Judge me, Judge me not.

gabriela_nilapastangan
By gabriela_nilapa...

To those who judge me wrongfully in this thread, hope you don’t have any blood family who gets to live the same ordeal that I have been though. And to those who share their sentiments, I thank you.

To those who suggested why I didn’t bother to seek police assistance, let me tell you for the fact that I wasn’t in my stable mind set that time, I was in a state of shock, confused and terribly afraid. The news regarding the arab teen who was gang raped awoken the hatred I have for those perpetuators who purge my identity when they take turns on abusing me. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/middle_east/7096814.stm . Should I went to seek police assistance then, would I have not shared the same fate with this teenage arab girl who seek justice with her own people, her own people who was suppose to protect her ridiculed her, mock her and shame her calling her unclean and undeserving to be an arab woman. Did I/ teen lady choose to be raped? Do any of you who judge me have any idea what we went through? The ordeal that will haunt us forever. Would I who, who don’t even belong to the arab country be served justice? Would I even challenge my Qatari would be employer who holds a ranking police officer? When its allah’s own daughter was subjected in an inhumane act, was unjustifiably mocked. She who seeks police assistance as you suggested, were herself locked up while her perpetrator roams free.

I never meant to attack the Lebanese nor the arab in this post. My subject title was Raped in a workplace. I merely mentioned that it’s a Lebanese and an Egyptian who ill-treated me. I never opted to post to discredit nor have revenge on my perpetrator. I simply want to warn my fellow ladies who wish to work in Doha to be vigilant, because under those white garments and professional business suits lies a monster. I was dumb and scared, not knowing what lies ahead.

I’m now back in the Philippines. In Davao City. I’m in the process of self healing, with my family who never knew what transpired to me in Doha. I don’t have the courage to open up to my family, the pain that could cause them would be devastating. I chose to bear my own pain. Hoping that time itself would heal me.

To the admin. I would like to thank you. For with this thread the evils within the society are now known to those who are totally vague and also to serve as advice to be vigilant.

By DessertScorpion• 24 Jan 2008 15:58
DessertScorpion

so this company really is bad. the people is sex starve and should go in jail fo all eterniti. the shame they did give thisa country a bad name and reputation. this people should rot in hell.

I Sting! I Rock and Roll!

I'm gonna trade this life for fortune and fame,

I'd even cut my hair and change my name!

Hey, hey, I wanna be a rockstar!

By Gypsy• 24 Jan 2008 09:41
Gypsy

I hope you find someone you can talk to there Gabriella. Qatar just isn't equipped to deal with sexual assault.

"How come I can pick my ears but not my nose? Who made up that rule anyway? How come you say that's the way it is, that's just the way it goes, maybe you should decide for yourself what you can do and what you can say." Ani Difranco

By owen• 24 Jan 2008 08:43
owen

im sure this is difficult for you..not being able to share it to your family or to anyone....praying for your peace of mind and more strength....

carry on with your life with your family...forgetting is a bit hard..but in a process you will get there...:)

God Bless...

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By dandy0510• 24 Jan 2008 08:38
dandy0510

hoping that you overcome all this trial..

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By qatman• 24 Jan 2008 08:12
qatman

Gabriela I wish peace for you. I hope the wrongdoers are made to pay for this.

By mariam-mar• 24 Jan 2008 08:06
mariam-mar

God give you enough strenght to overcome all these and i wish you a healthy and happy life ahead. God Bless You...

And God's wrath to the monsters!!!!

By anonymous• 24 Jan 2008 07:21
Rating: 4/5
anonymous

What happend to you is very sad and to say the least unfair, but you should have gone directly to the hospital and got them to inform the police, this way there would have been proof of your story. Going back to work again after all that happened was not in your best interest.

I met a very young girl last week at the police station and she had also been raped but she made a complaint against here employer, the police took her into custody for her safety for a week until the complaint was processed, and then after she went to the Public Prosecutor she was released, her accoster is a business man and is now in jail. This girl is a Muslim and is engaged to be married, she does not know how to tell her fiancee - her position is very difficult now.

Something will be done against these preditors, but only if the complaint is made otherwise nothing will happen.

By dweller• 23 Jan 2008 23:32
dweller

What a sad and disturbing story to read.

Good luck with the rest of your life and hopefully those guilty will eventually reap their just rewards.

By Vegas• 23 Jan 2008 23:24
Vegas

Well, just like the sponsors who blackmail their employees...

Its a bunch of BS...

Sorry all you ladies for these bad men...

I don't know how they live with self...

:(

You can't teach experience...

By kumin_gonewiththewind• 23 Jan 2008 23:20
kumin_gonewiththewind

for your happiness...take care

By gabriela_nilapastangan• 23 Jan 2008 23:19
gabriela_nilapastangan

Recently heard from a Tunisian Lady who also works in the same company almost share the same fate. only she was physically eqquiped to ward off any attempts. She's pretty, tall and well big sized. She was deported back to Tunisia, according to her she was set up to meet a client to discuss business opportunity only to later realize that she was being being pimped to this old guy who has taken her as a prostitutes. She was fuming mad when she confronted the Lebanese manager "M.K" but was told to do it for the money and was told that the old man was rich and is willing to pay good service money.

Then came the same set-up by the Qatari Employer and they accused her of going out with non-relative men, They deported and canceled her out from Doha. Even before she could leak-out the story about the company.

But She told me she was happy enough to left Doha anyway. She couldn't be more happier to be in Tunisia. her homeland.

(just i thought, i can share her experience with "S.M.G" Company and its monstrous occupants.

By jassKat• 23 Jan 2008 22:51
jassKat

I just wish you peace in mind. No one should go through what you did.

Too bad these guys were not prosecuted, as it is likely they will do it again :/

tra la la

By Vegas• 23 Jan 2008 22:51
Vegas

I’m now back in the Philippines. In Davao City. I’m in the process of self healing, with my family who never knew what transpired to me in Doha

Like I said in the other...

God bless and hope you heal soon...

And hopefully the a holes will stop abuse...

You can't teach experience...

By markusjorell• 23 Jan 2008 22:49
markusjorell

he is now back in her country.. this very hard for her to keep it secret, knowing the pain.. :(

By markusjorell• 23 Jan 2008 22:48
markusjorell

i wish for the peace of ur mind.. tc always

By DaRuDe• 23 Jan 2008 22:42
DaRuDe

Welcome back and where have you been all this time and where are you right now??

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