Intellectual Mantra
While I was in a Restaurant, suddenly a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a lady standing a little away from me.
She started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach. Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group got cranky to what was happening. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach to another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering:
- Was the cockroach responsible for the ladies' histrionic behavior?
- If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection - without any chaos or drama.
- So, it was not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed them.
I also realized even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father or scolding of my boss that disturbs me, but it's my own inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturb me.
Similarly, it's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused in my mind by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my own reaction to the problem that hurts me!
The Take-Away:
- The women reacted but the waiter responded.
- We must not react in life; we should always respond.
- Reactions are instinctive; responses are intellectual.
And you still manage to eat and sit cooly in that restaurant despite the fact that there's a flying cockroach.... eeewww... LoL :P
What's the name of the resto anyways?
did they get to paid for their food or get it for free as a compliment and apology
Reaction is instinctive, without any body of rational thought but responses like the one showed by the waiter are a result of clearly formulated thoughts and coordinated actions
I know a restaurant that has lots of cockroaches. I saw it in the movie 'Addicted to Love'
Anyways, yeah well..so the waiter was not afraid of the creepy dude but the women were. And when you are over come by real fear, aka phobia, then rational thinking certainly will not come into play!PS:once again..please..name and shame the resto!
The waiter has no choice but deep inside he's saying " Wtf, why on my shirt? Ok just relax the boss is watching, else there goes my NOC!"
Ofcourse it must be the cockroach ruksana. If there was no cockroach he wont be able to see the behqaviour of those ladies.
good...!! u have a working brain too .. . very good !!! SO say me what made u think so much .. . , ladies or cockroach what was more inspiring????
Posted just a couple of days back.
reactions are reflexes, which can save life!
fight or flight response is actually a reaction instead of response.
What was the Resturant?