anybody to do such things, can they.
Sylwia
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Find out the reason….and you will find it solved…..
But the point is how fair you act on considering at both the sides of the coin…..
“Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles and misguided men.”
Martin Luther King.
when you have problems...even if you realize that you cant live with that person anymore...its hard to move away and end it if the other person doesnt want to. he thinks that it can still be fixed, need just counseling, just time off, or whatever he thinks of. thinks that everything is fine...is blind or naive that everything will still work out. and it has and will go on for years now.
even if you say its over...we're done...we cant live with each other anymore...its difficult to make him understand. he has to see the big picture but he just cant. he would tell our friends that we're still fine when we're not. will pretend that everything is going smooth. he'd take me with him and show others that we are still doing good. even if some of our friends know we are not. which is somehow lame. i learned from a friend that he always talks about us being ok. i dont know what for anyway.
supernurse....that seems easy but i guess it is not....you know what i mean...hard to walk the talk...
vitaline...sorry to hear that....we dont know the story...and im not in the position to console you...
Just heard yesterday... My husband said me this. Why? I don't know. Just this...
From today he is ex....
To be precise, you say enough is enough when you had enough and you cant take any more ... ... ...
Hey Lovinni ... your signature is good ... "hang around until you get used to it" ... well I have decided to try that option ...
Nobody dies a virgin ... Life Screws you anyway !!!
and dont worry...when a door closes another door opens! be positive in life!
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
When u r fed up in life....... But when u do u dont blow the place up,.....
if things are not going the way you want it to then ask yrself wat is it you want , if you can answer that question then that is the direction to go. life is abt choices- at the end of the day at least you can say that you have given yrself a chance and not regret it as one thing for sureyou cant turn back the clock........if its not meant to be its not meant to be and nothing you do can change that.....walk out head held high and move on. life is too short..........
life's too short so make the most of it, you only live but once.......
if you're not happy anymore and relationship is leading you to nowhere thus there is no future then i say...its enough... time to move on!
I think I've discovered the secret of life - you just hang around until you get used to it. ~Charles Schulz
Just walk out......plenty more fish in the sea...lifes to short to mess around with dead wood......should be my motto.....
"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid." - George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)
britexpat, I agree with your approach- but the difficult thing is when you have come that far you have problmes breaking up because of all the abuse have made you " non-reactive" on. I've been in that situation some years back and it took a long time to break off - luckily it is history and I am happier than ever in Qatar with my new wife
YOU DONT KNOW ME, DONT EVEN TRY !!!
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If the bad times are outnumbering the good, or you are being physically / verbally abused, then let it go. It's not worth it.
Kick her up the bum and tell her to eff off....simple!
"It is dangerous to be sincere unless you are also stupid." - George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950)