advise from mothers

thankyou so much jaelee,

i shall remember all you have said.i am not in favor of amnio, bcos of the risks, its disturbing the foetus, so unless necessary why do it. but the scans will be done.

yup deep breaths, and enjoy yourself...take care

I paid 200 riyals a visit. (maybe 250 for the first???) This got me the usually pre-natal tests (urine, blood pressure) a consultation with Dr Adnan and a scan, with the video.

I had about 3 scans in total. Each one at critical times ... from memory that was around 13 weeks, 20 weeks then another at 28 weeks (this wasn't essential, but more for reassurance purposes).

I spoke to the Dr in depth about the triple test and he confirmed what I had already thought .. too many results come back wrong and women unnessarily advised to have an amnio, with a week of anxious waiting only to be told everything is fine (in the meantime you are stressed and also have placed the baby at unnessary risk doing the actual amnio).

I hope you get as much reassurance as me by doing these scans. You don't need to do too many ...

Again, I wish you good luck and good health to you and your family.

..... and deep breaths :-)

you have been an angel, thankyou so much.i know many who have had babies late, but no one says anything frankly, its all like, it will be fine.

i know i need to chill and most of the time i am fine, but at times my spilt takes over and drives me crazy. deep breath, yup i will remember.

i lovebeing a mom and taking care of a baby, i miss that already with my babies... which i s why i am sure of another baby insha'allah.

i will definitely check dr. adnan for the 4d scans.how many times did u go for it, and what is the cost of each scan...bcos i will definitely go for it.i was ready for an amnio during my first preg, but no place where they do it, except hamad, and they wont do it unless really necessary..moreover the risks of it, scared me, so you know till what lenght i can go.but 4d scan will be a real help.what matters ia knowing the baby is fine inside, bcos that nine month period is so mysterious, so many things going on, and yet we know very little.

enjoy being a mom, its a precious short period of time...

I think you need to relax and take a deep breath.

You are still young, you already have 2 healthy children (the birthmark on your child is not a health issue, just a cosmetic one) and with modern treatments today, they can do wonders.

If you and your husband are healthy, happy and both in agreement of another child .. you will be fine. Enjoy the pregnancy ... your children's age gaps will be ideal.

You can have these 4D scans (done in Doha with Dr Adnan ... just near the Doha Clinic Hospital, opposite the Thai Massage Centre - Ph: 435 8019 (he does not deliver) This will give you no end of reassurances. It did for me, plus you get to keep the video and see your baby growing at different stages .. great bonding time for both yourself and your husband .. you can even take the kids in if you wanted)

I was nervous about birth defects as I was an older mum, but the scans and doctors reassurances gave me confidence.

My emotions were in total turmoil for my last pregnancy as is was such a surprise. It was a difficult time for me ... but things are meant to be and we are so, so, happy to have her in our lives. I love being a mum.

Again, good luck, you really do need to chill a bit :-) Remember, deep breath.

God, just reading felt real nice, i have decided on going ahead with a third baby after maybe 3years.i kept a gap of 2 years between my two babies right now, i refer to my 3 yr old son also as my baby and my little girl is just one. the thing is my girl has a birth mark and a few problems that get associated with it, so i have regular checkups at hamad for her as routine, alhamdullilah all is fine, and in course of time she may require cosmetic surgery to remove her birthmark.the stress of this last one year got me real depressed about what will happen if i go for another kid, and got even more depressed bcos i was thinking of not having another kid, when all along i was sure i wanted 3 babies, if not 4. even now, when i see my daughter, i feel i need to go through the entire baby process all over again, i am getting too paranoid of something wrong repeating itself.and ofcourse the age related stuff and all that you get to hear about it.

insha'allah i would not have crossed 35 when i think of another baby, but i am just scared and am not sure that i wont go crazy in the nine months, bcos i am the type of person who goes to the extreme levels of care where health would be concerned.

i know of people, now yourself included, who have had babies at the age of 36, 40, but i couldnt ask them anything.my doctor too had advised me not to think too much as so many give birth and nothing goes wrong, but i am just a tad bit scared.my hubby is all for it, after a littel gap, but i am the one who puts the fear of age in his head, yet he is fine, he is much stronger than me, alhamdullilah.we both would love to have twins, its been our desire all along, so insha'allah we never know.

its like when i am in full mood and brave with all belief in the almighty, i would be like, i will have the baby, god will protect the baby, then when i become my little coward self, i am like, what if????what if????do you understand.

did u feel like this?

were u working when you were pregnant with the last two?

do you used to get stressed with it all?

did u do your 4d scan here in doha??

when you realised you were pregnant, how did you feel, i am sure you too were aware of the downsides of age,did it bother you too much?were you shocked, scared??

Han, if I was you ... go for it. Don't let the age thing bother you. I had my third at age 36 (a surprise) and then just scraped in at 39 and 11 months (another surprise!!) for my fourth.

For both pregnancies I was concerned ... but I was also concerned with my first two aswell. We all want a healthy baby and that's always on your mind no matter how old you are when you fall pregnant.

When I had my fourth here I mentioned to the doctor about being too old .. and he laughed and said not too old ...

Just keep yourself healthy. I had a 4D scan for abnormalites in my 4th pregnancy and this gave me great reassurance. I did have a few hiccups ... but it was not age related.

The only drawback I find is that I am a lot more tired than what I was when I had my other babies.

Also, I recently read an article about Australian births .. average age there is now 32 for first child.

If you have the desire, and your partner does too ... I say go for it.

I never, ever thought I would be a mother of 4 children ... but I am so, so happy I am. My children's ages are 13 (boy) 11 (girl) then 4 (boy) and a 9 months (girl) They all get on well, as I too was worried about the age gaps.

Good Luck with whatever decision you make.

i have 2 babies before 30, and i want to have a third, but after a few years, when i am in prime 30s, u know, but i am just paranoid about having a baby so late, they advise not to have babies late, and lots of women in the west have past 40s, but i am just not able to shake off my paranoia regarding the age factor.let me tell you at the outset, i am MISS PARANOIA, where health is concerned. i want to know, how was the pregnancy for you, how are the kids, did u have any problems during pregnancy, delivery, are your kids fine, is it necessary that things can go wrong if you are 35+. i know many women who have had babies plus35, but with me, i get jittery.i had bit of trouble with my second one and then i was totally, no more babies, after the stress of my second one, but i do want one more after a few years, and now i have opened up to the idea, its just the age factor that bothers me, is it really important.

ofcourse, what has to happen will always happen, but if i could just tune myself to think in the right direction....can you help me???

HI, had my first two babies in my twenties, then second two in my thirties. What did you want to know?