In our lives, in any relationship and we are not even talking about here of husband and wife,even friends, or in a girl-boy relationship to understand each feelings is indeed a long time to happened...
For a husband & a wife, it is an everyday learning of each true self and finally when you find out his/her true colors, that's the first of the meaning problems will start and this is because of EXPECTATIONS...
But,whatever...as COLT put it in a few words...he likes her woman on top! :)