A close friend of mine used to as a child go through all this and more back in Jaffna,Sri Lanka during the war. I myself have experienced similar thrice in Colombo: during two air raids and when the mall opposite our home had a bomb planted. Thankfully we escaped every single one of these horrors..AlHamdulillah!
The fear of death is bad enough but when you couple it with the fear of losing your children it becomes something far more terrifying.