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I have been here in doha for a year and half but I have to go back to my country and work and leave my husband behind. He is behaving strangely nowadays. He likes talking about defending men who are cheating on their wives, at times comes home very late and when I call to find out why he gets unexpectedly angry, stopped respecting me as his wife when i respect him, he even told me that my calls don't make sense and many other funny things. I have tolerated this for some time and I have no doubt he found himself a girlfriend coz he told me some time back how his workmates told him about how easy it is to have a girlfrind in qatar. This hurts me because this is a man who was so faithfull back home but he has changed all of a sudden. Am not working and he keeps his finances as top secret. I only see reciepts of thousands of riyals being withdrawned but i dont know how and were its being used. I have a good job in my country but i suspended it because i wanted to be with this man who doesn't appreciate when i do everything for him i don't have a maid and have a baby. We are not even saving when we could back home.
Now my point is I know am a woman and a wife, so i have to be with my husband, but who said wives dont get hurt. We have talked about it a couple of tims, but it seems its not getting anywhere. I know some of you might be saying if i leave he will enjoy with these girls, I say its better I die once by me going back to my country , work and forget about him than me dying everyday for ever by me staying with and continue experiencing this when he claims to be a very religious man.
To all you men who are treating your wives like this please stop coz you can be happy with your wife. Those girls out there only want your money and nothing else. If they can do it with you ,imagine how many men they have done it with. Just think of that day you begged for your wife's love before you got married and now you treat her that way. I know am not perfect, i have my own weaknesses. So QL pals am saying am going back home and thax for everything. Sorry for the long letter but i was just pouring out my grief and see if this can help some marriage some where.
dont close the door give one more chans try that deniy hem dont give any kine of attn and see what his reaction i think that as will as you do care about hem he will be like that but see the reaction once he lose that care and after that make your distion.
good luck
someone said god will help you...no god will help you..pls make your own decesions keeping in mind your kids and what would be the best for them at this moment.
ALl the best.
THE MOST POWERFUL ARMOUR FOR YOUR PROBLEM IS PRAYER..
GOD IS ALWAYS HERE FOR US...LEAVE IT ALL TO GOD.
I AM SURE THAT EVERYTHING FOLLOWS..
i understand u because i hv d same situation like u but im not yet confirm if he is in relation wd another lady...we have 2 kids now and we r not leaving in one house as of now...i dont know wat happen to our relationship ... he is different now not like before when we are starting our love....before is different from now present men like this...
i want to have separation also with him because we are just fighting and sometime it will come to hurt each other physical and emotional abusing each other...if your going to ask me if i still love him...my answer is yes.... i love him so much....thats why i have 2 kids fm him...but in our situation we are okey today but tomorrow expect dat we are fighting....i dont want to show to my kids and im feeling bad if my kids will see us like dis....i want also a good and happy family but im not sure i can stay with him foreever...same like u i want to go back to my own country but as of now im working and saving money for my kids if he will not change and not give us time and importance maybe i have to go.....people will say for d sake of d kids dont make any decision to leave but if d people dnt understand each other anymore dnt respect each other anymore its time to stop d relation...
:::they say make d relationship with d bachelor make d relation with the priest make d relation with the gay ....u can make relationship to anybody except relationship with family man....because with d family man ...u will destroy d life of the wife as well as d children...how many person life u will destroy????
I gone through your letter, and read it carefully,
Fact One:- the situation develops after your announcement that you are going back to you country for the job, or it was as before your announcement .
Fact Two:- You say your husband is religious .
Fact Three:- He started keeping his money secretly.
Fact Four:- You do everything for him u don’t have maid,,,,,,,,,,,
As per the fact one why you want to go back to ur country as you been here with him in Qatar, u did not justify ????? the main cause may be is your decision of going back, all the back ground and problem lies in these lines.
In similar type of family disturbed life men are very easily attracted to any women, if get a good response, remember a women even she knows that this man is married, she developed a relation, what ever the reasons are. To maintain a marriage life is very difficult for both sex, it required a very mature understanding, on the base of TRUST
The solution is with you. Don’t blame to any men or women, I really understand your problem, which is solvable, but need correct input. I think he is doing a revenging act, as he loves U.
I think you are commiting a great mistake by leaving him and giving him the opportunity to spoil his future and also the future of your family.
I hope he will get caught red-handed anytime wherein he will loose his pride and dignity and socially he will become statusless.
Just act like you are doing 'tit for tat'. Do not leave him... you too start chatting with male friends.. start going out with his fiends... hit the pride of the men by doing nasty things. You will see he will become straight soon.
I have been here in doha for a year and half but I have to go back to my country and work and leave my husband behind.
Lady choose one thing YOUR WORK OR YOUR HUSBAND.
Your husband (I guess is some where age of nearly FORTIES and this age for male highly volatile) & this is age where every male is fully matured and easily attrached by hot babes or say male are inneeds of females so U SHOULD BE with him( not only U all wife's in the dam world) coz this is time every male need some one to be him, if U R not Their,than he find some as UR hubby did.SO COME BACK & TAKE CARE OF UR HUBBY. I canot explain this more in detail's but belive it.
Hey... dont give up...Find out the girl and kick her out of ur life. afterall it is ur life and u should not give up because of the other girl... Try to be optimistic.. Life is urs... and as u explained he is a religious person... why dont u try to sit and talk with him... Most of the time its all silly things and misunderstandings.....try to sit and talk with him.....
Thanks
you can't leave like this...you can't simply quit...someone is stealing away your most precious thing in life and you will let her do that easily ??
Most of the time, the problem between husband and wife is due to misunderstanding and doubts. Why don't you try to reconcile? Talk to him openly. May be he has his own reasons.
"I have tolerated this for some time and I have no doubt he found himself a girlfriend coz he told me some time back how his workmates told him about how easy it is to have a girlfrind in qatar."
Really? As far as I know, it's not that easy for the guys to get a girlfriend in Qatar. Because competition is so stiff, unless they are just into casual relationships.
But you said your husband is a religious man? And used to be faithful? If it's a habit, it's unlikely to be changed that easily. Maybe he really wants you to stay and you were not listening? Good luck anyway.