or overly formal in the list of good manners. The first and basic one should be the reminder that etiquette isn't about impressing people, it is about not making others uncomfortable-and elbows on tables displace food, cutlery and glassware. Open mouths with food-well, duh. Non food items on the table-dirty-who would want that? If you need your phone/purse, put it in your lap with phone on vibrate mode. Purses get set on the floor in bathrooms, public places etc. You really want it where your forks are?

I never really got the bread/butter one, but I can live with it.