This goes for men as well as women; so it cuts both ways.
Some women think of the man more as a meal ticket than as a beloved. They are not to be judged for that. But, in those cases, being a second wife wouldn't really be a big problem, so long as he was providing.
Many Chinese women take it as a given that their husband will have a mistress, and don't mind so long as too much money that could go to her is not being drained in that direction.
But, in what men usually want from women, in cases where they are not simply in love - mating and bearing children - there will usually be an issue against sharing simply in that even if he is not jealous he will want to know that the kids are his.
Also, while I would not find cause to judge a woman who finds reason to accept being a second wife, it is hard not to think of a man who accepts sharing his wife as a very lowly sort of disgusting creature. At least those are my feelings.
This goes for men as well as women; so it cuts both ways.
Some women think of the man more as a meal ticket than as a beloved. They are not to be judged for that. But, in those cases, being a second wife wouldn't really be a big problem, so long as he was providing.
Many Chinese women take it as a given that their husband will have a mistress, and don't mind so long as too much money that could go to her is not being drained in that direction.
But, in what men usually want from women, in cases where they are not simply in love - mating and bearing children - there will usually be an issue against sharing simply in that even if he is not jealous he will want to know that the kids are his.
Also, while I would not find cause to judge a woman who finds reason to accept being a second wife, it is hard not to think of a man who accepts sharing his wife as a very lowly sort of disgusting creature. At least those are my feelings.