Eid at the H household!
7:00 pm
J and Mr H break their fasts. They have an uncommonly heavy iftar. Eat loads of fried food, pastries,,,,labeneh stufffed fatayer…. juice… fruit salad with custard…
They kind of given in…thinking this would probably be the last Iftar for the year.
7:30 pm
J is comatose. The food she downed at iftar drags her into a state of food- drugged stupor.
8:00 pm
Mr H tries to awaken J from her slumber. He yells. He shakes. She tries her hardest to re-join the world of the conscious. She almost succeeds.
It’s Eid tomorrow, he says. Ahaan, she says. And her eyes roll over and she’s out again.
9:00 pm
Lil Z is furious. She is hungry and is letting everyone know she is by screaming her head off. J has no choice but to get up and get down to business.
Meanwhile, Mr H asks her what they should do for Eid tomorrow. (J wants nothing but to sleep and maybe order a biryani from her favourite restaurant.)
Mr H wants to invite his colleagues over. It’s his first Eid in six years’ as a ‘family man”. J’s lil Bro (Nu) is also in town. Mr H tries to convince J by saying that she need not make anything elaborate. All he asks for is some ghee rice and mutton curry. Maybe some fried chicken as well, if J feels up to it.
Of course it’s J’s choice
Continu reading in the original blog...
ok i missed the blog link earlier and missed the hilarious biryani pot part haha..its already pretty clear j is a lady..the question is, who wrote this eid day account? and good to hear H doesn't conform to the stereotype; because the stereotype isn't very nice at all :-)......i wouldn't even assess a stranger's life but just overreacted to the feminist tone of the other user's comment..
http://jaznajalil.com/2014/06/25/ms-surgeon-mum-etc-more-about-me-and-this-space/
this will settle the mystery of J's gender!
I guess the assessment can be a bit askew if the entire post is not read!
Hey guys! Love the repartee here.....both are almost right and both are partly wrong as well! J is a full time career woman who loves to cook. And though Mr H may call J the 'guardian of his castle' , he does not exactly conform to the typical Asian gender/ marital stereotype....
Sorry, but that is most definitely not H writing...yes, the username starts with H but I'm willing to bet this piece was written by J...I'm a guy and know when it's a woman speaking :-)
Sorry but Mr H is the one writing this post, not J. So we don't know how she feels about anything. Nor are we aware of their particular dynamics - we do not even know if J works outside the home. I only asked if H wants something and J seems not to want to participate, why doesn't he do it himself no matter the "norms" at other times in their relationship/household.
MC: because J is presumably a homemaker and H a horrible cook..H will presumably run to the store get J what's needed..they are also presumably indian and its a different husband/wife dynamic to the one familiar to you...and J will gladly host H's colleagues because she loves him...if you notice, she even calls it the H household...they have willingly taken up distinct and equally critical responsibilities, he as breadwinner and she as guardian of their castle (she calls it HIS castle) ..its not about the ego trip of who does what and whether it makes either one of them less equal than the other..
Why isn't Mr. H doing the work if this is something HE wants?
The original blog...
http://jaznajalil.com/2014/07/29/eid-at-the-h-household/