Why...

its hot out there..........

yup...just chill, ok? :) its a wonderful day anyway!

bitter?

inhale...exhale...inhale...exhale... :)) lol

MD...i am calm down...but sad because MOD deleted my other thread...i dont know why...i didnt even read all comments... :(

Yes FS for you I am always available on Wednesday Evening for some pani puris and free advice!

Loads of saints on QL...lol

well said Happygolucky

calm down Dwarfina and focus on your aims and ambitions, afterall we all are here to make a good living. If loves happens fine, if doesnt then don't go looking for trouble as they say.

Why was your love thought of the day deleted?

In such times one shouldn't be wary of or offended by the bitter people but from the sweet talking ones..they would just be looking to encash on your emotional condition.

why are you so bitter???

just learn how to love...

1 down how many more for today?

so you do it. some things never change. its always easy to blame the other side. and BTW when you move on please make sure you log off from QL as well. :)

whatever word it is...nag, rant or vent or anything...i simply dont like doing it, and he's always making me do it by pushing me to the limits...

i have to move on...i deserve someone better

poor women. They can be easily taken for a ride by these wily men. two words and they are in the mans arms, then they start complaining :(

these women have no other job than ranting and raving :(

i dont know with everybody...

but if i rant, its because i have a reason to rant...and i cant handle the fact that we've already talked about something and there you go again thing...

if a man rant...its because he's already fed up (in my case) :( i guess

you really got me there...they cant understand either even if i say that there will be no more arguments when they will just keep their promises...

but they just keep it for a day or so...and goes back to routines again...

they are always giving me reasons to nag....and i hate it... :/

So,

If a woman rants - It's because she wants to be heard.

if a man rants - he's being verbaly abusive and uncaring.

just like in the song... "too much love can kill you"..

"what they dont understand is when a woman rants she just needs to be heard and not fixed. and venting to a friend or BF just makes it easier. Sadly men - whether they are BF's, freinds or even your own dad - never understand"

that's true tink...but i guess too much also is not healthy...

Dwarfina.. We are nasty at time and nice at other time, but mosty we are here to advise and help, afterall this was the purpose of this website anyway.

You welcome anytime..:) Hope things get better for you in the coming days..ingat po!

s_isale.. I think everyone knows who bob the builder is! :)

for your reference check my thread entitled showing your true colours from yesterday and you will get all your answers there!

that's so nice of you MB...

on your past comments to other forum i was thinking you are just there to bully and bash... :)

MBK, any idea who is UKE? ;) UKE was also a scouser fan through and through

I can't remember which team Pikey supports. But I am a Scouser fan through and through.

My bad :O(

LOL Brit, I wasn't talking about in the bedroom! ;)

I can't completely agree TB, a lot of the time women rant because of their own insecurity (especially when dating...when married it's because our husbands don't listen ;p)and I can totally understand why men can't handle that. Who want's to be the complete focus of someone's attention?

We are praying for you Dwarfina! If you want to talk about it we are always there for a qucik coffee!

Is it Pikey that with a new id. But Pikey is not a scousers fan like MBK isnt it?

s-isale..lol

I beg to differ.. We love to be smothered - as long as we can breathe :O)

i hope this will be easy for me, especially for the next couple of days... :(

at least we parted as friends and not as enemies..

Pikey is very much here..:)

It was not ill meant, I swear. It must be Freud ;)

Good morning and good day ahead! ciao

HGL ..I guess notsoglad tried to highlight the issue that they are looking for serious relationships in a not so serious place!

wheres Pikey?

MBK... its there life, I have no issues....just felt a bit odd on the update part.

Dwarfina, May I also add, The more you want them the less they need you, The less you want them the more they need you!

words of wisdom from our own QL Agony Aunt!. :)

I just always though the Filipina girls were a little to 'easy' to approach but because they are looking for a serious relationship.

Honestly, I used to HATE them smiling/flirting shamelessly to accompanied men!!!, but with the time I realised they do look for a serious companion and well, to get a prince you ought to kiss many frogs I reckon.

LOL

That's too bad Dwarfina, but consider it a learning experience. Men don't like to be smothered anymore than you would.

Work on being happy with yourself. The moment you stop needing a man, is the moment they decide they need you.

Yes Good on your girl..Time is healer and you have time to reflect!

You life is quite tense at the moment, a bf who does not care and a Touchy boss who cares too much..

Good move..

At least there will be no war now and the heart will have time to heal :o(

notsoglad.. Thats is far as it goes. I used to know them through other groups and I'm old enough to know how a friend behaves and how a bf..:)

Enough said on this topic..back to D..fina dilema!

Are you sure they are they boyfriends and not just friends? People tend to be so ill-minded....Why would they tell you Milky_BarKid? to make you keen or to warn you to stay away... that really puzzles me, ....

happygolucky..she said that she said she proud to be a filipina! I guess filipina are very emotional and open about their relationships.

I even know a number of filipina girls who have two boyfriends on the go!

Not saying all are like that but there are always some rotten apples in a basket!

Yes, I just tracked down some of mine, OMG!! LOL

ANyway, nice to have the input of so many different minds...

You girls always amaze me by posting such details of your personal life on such forums and still look for a sensible someone to be there in your life.

just an update...we already call it off last night...

still need to assess myself for all of those reactions, nagging & temper...need to fix the root cause of it...

and we thought we better be this way than ruining even the friendship that we once had...

its true...to be honest i am now afraid i might already lost him...it might be too late now...

ive been too demanding, too possesive and with too much expectation of a very romantic and having the kind of a perfect relationship with the kind of perfection on my own perspective.

that was so nice to hear...

that was really what i need to do...

i do admit my mistakes, i am the one to blame here for i am so narrow minded at times...

promise to make it up to him and do the things the right way now...

its a relief...

And at times its the too much possessiveness which irritates us. I once filled the palm of my hand with some water and held it before my girl, and said this: “You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love.”

This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand gently open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds. This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love. They try to posses, own, demand, and expect… and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you. For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Men are not complicated when it comes to relationships. They say what the mean and mean what they say. Men hate to be on a leash. Trust him, love him and let him have his own time and space. He will appreciate it. Otherwise, you will lose him.

We are most of the time clear on what we want. It is either black or white. We do not have hidden meanings, etc.

When I got married, I told my wife the following: If you have something to say, say it. Do not allude to it, because I might miss it. Just say it. do not say something and mean the opposite. We have been married for 8 years now, with no issues.

She knows how to tell me how she feels and what she wants.

Aah, she gives me my space. If I am out late with friends or at work, she doesn't text or call. I always tell her bad news travels fast. So, if something happens to me she will know. So, relax, go to bed and do not stay up waiting.

On the other hand, I do not over do it, either. I spend quality time with her and the kids. But, I get my breathing space.

good luck.

I'm sorry to say that you are one who put themselves into perplexity. Must know that life is shorter than that lost in grief, so you should you take life simply and happily ..... Then the word of love carries all the meanings of life like beautiful and miserable. An example feeling , need for another, love crying and needs

the more you squeeze men the more they let go. so give some space.

thanks to all your comments guys...maybe i still need to learn more in dealing with relationships. a newbie. yah, maybe i am a nagger...i think i could learn from you.

and cheer up guys, this was posted in funnies...

hence, at least i see some point from mens perspective...

and hey, i am always proud to be a filipina...

and he's my bf by the way...

hmmmm when men said that he is bzy..he might be really bzy thats y he didnot reply emails, or text or call.but whenever he gets little free time he will first reply ur emails, calls n all.sometimes they actually mean that they were bzy.

n if u want explaination then believe what he is saying.

if he is taking blame of his fault.then it means he want to end the argument n agrees that it was his fault , he will take care next time.

i am sure his reactions would reflect your treatment to him. if u are good to him, and still he is bad to you then surely he is to blame, otherwise - good luck to you!

The truth is he is nomore interested in a nagging partner like you.

Has to be MilkyBar. No woman could be this needy!

me thinks its a troll on the loose!

men hate the nagging girl. we are men right but need good support. a girl that will understand us and see only the positive in the relation. if ur partner is a nagging type am sure he can find 100's of things in u to nag about so ... stop being confused.be decisive.understand more ur partner and thats it.

oh by the way and we hate jealous women!unless its a normal jealousy but it comes to doubt and excess of jealousy be sure if the man will not broke up with u he ll be cheating.

FS, and not all men are the same either, but:

"And then the usual explanation that we got is “I forgot”, “I am too busy”…etc etc…over and over again"

You know what? We're blokes. Sometimes we do forget. sometimes we are busy. Sometimes we are just stuck for something to say, so we say nothing. Deal with it!

"And when we bug you for explanations over and over,"

Then don't bug us over and over - we don't like it!!

"I want to know the truth, but sometimes I realize that when I pissed off my partner, he just tend to agree to all things I say just to stop the argument, he tends to accept all the fault, all the blame, even its very obvious that he was just faking it and he was saying it sarcastically at my face."

Yep, we do that to stop you nagging and get you off our backs.

We're blokes. We just want an easy life.

How'd you guess that Wikileaks? :P

Talk for yourself, not all woman are like you!

Partner you mean a husband or boyfriend can you be more specific so we can understand your dilema!

Stop being a control freak!

and why is it posted in funnies ?

I think you need to stop being a nagging bi*** just because he hasn't texted or called you for an afternoon. Jeez, people have lives you know.