you will never get "this bridge", buttercupryle...
I am really sorry for FDM, I know what does she feel and what she is going through... All i can just pray for her to stay strong in any case, this way or another...
...just my opinion, coz everyone knows that this is difficult perios in ones life.
I'll just keep my fingers cross..and to cross the bridge when I get there.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
"...I'll manage to move on with my life". do not be so sure, and do not think that it is so easy... in a worst case scenario, FDM also will manage to move on with her life (really, she is not going to die, isn't she!).. the question is what it will take to move on...it depends on the strength of your feelings.. for some people divorce (or breaking up some long deep relationship)is the way to freedom.. for others is the way to the Lonely Hearts Club...maybe forever...
I don't have the words to console you.. but only pray to god . He'll show you a way out. Have faith in him. Were u able to find out the reason behind his sudden decision? If not do so. Understanding the problem is half the problem solved. If you're able to find out the reason you can approach your problem from a different angle. Try to think from a different angle and try to appeal to his good nature that you only know. If you have any close family friends or close relative try to discuss your problem with them and ask them to discuss the matter with him. If you can talk to your family or his family, even for that matter a close friend of his to whom he'll listen to i'd suggest you do that. Nothing is lost and think positively. Try to be optimistic. Try to change your approach towards him. We all take certain things for granted. Try not to take anything for granted. even if it is a small thing try to do it differently. Sometimes such things work wonders.
We'll all pray for you. May god bless you.
I'm sorry for you PM. From what i've read so far you seem to be a strong person. That is the need of the hour. Face the world boldly and the world will come to you.
Best wishes to you and may the future shower lots of goodness your way.
I'm glad I'm not in this kind of situation..but if I will I'll manage to move on with my life.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
everybody wants a complete family for the sake of the kids.
what you can do now is pray and ask for His guidance..He is the only one who can help you.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
I can't live without him...I loved, love and will always love him
He's my men, my brother, my first baby, my love, my every thing...
Please, if you want to help me, would be grateful if you could join me and post your comment trying to persuade him to change his mind and think twice before taking this decision
I want him to know that I'm ready to do anything and everything to get back our life, our lovely life...teers.... if he forgets I'll never do...
lought, teers, travels, first baby and the delivery....unforgettable moments and don't want to destroy all this
calm down, dear! It's not a DIVORCE yet...You can do a lot of things in order to make up with your hubby. But first of all you have to stop crying and try to calm down! I know it is hard, I know you cannot concentrate, or to think properly, I know you think this is the end of the world, i know you are lost, devastated, and deadly absolutely deadly scared.. I know....but.. just try to think clearly, and try your best to make up… I will pray for you!
I do understand you are going through a hard time, but it’s also time you stand for yourself and fight for your rights. After all, you have given the best part of your life and the joy of having child to your husband.
I for sure don't know what really went wrong in your relationship, but I would always suggest not to breakup. Its just not you who will suffer but also your kid. I know it better has I spent all my life without my father or mother around me.
Also, if possible try seeking for some professional help or counseling. I am not sure if this is right place but give a try at http://www.scfa.gov.qa/contact_us.asp (SUPREME COUNCIL FOR FAMILY AFFAIRS) or http://www.yourmarriagecounsellor.com
Sorry to hear about this. I know we can help only by words. Keep faith in Allah, for he is the all knowing and the best judge. He will not be unfair to you and he does whatever is right for us...
Your belief in this faith will take you out of the anxiety and sadness you are going through. Keep praying while we pray for you..
Insha Allah everything will be allright..
...You can't mean what you say unless you can say what you mean...
I dont know the background but think if u want to avoid this from happening, u can. U have the power to do that for u and ur baby. Involve your elders and common friendz. Throw away the ego and other factors for a better future. However, if you both have decided and there is no way out than u ll have to be courageous and fight back.
It's really sad to read such things and I sympathize with you FDM and also you PM. I hope and pray that you will be able to resolve this and come out courageous and strong. God bless.
Sorry for the troubles you are experiencing right now =(
You know sometimes things need to fall apart in order for other things to fall into right places. I am not a good adviser but I am really hoping for the best for you and your child.
I have sent you a PM. but I want to say to Londonalgiers and others that have answered your plea that if is so nice to see men come out with their feminine side and not be embarassed about it. Thanks gentlemen.
What can I do to help you dear? I'm sure that by now many of the QL lovely memebers have contacted you with their phone numbers and with messages of support. I do not know what to say in such a situation and I cannot claim that I went through the same thing but I hope the ladies in the forum would know , if there is anything that i can do please let me know.
sorry about this .. i understand its a tough situation .. but you need to be brave and stay strong for you and your child .. what are you planning to do? stay or go back to your home country .. i am sure you will be trying to resolve things and maybe things are happening out of haste .. do not worry .. everythin happens for a reason and its for the best .. try to focus and think of what you can do for now ..
The divorce has not happened as yet right? You need to calm down. We all go through times when it appears that our patners are completely incompatible and vice versa and divorce or seperation is the only way out. Often things change in the morning once the new day arrives. So first calm down and talk to someone who can understand what has happened and can advise you accordingly.
These things also happen after couples have children as the whole scenario changes. What has happened in your case?
Whats done cannot be undone. The important thing right now is get the custody of your child and for that you have to prove that you can raise your child on your own as you have the financial means and you are a responsible parent.
Dont Count on Shariah Laws for the custody of your child.
There are lot of things that you need to do as from now you will be on your own. You might be able to get some help from the female members of QL regarding the laws on divorce and custody matters.
I am so sorry to hear this. Hopefully you have someone, a close friend at least, to lean on.
PM I am so sorry for you as well. I had no idea you were going through such a trying time as well. I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers. I will pray that PM's "happy times" will increase with each passing day. FDM I will pray that God will hold you up now in your time of pain. Keep in mind that no matter how trying and over wrought you may feel "He" will never put more on your plate then you can handle. It is this thought that gets me through most of my days.
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Your post touched me deeply and made me cry. All we can do is pray your husband changes his mind. Showing him these posts won't help.
Why has he asked for a divorce do you know?
I hope your baby gets well soon insha'allah.
Will pray for you all.
you will never get "this bridge", buttercupryle...
I am really sorry for FDM, I know what does she feel and what she is going through... All i can just pray for her to stay strong in any case, this way or another...
...just my opinion, coz everyone knows that this is difficult perios in ones life.
I'll just keep my fingers cross..and to cross the bridge when I get there.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
"...I'll manage to move on with my life". do not be so sure, and do not think that it is so easy... in a worst case scenario, FDM also will manage to move on with her life (really, she is not going to die, isn't she!).. the question is what it will take to move on...it depends on the strength of your feelings.. for some people divorce (or breaking up some long deep relationship)is the way to freedom.. for others is the way to the Lonely Hearts Club...maybe forever...
I don't have the words to console you.. but only pray to god . He'll show you a way out. Have faith in him. Were u able to find out the reason behind his sudden decision? If not do so. Understanding the problem is half the problem solved. If you're able to find out the reason you can approach your problem from a different angle. Try to think from a different angle and try to appeal to his good nature that you only know. If you have any close family friends or close relative try to discuss your problem with them and ask them to discuss the matter with him. If you can talk to your family or his family, even for that matter a close friend of his to whom he'll listen to i'd suggest you do that. Nothing is lost and think positively. Try to be optimistic. Try to change your approach towards him. We all take certain things for granted. Try not to take anything for granted. even if it is a small thing try to do it differently. Sometimes such things work wonders.
We'll all pray for you. May god bless you.
I'm sorry for you PM. From what i've read so far you seem to be a strong person. That is the need of the hour. Face the world boldly and the world will come to you.
Best wishes to you and may the future shower lots of goodness your way.
NN
I'm glad I'm not in this kind of situation..but if I will I'll manage to move on with my life.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
divorce will hurt kids.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
Well said Mrs. Buttercup...
Thank God My ex divorced me...
I would have never done it...
But it was the best thing to ever happen to me...
Not at the time of course...
Good luck and God bless...
You can't teach experience...
everybody wants a complete family for the sake of the kids.
what you can do now is pray and ask for His guidance..He is the only one who can help you.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.” - Paulo Coelho
I don't want to divorce
I can't live without him...I loved, love and will always love him
He's my men, my brother, my first baby, my love, my every thing...
Please, if you want to help me, would be grateful if you could join me and post your comment trying to persuade him to change his mind and think twice before taking this decision
I want him to know that I'm ready to do anything and everything to get back our life, our lovely life...teers.... if he forgets I'll never do...
lought, teers, travels, first baby and the delivery....unforgettable moments and don't want to destroy all this
Many thanks in advance
many thanks to all of you who posted and replyed.
today morning I had to take my baby to ER coz he has fever and I was worried.he's not OK and the fever still 37.5 (was 38.4 this morning)
didn't have time to discuss with my husband but during lunch I tried.....teers......
he said that's the final decision....teers.....
I don't know what to do, I was expecting him to change his mind but .....teers....can't write.....feel very bad....teers.....
its never too late
if u love him still its not shameful to say sorry even if the mistake is not urs
I do it all the time
The fact remains whether u feel the relationship is worth holding on to or not
Sister its not about male or female or whos right or wrong
Its about holding on to something worth holding on to
If he is the one who is adamant then i believe no one except u can change his mind
If its an another person in his life then no one can help u except God
Have faith! and be strong!
calm down, dear! It's not a DIVORCE yet...You can do a lot of things in order to make up with your hubby. But first of all you have to stop crying and try to calm down! I know it is hard, I know you cannot concentrate, or to think properly, I know you think this is the end of the world, i know you are lost, devastated, and deadly absolutely deadly scared.. I know....but.. just try to think clearly, and try your best to make up… I will pray for you!
I do understand you are going through a hard time, but it’s also time you stand for yourself and fight for your rights. After all, you have given the best part of your life and the joy of having child to your husband.
I for sure don't know what really went wrong in your relationship, but I would always suggest not to breakup. Its just not you who will suffer but also your kid. I know it better has I spent all my life without my father or mother around me.
Also, if possible try seeking for some professional help or counseling. I am not sure if this is right place but give a try at http://www.scfa.gov.qa/contact_us.asp (SUPREME COUNCIL FOR FAMILY AFFAIRS) or http://www.yourmarriagecounsellor.com
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Sorry to hear about this. I know we can help only by words. Keep faith in Allah, for he is the all knowing and the best judge. He will not be unfair to you and he does whatever is right for us...
Your belief in this faith will take you out of the anxiety and sadness you are going through. Keep praying while we pray for you..
Insha Allah everything will be allright..
...You can't mean what you say unless you can say what you mean...
I dont know the background but think if u want to avoid this from happening, u can. U have the power to do that for u and ur baby. Involve your elders and common friendz. Throw away the ego and other factors for a better future. However, if you both have decided and there is no way out than u ll have to be courageous and fight back.
Extremly sorry for what happened to you or with you PM & FDM
Well life doesnot end here you still have a long life to live
have self confidence encourage yourself try to look ahead and concentrate. Dont sneak into past or you wont be able to concentrate on ur future.
May Allah Bestow you both with Happiness and a good blessful life in future.
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I hope things will get better for you. If you are still in need of someone to talk to...just PM me...my heart goes out to you and your family.
It's really sad to read such things and I sympathize with you FDM and also you PM. I hope and pray that you will be able to resolve this and come out courageous and strong. God bless.
I am so sorry FDM and for you PM
FDM I think PM may be a very good person for you to get in contact with.
Talk to some of the females members of QL by phone they can give you real advice
You still have time to save your marriage its not the end of the world
I would rather have one rose and a kind word from a friend while I'm here
Than a whole truck load when I'm gone
Sorry for the troubles you are experiencing right now =(
You know sometimes things need to fall apart in order for other things to fall into right places. I am not a good adviser but I am really hoping for the best for you and your child.
Take care.
Sorry to hear such a bad news, anyway hope for the best.
I have sent you a PM. but I want to say to Londonalgiers and others that have answered your plea that if is so nice to see men come out with their feminine side and not be embarassed about it. Thanks gentlemen.
What can I do to help you dear? I'm sure that by now many of the QL lovely memebers have contacted you with their phone numbers and with messages of support. I do not know what to say in such a situation and I cannot claim that I went through the same thing but I hope the ladies in the forum would know , if there is anything that i can do please let me know.
Bless you and your family
Wish I was in Doha so I could come round and help you through this.
I'll pm you.
Take care and be strong for yourself and your baby.
sorry about this .. i understand its a tough situation .. but you need to be brave and stay strong for you and your child .. what are you planning to do? stay or go back to your home country .. i am sure you will be trying to resolve things and maybe things are happening out of haste .. do not worry .. everythin happens for a reason and its for the best .. try to focus and think of what you can do for now ..
life goes on ..
very sad..really out of words ..all the best wishes & prayers
very sad..really out words ..all the best wishes & prayers
Please PM me your number if you really want to talk and I will call you since I'm home all day. Take care
The divorce has not happened as yet right? You need to calm down. We all go through times when it appears that our patners are completely incompatible and vice versa and divorce or seperation is the only way out. Often things change in the morning once the new day arrives. So first calm down and talk to someone who can understand what has happened and can advise you accordingly.
These things also happen after couples have children as the whole scenario changes. What has happened in your case?
Whats done cannot be undone. The important thing right now is get the custody of your child and for that you have to prove that you can raise your child on your own as you have the financial means and you are a responsible parent.
Dont Count on Shariah Laws for the custody of your child.
There are lot of things that you need to do as from now you will be on your own. You might be able to get some help from the female members of QL regarding the laws on divorce and custody matters.
teers.........
can't write...thanks for your prayer, words...
I have a baby and don't know what to do....I'm lost...teers
I nearly been through this as soon as we landed in Qatar. Please have some water and calm down first.
I am so sorry to hear this. Hopefully you have someone, a close friend at least, to lean on.
PM I am so sorry for you as well. I had no idea you were going through such a trying time as well. I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers. I will pray that PM's "happy times" will increase with each passing day. FDM I will pray that God will hold you up now in your time of pain. Keep in mind that no matter how trying and over wrought you may feel "He" will never put more on your plate then you can handle. It is this thought that gets me through most of my days.
Take care.
Lisa
thanks
I really need to talk
since we arrieved to Doha, thinks were not OK...going from bad to worse
tonight we decided to divorce
he informed his familly.....can't write ...teers
what??????
whats up